Feeling guilty about possible destination wedding.

Re: Feeling guilty about possible destination wedding.

• DolphinsGirl1 member

  

  August 2010

  I have the SAME issue. Except i am the one that wants to get married on the beach. Our compromises were, since we both want our grandparents and friends there and they cannot travel and due to money issues, we decided to bring the beach to us. We are having an outdoor backyard beach theme wedding in september. Sand and the whole bit. It wont be the same since its not AT the beach and there will not be water, but just feeling my toes in sand will be beachy enough for me. I am laid back as well, so i love the idea!
  
  HTH!! Good Luck!

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• JmeLee2011 member

  

  August 2010

   Thanks for posting!   That is a GREAT idea to add sand and bring the beach to you.  One of the main reasons i was leaning toward a beach wedding is because of the beautiful back drop in all the pictures and just the over all relaxed vibe of it.  Plus I just wanted something different than every wedding I have been to. ( I have been a brides maid and a MOH a total of 8 times now!) Sounds like you have great ideas to really make it your own. Best of luck to you also!

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• MVJP10

  

  August 2010

  A destination wedding doesn't have to be really far away.  I think there's a misconception that a DW has to be in Mexico or the Bahamas. Southern Alabama is right near the pan handle, right? You could go there.  Just because you want a beach doesn't mean you have to go 1,000 miles away or out of the country.  Bringing the beach to you is also a good idea 

  

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• trix1223 member

  

  August 2010

  Only you can really decide which means more to you:  the ambience of the ceremony venue, or celebrating with family and friends.  For me it would be a non-issue.  I'd take the celebrating with family and friends, and then choosing beach location for a honeymoon.
  
  And I'm going to speak here as someone who's been both MOG and MOB.  I would be completely crushed if I were not included in my children's weddings.  As I've said on other boards:  I would crawl across hot coals laced with broken glass to share our children's wedding day. 
  
  And I can only guess about grandparents.  I will say that my dad so enjoyed our kids' weddings, and was bitterly disappointed to not be able to attend my niece's.  He was such a proud grandpa at our son and DD's weddings. 
  

  "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146

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• stearnsas member

  

  August 2010

  I recently moved to Florida from Wisconsin and my fiance and I wanted to have a beach wedding... you know something different that our friends haven't really got to do.  We recently got engaged so I'm in the same boat as you as far as details, but so far we are planning on having a destination wedding in Florida (might as well use a beach since we live here ) and in the invites put the ceremony information and then information for the reception which will be at a later date in Wisconsin. That way if people can come to the ceremonyor if they can't afford the ceremony they can still come to the reception and help us celebrate. 

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• RMacQueen member

  

  August 2010

  I'm getting married in St. Croix, USVI over Christmas and understand how difficult destination weddings are to plan. When we first started planning we figured a small wedding of 30 people because we didn't think people would make the trip. Our small wedding of 30 is now a medium sized wedding of 80-90 people! If you give people enough time to prepare and save (we gave everybody a year) then chances are you can make it happen. We are also helping some of the people we absolutely want to be there with money for plane tickets and putting them up at our parents houses (both our sets of parents live there). But be warned, planning a destination wedding is a huge pain and much more difficult than planning one at home. My FI and I have both said that if we knew what we know now, we probably would have stayed home for the wedding. 

  
  

  
  

  Good luck with all your planning! 

  

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• tiffanym76 member

  

  August 2010

  Hi ladies!
  
  This is something I have personally been struggling with. I am from St. Louis, Missouri and met my fiance while living in South Florida and am looking into a wedding in the city we met for sentimental reasons to us. I know this would exclude some people, but, we have to remember this is our day and the meaning behind the location means a lot to us.
  
  That is where I came up with an idea. I have been researching options for destination weddings and there are options to have your wedding webcast live so that anyone who is not able to attend can watch you get married live online.
  
  I know this will be especially special for my father because he is unable to travel and lives in a nursing home.
  
  Hope this idea helps! Good luck!

  "The moon shines so brightly...but just not as bright as my heart does when I think about how much I love you," said by my honey, James.

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• JmeLee2011 member

  

  August 2010

  WOW, thanks for all the feedback, this really is a HUGE help.
  
  I still have a lot of decisions to make, but now I feel like I'm leaning a little more toward a family/friends wedding at home..then for our honeymoon, I'll pack my wedding dress and my future husbands outfit and take pictures on the beach....and plus I won't  have to worry about getting my dress dirty. lol   But either way I think we want a smaller wedding.
  
  The webcam idea is a great one also!!  Best of luck to everyone, thanks for giving me ideas and other thoughts.

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