Chit Chat?

Zimsgirl · May 2012

What's everyone up to? I feel like the board has been dead lately!

AmandaSC1988 · May 2012

I have been SOOOOO busy at work.....I guess giving them a "Yes I will be here for X more months" means they can start giving me projects. I love it. But super busy.

I am currently (well not ATM) cleaning the crap out of my apartment....I can't wait to get out of this hell hole But packing is pretty hard to find motivation to do... Especially when I would rather be thinking about H coming home.....the HM.

Or sleep....

Zimsgirl · May 2012

When are you going on your HM? I'm cleaning some tonight as well. We're heading to our parents this weekend because my brother is graduating HS. Final meetings with our priest and reception venue are this weekend as well!

This weekend could not come soon enough. I had a week from hell at work and thankfully we are closed Fridays

lrh17 · May 2012

Hey girls! I worked today, and I am exhausted for some reason so I've just been taking it easy. I bought a car this week, so I had to get all the crap together for the loan. Now the dealer just has to locate the car I want since they didn't have it....I'm excited!

So H is currently on TDY, but we are PCSing when he comes homes home this summer. He had a briefing today on PCSing, but after he told me the information I was just more confused. He is planning on taking some leave, and is allowed to take a permissive TDY I know the PTDY is to find a place to live, but he says that once we sign a lease he has to start working (or take more leave) even if the 10 days aren't up yet. But how quickly can you usually move in after signing a lease? Is he going to already be working when we're trying to get settled? We're doing a DITY move, so we're going to have to find some place to store our stuff. Ugh....I'm so stressed out about all this right now because I have no idea how it works. So if anyone is around who wants to explain it to me like I'm 5, that would be great!

kara811 · May 2012

H is coming back very soon after a month of being gone, I'll only have him for like a day-dayish because he's going back out again but he'll be home nonetheless so I am very excited! Then when he gets back from this next short underway, he'll be on leave for pom period and we have some very exciting and fun plans! I cannot wait for it all, I took a couple weeks off work for it!

ggirl2001 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]Hey girls! I worked today, and I am exhausted for some reason so I've just been taking it easy. I bought a car this week, so I had to get all the crap together for the loan. Now the dealer just has to locate the car I want since they didn't have it....I'm excited! So H is currently on TDY, but we are PCSing when he comes homes home this summer. He had a briefing today on PCSing, but after he told me the information I was just more confused. He is planning on taking some leave, and is allowed to take a permissive TDY I know the PTDY is to find a place to live, but he says that once we sign a lease he has to start working (or take more leave) even if the 10 days aren't up yet. But how quickly can you usually move in after signing a lease?<strong> </strong> Is he going to already be working when we're trying to get settled? We're doing a DITY move, so we're going to have to find some place to store our stuff. Ugh....I'm so stressed out about all this right now because I have no idea how it works. So if anyone is around who wants to explain it to me like I'm 5, that would be great!
Posted by lrh17[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I can't answer all your questions since we didn't PCS, I just moved to his duty station while he was deployed. I also found the apartment though. I moved in on April 28th, I also signed my lease that day. I found the place to live and put an app in and was approved in the beginning of April, but did not sign my lease til the day I got my keys and was ready to move in. If he is working, its not the end of the world. It would suck for you for a bit, but its possible. H was gone when I was getting settled in. </div><div>
</div><div>I am not sure about the moving questions and storage, but I know some other ladies have that experience.

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AmandaSC1988 · May 2012

Zim - the first week in June.

I just want to vent a little bit about the Navy. I am not annoyed by the fact that H has to stay on the boat longer.... Or even that the Navy makes them pull into a different port and denies their flights home, making them have to rent cars..... No...not annoyed by that....(Okay, sort of annoyed by that last one...) I am annoyed that they have changed their plans 5 times within the last week. So... now I have this really nice non- refundable hotel suite all to myself....

lrh17 · May 2012

Thanks for the info gg...thats good to know. He said he would have some In processing to do, and that might mean half days for a little. I know its not the end of the world of he's working before we're settled bc I'm sure a lot of people deal with that. I'm just a little overwhelmed thinking about everything at once!

kara811 · May 2012

Lrh17: I believe you actually can't take house hunting leave until you have checked in to the new command, or while you are in your current one right now. So even if he's checked in to work already, he can still take time off to find a house and sign a lease. Like Sara, once you sign the lease and get your key then you can start moving in already. Since your H will be new to this command, he might be able to ask for a day off even to move your stuff in the new place. I would actually start making appointments with housing you would like to look at and get those appointments for the same day preferably for right when you get there, this way you can get the application process started right away and could move in sooner.

lrh17 · May 2012

Kara, the plan is for him to check into his new command when we get there, and then his PTDY will start. I've been doing research online, but I am going to start making the calls as soon as we have a specific date for our arrival. Phew, I feel a little better now. I'm used to signing leases well in advance of when I actually move in, but it's good to know we'll hopefully get things to move a lot faster. Thanks!

