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It is currently 8 days past the rsvp due date - I have two people who haven't rsvpd and one person who didn't know if they were bringing a guest. Do you think I'm safe to count them as nos (or no guest) at this point?

We've tried getting an answer on more than one occcasion. And honestly I'm tired of nagging Dan to harass people (they're all on his side). And I know Dan's tired of harassing people.
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  • Lakerchic7272Lakerchic7272 member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't know about you, but my reception hall will count people on their way in regardless and charge us acorrding to that (they plan for plus or minus 5% of my final count). So I guess I would just count them as yes's to be safe versus sorry (esp if you are doing seating charts) and if they don't show up then not the end of the world.
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  • FrancesvmFrancesvm
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with PP, air on the side of safe because if they do show up and there is not a place for them or escort card, it may be kind of awkward for you and them. It's only 4 people so hopefully it won't be too big of a deal whether they show up or not :))
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  • leeshab1982leeshab1982 member
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    edited December 2011
    Slackers stink!  But I would count them as yes's just to be safe. 
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  • Sue-n-KevinSue-n-Kevin member
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    edited December 2011
    Most caterers allow you to change the count up to about 3 days before the wedding when you have to provide a final count. Say "yes" for them, and see what happens.
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  • Knottie1435582995Knottie1435582995 newb
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    edited December 2011
    Don't feel bad, we're 4 days past our RSVP date and I've got 40 invites still floating out there.  Time to start the phone calls tonight after work, and I'm SO not looking forward to it.  Bright side:  At least you only have two :)

    I'm with the everyone else, I'd count them as attending just to be on the safe side.
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  • Julz629Julz629 member
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    edited December 2011

    What about the fact that there are usually a few people who RSVP yes and don't come?  For my sister's wedding 295 RSVPed yes.  They told the hall they were expecting 290 and I think 286 actually showed up.  Can't you give them a number and expect that if these people do show, there will likely be a few others that won't?

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  • boogerbearoriginalboogerbearoriginal member
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    edited December 2011
    Even though its not a TON of money its annoying to think I'm paying for people who most likely won't even show because they couldn't drop a pre-addressed stamped envelope in the mail.

    Julie - even if numbers are a wash, I would feel terrible if two people showed up and weren't on the seating chart. But at the same time I think - you two didn't bother to respond so what did you expect.

    I'm conflicted but I have a strong feeling the couple won't show. God only knows if Dan's friend will bring someone - he 'lost' his RSVP and when Dan called him he said, yea I'll be there, I might bring someone not sure though. So even if he did bring some girl, I don't even have a name.

    GAH!
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  • Julz629Julz629 member
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    edited December 2011
    What if you went ahead and gave them seating, just in case?  Put them at tables along the outside of the room, and put them at different tables so you won't have a half empty table if neither of them show.  My sister was able to set up tables to accommodate 295, even though she had only told the hall she was expecting 290.

    If you don't have a name, just do "Guest of John Doe" on the card.  Or "John Doe & Guest" if that's how you're doing it.  It sucks, because you've gone through the hassle of trying to get a name and do the right thing, but there's only so much you can do at this point.  You have bigger things to worry about.
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  • queenfm85queenfm85 member
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    edited December 2011
    Agreed with PP! I believe I would feel the same way as you. RSVPs go out for a reason and they HAVE to know how much trouble goes into planning a wedding and planning for catered meals etc. If they don't care to make it easier on you it makes it harder to want to cover their butts and be nice.

    On the other hand... it might end up making you look worse than them if you don't have a spot for them if they do show up ya know?

    Just my opinion but then again I don't know much about this whole wedding thing.. I'm learning as I go ;)
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  • boogerbearoriginalboogerbearoriginal member
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    edited December 2011
    Bleh - I'm just going to include them. If they don't show oh well, and if they do then I don't look bad. Its the safest way to go - it just stinks to pay for 3 who may not even show. Ah well - such is life.

    Thanks for the input & letting me vent a little.
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