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  • Sassenach1743Sassenach1743 member
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    For what its worth...

    CMGr, I totally get you! None of your posts were snobbish, anti-semetic, or pushy. You stated that you are a traditional person and were giving a traditional perspective. I think Jen just has a slightly different take on this issue and the two do not quite match up... 

    I also agree with you about the topic at hand. It IS a Jewish tradition that is becoming more popular for non-Jews. I completely understand why someone traditional, such as yourself, would choose not to use it and may not like it. I'm fine with that and I am Jewish. You were misquoted and also misinterpreted. 

    Jen, please read future posts more carefully. I honestly think that you saw CMGr say that she didn't like the "son of" option and interpreted that as her being snobbish. Pair that with referring to it as a Jewish tradition in the same sentence and off you went thinking she was anti-semetic. Slow down.

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  • SB1512SB1512 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitation-wording-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:22962a93-46d3-4a9a-8e53-173be57e694bPost:1b689082-e3cb-4664-bb09-24797eb80141">Re: Invitation Wording Drama ...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitation Wording Drama ... : Now you are judging my tradition.  Outdated and sexist?  You can't have it both ways. <strong>It is never necessary to indentify the groom by anything other than his name. I'm tired of this.  </strong>Goodnight!
    Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

    I do have to respectfully disagree with this.  There are men out there that are given unisex names that could be lead to someone thinking a man is a woman when seeing the names written on paper (ie: Dana, Ashley, Aubrey, Avery....and yes, I know men with these names in real life).  I think in those cases, it may be appropriate to include the son of before the grooms name. 
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  • libby2483libby2483 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitation-wording-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:22962a93-46d3-4a9a-8e53-173be57e694bPost:c2e453e4-5b34-4107-8c9b-5993faac95ce">Re: Invitation Wording Drama ...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitation Wording Drama ... : I do have to respectfully disagree with this.  There are men out there that are given unisex names that could be lead to someone thinking a man is a woman when seeing the names written on paper (ie: Dana, Ashley, Aubrey, Avery....and yes, I know men with these names in real life).  I think in those cases, it may be appropriate to include the son of before the grooms name. 
    Posted by SB1512[/QUOTE]

    <div>While this is true, I think the point being made previously was that anyone invited to the wedding would know who the groom is, so it isn't necessary to provide further "information" about the groom.  So, I don't think the issue is whether or not the groom would be mistaken for a female.</div>
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitation-wording-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:22962a93-46d3-4a9a-8e53-173be57e694bPost:7178d95d-0241-4e4f-b8d8-d1dd66fcb03c">Re: Invitation Wording Drama ...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitation Wording Drama ... : While this is true, I think the point being made previously was that <strong>anyone invited to the wedding would know who the groom is, </strong>so it isn't necessary to provide further "information" about the groom.  So, I don't think the issue is whether or not the groom would be mistaken for a female.
    Posted by libby2483[/QUOTE]

    This is not necessarily true, especially when families are split up and live in many geographic locations, and where the groom may have the same name as someone else.
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  • SB1512SB1512 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitation-wording-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:22962a93-46d3-4a9a-8e53-173be57e694bPost:7178d95d-0241-4e4f-b8d8-d1dd66fcb03c">Re: Invitation Wording Drama ...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitation Wording Drama ... : While this is true, I think the point being made previously was that anyone invited to the wedding would know who the groom is, so it isn't necessary to provide further "information" about the groom.  So, I don't think the issue is whether or not the groom would be mistaken for a female.
    Posted by libby2483[/QUOTE]

    Well my thought was more along the thinking that in a case with a man having a name that could be mistaken for a woman it might be nice to indicate that it is a son, so guests that might not know the couple that well don't think it's a same sex marriage.  And not that there is anything wrong with same sex marriages, I fully support them, I'm just saying it could be awkward for the groom if guests show up thinking that the bride is marrying another woman and then come to find out Dana/Aubrey/Ashley, etc is in fact a man.
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