Beachy730 · May 2012

LRH- How much leave does he have? When we did our PCS that H was there for, we used up every day of H's leave because we knew he was going on deployment when he got there. So we knew that between the travel days and his leave days we had say 30 days total. We took his check in no later than date, counted back 30 days, and that was the day he checked out of his old command. Then we had a few days at home with people and started our move so that we had plenty of time to get settled and unpacked before he checked in.

You can take your house hunting leave at any point once you have orders. It is a max of 10 days, but can only be a M-F. So he could do a weekend, then the full week and following weekend for a max of 10 days. If he doesn't want to use it til he gets there, that is fine as well. Once he checks into the command though and his leave is up then expect that he will be at work everyday.

Amanda- Sorry about your hotel room. I guess consider it a hard lesson on never doing anything non-refundable, or booking too far in advance. H's homecoming date has changed 3 times, will be out an extra 3 months, and has no set date yet for homecoming. We learned real quick though never to do anything non-refundable, or not to book anything until the last minute and deal with higher prices. It sucks, but it is what it is.

AmandaSC1988 · May 2012

Beachy - live and learn. The stinky part about it is I had JUST gotten it, that is why it is non-refundable, you have to cancel 2 days in advance...then a few hours later I get the email... Oh poo! At least I'll have a king sized bed and can sleep sideways and no one will care.

But I hear you on the dates changing, it is hard for a "planner" like me to get used to... We did not intend to set our wedding up so close to a long cruise/work ups. We actually moved it up several months because our original wedding date was a within a few months of his deployment, and I didn't want him to leave soon after we got married....We move it... and the Navy moves their dates up again! Just gotta roll with the punches sometimes. I know I probably complain about it a lot here, but in general I'm actually okay with all of this, it will make great stories to laugh about someday.

crownsuperstar · May 2012

Irh- I dont know anything about the whole looking for houses and leave however, I have to say I am in the same boat with you. Although now I am tasked with putting H's house on the market in a really crappy housing market. We may just have to rent it...not that either one of us want to do that. Oh well such as life. Again, I just look at it as an adventure

We are not sure yet where H is going. There are only a few locations that he can be sent so to be nosey, I am looking at houses to rent in those areas. Bascially doing research I guess as I want to see what is out there in those areas. Looking at the houses I have started to plan what I want our "forever" home to look like when he retires. HAAAA Like I said I am a planner. HAA

AmandaSC1988 · May 2012

Oh.. I don't know if anyone is big basketball fans...but one of the Laker's players changed his name to "Metta World Peace" last year. And I generally found this picture pretty funny... and the fact that this guy's name is "World Peace" (Not that guy... that is a OKC thunder player)

Irishcurls · May 2012

Oh yeah, then Metta got suspended for throwing a *nasty* elbow. Very peaceful.

lrh17 · May 2012

Crown, I am definitely a planner as well! I feel like I've come a long way already with being flexible with the military, but there are still some aspects I haven't gotten used to. I have totally started planning our post-military home too

Are there any websites you have found particularly useful to find a place to rent? We're looking more for a townhouse or apartment and I've been using ahrn, rent.com, and padmapper. There are actually a ton of places available so I'm trying to narrow it down.

Beach, H is planning on taking about 10 days of leave total which leaves him with a couple days left in case an emergency arises. He is at training right now, so his leave starts the day he graduates. He will come back to our hometown to visit with family and friends, and will have to take his PTDY once we get to our new location. We'll probably break his leave up between before and after house-hunting. So he was telling me that once we sign a lease, PTDY is over even if the 10 days aren't up. Does that sound right, or are you guaranteed the whole 10 days?

kara811 · May 2012

Feel free to bash Ron Artest, that's his real name and he is so ridiculous! Now if you say anything about LAL then it's on biitches. I bleed purple and gold!

