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Bringing FI dress shopping

MplsBride12MplsBride12 member
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in Minnesota-Minneapolis and St. Paul
I wanted to get opinions on bringing your FI dress shopping, as I am considering it heavily. In many ways, we are not a traditional couple and are not having your typical traditional wedding, so I don't even know why I am so concerned about this aspect! I have been showing him pictures of me in gowns that I like from different places, but I am feeling this need to see his face-to-face reaction. I want something that makes his jaw drop, and I think that would happen moreso in person than in a picture. I would kind of like him to see me in the dresses that I like so I can take his feedback into account but then not tell him which one I end up choosing until the wedding day when he sees me. 

Has anyone had any overwhelmingly good or bad experience with this?

Thanks!
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Re: Bringing FI dress shopping

  • RebeccaJacRebeccaJac
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    edited December 2011
    I didn't take FI with. Honestly, I don't think guys care as much as we think they do. He's going to do the jaw-drop because it's you... in a wedding dress... on your wedding day. I think it has less to do with the dress and more to do with you in the dress. 
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  • SuperRNluvsChefSuperRNluvsChef
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto PP.  Just pick a dress that flatters YOU!  And he'll love it, trust me Laughing
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  • MrsBassPlayaMrsBassPlaya member
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    edited December 2011
    His reaction, regardless of which dress you choose, will be astonishment at your absolute beauty.  :)  If you really want him there, and he would also like to be there, then I don't really see anything wrong with it, but it wouldn't be my first suggestion.  Question?  Why are you showing him pics of you in different gowns?  Do you want him to basically "choose" the dress?  I showed FI different gowns from magazines and asked if he liked them or not so I could get a feel for the kinds of things he liked and didn't like to make sure I was steering myself in the right direction.  If I had brought my FI, he would have pretty much picked the dress that showed off my boobs the most.  So, hopefully if you do bring your FI, he's a little more selective than mine.

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  • colstj1colstj1 member
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    edited December 2011
    You can bring him dress shopping if you want, but that might not be somethin he is interested in. I agree with the others that his jaw will most likely drop because he knows you will look beautiful no matter what your dress looks like.  I personally am more traditional and don't want my FI seeing my dress before our wedding day. But if you want to take him along go for it.
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  • EmilyCMNEmilyCMN
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    edited December 2011
    I ended up doing both. I went to several shops with my mom and cousin and the one shop that I found my dress at FI happened to be with and saw me in it... So basically I didn't lead on how much I like the dress and I tried on another dress that we also really liked and then we left. Later I went back with my mom and cousin and MIL to try it again and purchased it. I did not tell FI which dress I bought, at the time I was stuck between two dresses so I just never said which one it was. I  think he was happily surprised when he finally got to see me in the dress and I am sure he had forgotten what it looked like anyway. I think in his mind it was more of a casual sun dress... I really value my H, then FI's opinion too and felt much more comfortable with the purchase knowing that he liked the dress b/c it was not a traditional dress.

    I found that FI had a lot of opinions so for the dresses I did like from other shops I would write down the dress numbers and I compiled them all for him to see later and if he didn't like one based on the internet picture I took it out of the mix. I found that to be an easy way to get his likes and dislikes without having to drag him along.
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  • FutureMrsSheelerFutureMrsSheeler
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    edited December 2011
    I didn't take my FI and he isn't seeing the dress until the wedding day... I have a hard time keeping it a secret, so if it wasn't for him wanting to keep it a secret, I probably would have showed him already!
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  • graysquirrelgraysquirrel member
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    edited December 2011
    Is your FI really that interested in picking your dress? I was not worried about mine seeing the dress and showed it to him repeatedly before our wedding, so I understand what you mean about not caring about the keep it secret traditions. But like pps said, some guys just don't care or get overwhelmed. If your FI is the type who wants to see you in a particular dress and knows what he'd like and what looks best on you, then he might like it. Or if you had 2 or 3 for him to choose from, but I don't think that I'd make an average bloke go through hours of dress searching. 
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