sooo a friend of mine who was close in high school (mind you, i am 25 now) lives in another city from our hometown now, five hours away. she has a very fast-paced job and rarely has time to come back to our hometown. i rarely see her (maybe once-twice a year) and we rarely catch up on the phone. when i attempt to get in touch, she shoots me back an email about how busy at work she is, and when she IS in our hometown, she makes it very difficult to make plans although she insists she wants to get together.) when we DO get together, i find that we have nothing to talk about after about 20 minutes. my wedding is in four months, and she recently received the save-the-date. she sent me an email telling me how cute it was, and asked detals on the wedding (dress, church, colors), and asked who was in the wedding party. i kind of danced around the issue, because a friend of ours who WAS a 'mutual' friend, although the mutual friend and i were always a little closer, is in the wedidng party. i emailed back, skipping around that question, and she emailed back more questions, and asked again who was in the wedding party. i finally told her, and she sent me yet another email bakc saying "glad so-and-so is in your wedding party, but i thought i was close enough to you to be up there with you on your big day too!!" ... im a little shocked! we rarely see each other, and when we do, she always has snooty comments to make about other friends we had from high school, we have nothing to talk about BUT high school, and she makes it difficult to hang out. (she mentioned last time she was in town wanting to come see mynew house ... which is half an hour away from our hometown. i suggested she come by a certain day, and she wanted me to come get her, bring her BACK to my house, then bring her back home... would have involved 2 hours of driving for me, and she got a little snippy when i said i couldnt do it!) what would you SAY to this???? i still havent responded to her email. i dont find us to be close at ALL and im suprised she does. and the reason for the 'mutual' friend being in the wedding, is that, although she also has moved away from our hometown (2 hours) and i dont see her much, when i DO see her, we ARE still close, and it is comfortable, and not awkward to hang out with her. how do i answer that???