AmandaSC1988 · May 2012

The knock out incase anyone wants to see this "peaceful' man in action... at first I thought he was just waving his arms... but no... that is an eblow to the face..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=86pxEMPfKII

Kara-
HAHAHA. Don't worry, while I am a big fan, I don't really smack talk ...I'm just excited we aren't the worst team in the NBA anymore. There was a couple of years where we lost most of our games...but hey... tickets were $10....Should have gotten season tickets then. Darn it.

crownsuperstar · May 2012

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[QUOTE]Crown, I am definitely a planner as well! I feel like I've come a long way already with being flexible with the military, but there are still some aspects I haven't gotten used to. I have totally started planning our post-military home too =) Are there any websites you have found particularly useful to find a place to rent? We're looking more for a townhouse or apartment and I've been using ahrn, rent.com, and padmapper. There are actually a ton of places available so I'm trying to narrow it down. Beach, H is planning on taking about 10 days of leave total which leaves him with a couple days left in case an emergency arises. He is at training right now, so his leave starts the day he graduates. He will come back to our hometown to visit with family and friends, and will have to take his PTDY once we get to our new location. We'll probably break his leave up between before and after house-hunting. So he was telling me that once we sign a lease, PTDY is over even if the 10 days aren't up. Does that sound right, or are you guaranteed the whole 10 days?
Posted by lrh17[/QUOTE]

I have been looking at militarybyowner.com. They have some really great houses. Oh and here is my dream home for our post military house...(incase you wanted to see) <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /> Yes I have it booked marked. Oh and built on the marsh. A girl can dream right?

<img id="main-img" style="width:312px;height:159px;visibility:visible;opacity:1;" src="http://www.standout-cabin-designs.com/images/cottage-style-house-plans9.JPG" alt="Image Detail" title="See Floor Plans & More Exterior Photos Of This Beach Cottage!" width="490" height="294" />

AmandaSC1988 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Chit Chat? : I have been looking at militarybyowner.com. They have some really great houses. Oh and here is my dream home for our post military house...(incase you wanted to see) Yes I have it booked marked. Oh and built on the marsh. A girl can dream right?
Posted by crownsuperstar[/QUOTE]

Can I live with you? I'll be your maid, cook, gardener.... or something...

Haha soo pretty.

crownsuperstar · May 2012

haa yeah of course this is just a dream and not in our budget I am sure. HAAA Of course I can scale it down!!!! HAAAA I best get to saving.

Beachy730 · May 2012

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[QUOTE] Beach, H is planning on taking about 10 days of leave total which leaves him with a couple days left in case an emergency arises. He is at training right now, so his leave starts the day he graduates. He will come back to our hometown to visit with family and friends, and will have to take his PTDY once we get to our new location. We'll probably break his leave up between before and after house-hunting. <strong> So he was telling me that once we sign a lease, PTDY is over even if the 10 days aren't up. Does that sound right, or are you guaranteed the whole 10 days?</strong>
Posted by lrh17[/QUOTE]

<div>I have never heard of that. I really don't know how they could/would enforce it, since unless you are signing a lease with military housing they really wouldn't know what day you signed it. Both moves I've done we have used our house hunting leave while still at the old duty station. The first move H didn't even get his house hunting leave approved in time so his command had him use regular leave days, then used house hunting leave for the week of our wedding. The second move we went under contract to buy a house halfway into the trip and no leave days were cancelled. </div>

lrh17 · May 2012

In Response to Re:Chit Chat?:In Response to Re: Chit Chat?: Beach, H is planning on taking about 10 days of leave total which leaves him with a couple days left in case an emergency arises.nbsp; He is at training right now, so his leave starts the day he graduates.nbsp; He will come back to our hometown to visit with family and friends, and will have to take his PTDY once we get to our new location.nbsp; We'll probably break his leave up between before and after househunting.nbsp; So he was telling me that once we sign a lease, PTDY is over even if the 10 days aren't up.nbsp; Does that sound right, or are you guaranteed the whole 10 days?Posted by lrh17I have never heard of that. nbsp;I really don't know how they could/would enforce it, since unless you are signing a lease with military housing they really wouldn't know what day you signed it. nbsp;Both moves I've done we have used our house hunting leave while still at the old duty station. nbsp;The first move H didn't even get his house hunting leave approved in time so his command had him use regular leave days, then used house hunting leave for the week of our wedding. nbsp;The second move we went under contract to buy a house halfway into the trip and no leave days were cancelled. nbsp; Posted by Beachy730 Well that's good to know. I feel like he is not getting the correct information or is misinterpreting what they told him. It didn't make sense to me either so I'll bug him to get clarification! Crown, that house is amazing and I want it haha!

