Foot, meet mouth

arisia · April 2012

Today was my RSVP date so I was sending out notes on facebook to friends. I asked a friend who had gotten married two years ago (I was a BM) if she and her husband could come. She wasn't sure earlier because he's in the milarty.

Well. She will probably still come, but they are getting a divorce. I'm glad I didn't say anything other than "Hey, do you know if you two can come? We haven't recieved your RSVP yet."

Anyone else accidently invite an ex-guest?

Cackle6 · April 2012

Apparently my uncle and his wife have separated recently. I had no idea. He sent back their RSVP with her name crossed out (I wrote in all the guests names on the RSVP cards). I felt really bad - but how was I to know? He doesn't really talk to the rest of the family, and my mom just recently heard that his wife moved out. I'm actually surpised he RSVP'ed yes, and so quickly too.

I also had already done all my envelopes and was litereally 10 minutes from leaving to go to the post office when I got an email from my FMIL telling me that FI's cousin had broken off her engagment. I was SO glad I hadn't mailed her invite yet, I would have felt terrible! She'd just gotten her dress and everything too.

caitlinc09 · April 2012

That is super awkward.

I sort of did the same thing, but it was just a couple who had been dating, not actually married, so it's not quite as awkward. Luckily the awkward encounter was in person and I didn't print the invitation to both of them together like I had planned to.

mandi921vh · April 2012

Yikes, that is awkward!

max&lucy · April 2012

I had one couple break up after we had the invites addressed (we had them professionally done, so it wasn't so easy to change it), so I just contacted the guy (my friend) to warn him that his invite would have his ex's name on it, but he was ok with it. Hopefully haven't made any other blunders... Although I also have the reverse situation - one of my BMs was single when I sent out the wedding invites, but has since started dating someone, so of course I said she could bring him to the wedding, even though he wasn't officially invited. It's exhausting to keep all of these things together! So glad I don't have a massive guest list!

enchantedonyx · April 2012

yup. invites went out a few days before my dad had open heart surgery (emergency). His sister (my aunt) was at the hospital with us and in private told my mom that she had kicked her husband out and was filing for divorce.

If she was hurt by the invite, I don't know. But I got her RSVP yesterday and she just marked that only she was attending.

I don't think we can be at fault if we mailed an invite to a couple if we don't know that the couple has split up. But I did feel bad that she got an invite addressed to both of them after he was already out of the house.

mookow86 · April 2012

We actually invited several people who we didn't know were dating anyone, so of course we invited their dates after the fact. I felt kind of bad about it.

We also had two guests pass away between the time the save the dates were sent out and the time invites were sent out

bpphoto785 · April 2012

We had a few invitation oops...

- Forgot one of our groomsmen's girlfriends on the invitation. I'm not a huge fan of hers so I think I was subconciously hoping they'd break up. But I called as soon as I realized and told him she was of course invited. He said he didn't even notice... men!

- Invited my SIL & "nephews" (they're not my brother's kids) and she had just kicked my brother out of their house and filed for divorce

- Didn't know a friend had a boyfriend until I went to the shower for a mutal friend who's also getting married and mentioned him. I felt terrible, but I guess they were trying to keep their relationship a secret. It worked!

ladychambers83 · April 2012

Yup, we had 2 couples break up. One couple was FI's friend, whose ex-gf wrote me on fb apologizing for not being able to come due to the break up. The other was FBIL (same one who dropped out of the wedding party) who told his now ex-gf that he'll be taking another girl as his date, but she said she's coming anyway.... ummm excuse me! Our wedding will not be a place for you to carry on with your rship drama. I clearly sent her a msg saying she was invited as his date, so if they are no longer together unfortunately she cannot come. But I also had to set FBIL straight saying no random chick will be at the wedding to feed his ego... ugh!!

LuckyHeather · April 2012

Yes! I sent an invite to one of my parents’ friends (on their list) and ran into the husband the other day. He said, “I know you probably didn’t know this, but we got divorced a year ago.” Awkward!

I still told him to come.

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