Hello All,
Let me preface this by saying I'm currently stuck in the quagmire that is my dissertation, which at the moment is causing more stress than the wedding. I'm trying my hardest to be a calm, laid-back bride, so if this turns out to be me having a stress-induced Bridezilla moment, please tell me.
I was just curious as to how important you all think the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner are. I thought they were pretty important, and that all wedding party members needed to attend. I think my fiance has a different view.
A few weeks ago he mentioned that the readers didn't need to come; I told him that yes, they did, and the church hand-out even SAYS they should be there. His response was that if his reader couldn't make it in time, he wasn't going to push it, because "everyone else's lives don't stop for our wedding."
Today, I get an email from him that one of the groomsmen has scheduled his flight to arrive at 7pm on Friday, but might change to a later flight. The wedding is 2pm Saturday. Again, when I brought up this might be a problem, he responded, "their lives won't stop for our wedding."
Now, of course I realize this is true. I guess I just felt that, when you are in the wedding party, there is an extra level of expectation. Bridesmaids have to buy dresses, groomsmen rent tuxes, and everyone has to come a day earlier. I'm having to do so for a wedding in two weeks. Would it be more convenient to go down the day of the wedding? Of course. But I'm a bridesmaid, and that means being there for the dinner.
Sorry this turned out to be much longer than I originally planned. Any feedback, including "Take a Chill Pill!" will be appreciated. I just figured I should get some non-biased opinions before discussing it with him.