Beachy730 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]Beachy - live and learn. The stinky part about it is I had JUST gotten it, that is why it is non-refundable, you have to cancel 2 days in advance...then a few hours later I get the email... Oh poo! At least I'll have a king sized bed and can sleep sideways and no one will care. But I hear you on the dates changing, it is hard for a "planner" like me to get used to... We did not intend to set our wedding up so close to a long cruise/work ups. We actually moved it up several months because our original wedding date was a within a few months of his deployment, and I didn't want him to leave soon after we got married....We move it... and the Navy moves their dates up again! Just gotta roll with the punches sometimes<strong>. I know I probably complain about it a lot here, but in general I'm actually okay with all of this, it will make great stories to laugh about someday.</strong>
Posted by AmandaSC1988[/QUOTE]

<div>Well I'm glad to hear that you are okay with it, because yeah, from your posts I have honestly been worried about how your handling it. Like I said before I know we only are aware of what you post so we don't hear a lot of things or see how you're handling it. But when you say things like I should be cleaning but would rather be thinking about H coming home, or other similar things, it makes me want to recommend you get some counseling because it sounds like you're sitting in a deep depression. I know we all complain sometimes, and it seems like here is a safe place to complain because everyone pretty much goes through the same things. But at the same time it gets to the point where you start thinking ok, we're all going through similar things or have been there, and you seem to be taking it much harder. Just make sure that you keep your negativity about it or complaining to a minmum (I mean in general, not telling you what to post on here), because I know 100% that the more negative you are about it the harder it is and the longer it seems. We all need to vent at times, absolutely, but dwelling on the shitty things only makes you upset and sad, and doesn't do anything about getting them home sooner.</div>

Kanuckle · May 2012

lrh, my FI was told the same thing about PTDY, but I can't say for sure how it works because when he got to his new post his supervisor told him to basically take whatever time he needed to get settled in, so he took the full 10 days anyway. But my initial understanding was that he would have to return to work immediately after signing a lease. Seemed weird to me, too, but that's what he was told.

CAB1217 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]Oh.. I don't know if anyone is big basketball fans...but one of the Laker's players changed his name to "Metta World Peace" last year. And I generally found this picture pretty funny... and the fact that this guy's name is "World Peace" (Not that guy... that is a OKC thunder player)
Posted by AmandaSC1988[/QUOTE]

OH HELL NO YOU DIDN'T MAKE FUN OF MY TEAM!!!?!?!?!?!?!!!!!

Ok but seriously Artest (I will NEVER call him Metta World Peace) is an idiot.

GO LAKERS!!!! And, start winning, please? PLEASE?!?! We need Fisher back. Sigh.

kara811 · May 2012

Omg Cab. I was.so depressed with that last game!!! Ugh.

CAB1217 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]Omg Cab. I was.so depressed with that last game!!! Ugh.
Posted by kara811[/QUOTE]

I was SOOOOO MAD at Kobe. He fuccked up twice in the end with those turn overs, but then gets mad at Blake for missing the 3 in the end? STFU Kobe.

PS I hate Bynum. Just needed to add that in there.

divinemsbee · May 2012

I cannot believe (in a good way) that my friend is getting married in two days. I've known her since she was 3 (I was really close with her big sis since kindergarten). I know I'm going to cry.

I'm running around trying to get the house in some semblance of order so that our friends who are coming in don't think we live like heathens. Of course cleaning hasn't been high on the priority list since FI got home, so I'm blitzing the important parts and just moving all the clothes to our room.

And the "tacky dress" bachelorette tomorrow night promises to be a good time!

kara811 · May 2012

Cab: I cant quote on mobile. Anyway just slant things went wrong towards the end there. It was depressing. Haha. Blake did miss a wide open shot though so I hated that. That should have been D.Fish!! And I just HATE Bynum. J curse him out in every game.

AmandaSC1988 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Chit Chat? : OH HELL NO YOU DIDN'T MAKE FUN OF MY TEAM!!!?!?!?!?!?!!!!! Ok but seriously Artest (I will NEVER call him Metta World Peace) is an idiot. GO LAKERS!!!! And, start winning, please? PLEASE?!?! We need Fisher back. Sigh.
Posted by CAB1217[/QUOTE]

Not making fun of the team, just Mr. World Peace.

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