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Dad's Blessing?
I'm not sure where to write this, but this board seemed like a good place.
I'm very close to my family and truly am my father's princess. Growing up I always wanted to be just like him. Bf and I have been talking about getting married for about two years now. Not intensive or detailed but very wistfully. He's asked my father for his blessing twice and my dad has said no both times. The first time I understand because we were only dating for a year but this time he didn't want bf interfering with my budding career, as he put it. My dad and my bf get along great and I think this is the first thing they've disagreed on.
I'm just not sure what to do about this. I know this is 2012 but my father means the world to me. I'm not sure if it would insult my dad if bf proposed without his permision after he's asked him twice. Thoughts or advice?
I'm very close to my family and truly am my father's princess. Growing up I always wanted to be just like him. Bf and I have been talking about getting married for about two years now. Not intensive or detailed but very wistfully. He's asked my father for his blessing twice and my dad has said no both times. The first time I understand because we were only dating for a year but this time he didn't want bf interfering with my budding career, as he put it. My dad and my bf get along great and I think this is the first thing they've disagreed on.
I'm just not sure what to do about this. I know this is 2012 but my father means the world to me. I'm not sure if it would insult my dad if bf proposed without his permision after he's asked him twice. Thoughts or advice?
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Re: Dad's Blessing?
1. Your dad probably isn't trying to get in the way of your happiness. If he's saying no, there's likely a good reason.
2. It's almost 2013. As long as you're at least 18, you don't need your dad's permission to get married. I get that dad's blessing is important to a lot of women, but sometimes you can't have everything.
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Hi and welcome to the board! I agree with PPs this is probably something you should talk to your dad about.
[QUOTE]I'm not sure where to write this, but this board seemed like a good place. I'm very close to my family and truly am my father's princess. Growing up I always wanted to be just like him. Bf and I have been talking about getting married for about two years now. Not intensive or detailed but very wistfully. He's asked my father for his blessing twice and my dad has said no both times. The first time I understand because we were only dating for a year <strong>but this time he didn't want bf interfering with my budding career, as he put it. </strong>My dad and my bf get along great and I think this is the first thing they've disagreed on. I'm just not sure what to do about this. I know this is 2012 but my father means the world to me. I'm not sure if it would insult my dad if bf proposed without his permision after he's asked him twice. Thoughts or advice?
Posted by SingMelody[/QUOTE]
You're 26 at this point how does your Dad think your BF will interfere with your budding career? I agree with PP that you really should sit and talk with your dad and explain to him what you are doing with your career and how your BF will not affect it. On the flip side you are 26 and this is the 21st century. Its ok not to have a blessing but not the end of the world. Well that's actually tomorrow....
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I agree with the other wise ladies here. You need to sit down with your dad and talk to him. Ask him what his concerns are and hear him out. He may have some valid reasons for wanting to see you wait. If he simply doesn't want to let his little girl go...that's something you need to address. You are an adult. You are perfectly capable of making your own decisions here.
Of course everyone wants the people in their lives to support their relationship. If your dad's approval is the most important thing though, you might want to take a step back and ask yourself why. To me, choosing to get married is choosing to put that person ahead of all others in your life. Your husband will be your partner from here on out. If your dad is still going to be #1 in your eyes, maybe you're not as ready for marriage as you think you are.
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