My fiance and I live in Arizona. We are having a destination wedding in Mexico with immediate family and very few close friends (30 people total including us and our 3 kids). We are also throwing 2 receptions when we get back from the wedding. One in WI (where I'm from and most of my family), and one in AZ for all of our friends. These will not be backyard receptions, we are renting out venues...
One of my friends is offering to throw me a Bridal Shower, but I've read that it is tacky to invite people to this who are not invited to the actual wedding. My friend throwing the shower is not invited to Mexico, and understands that we have to keep that very small.
Is it bad ettiquite to have a shower in my situation?