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moms dresses

Do you think moms should wear long or short dresses??? My mom is def. Wearibg a long dress but my FMIL insissts that she will wear short. K mean im ok with it I just wished she wore long and not stick out. My bridesmaids are wearing shory and MOH is wearing long dress. I dont know what to do. She is having her dress custom made bc she couldnt find anything in the stores. On top of it she wants to have two dresses one for reception and one for ceremony meanwhile the two are an hour and a half apart. Even I the bride will have one dress....what to do?
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Re: moms dresses

  • Let the mothers wear what they want and what they feel comfortable in. They are not part of the bridal party, so they do not have to match.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_moms-dresses-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:82f07a03-04c8-45b4-9a42-7c0dc58ed14fPost:0e524776-95a4-4082-abad-bbc71bbb5f4d">Re: moms dresses</a>:
    [QUOTE]Let the mothers wear what they want and what they feel comfortable in. They are not part of the bridal party, so they do not have to match.
    Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

    <div>This. It's a really special day for the parents as well. They should wear what they like and are comfortable in.</div>
  • personally i would just let her wear whatever she wants to wear. my sister and her MIL had some pretty hardcore arguments over what different people would wear, and in the end-all-be-all i don't think it will really matter what someone wore. you could try sitting down with her and explaining why it means so much to you to have her in a long dress. my mom has already decided that she's wearing something much different to my wedding than traditional MOB dresses - but it was more of a discussion between us than her just telling me.

    i think it's kind of silly for her to need 2 dresses though, that's a bit of overkill... maybe you guys can compromise? her being in just one short dress of her choosing instead of 2?
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  • edited February 2012
    Day of, I don't think you're really going to be thinking about your MIL wearing two dresses. You'll probably be too busy or have too much tunnel vision to notice. No one else is really going to notice either. It's a little strange for her to have two... as though she's the one getting married... but that's neither here nor there. :) I'd write this off as something you shouldn't stress over. There are plenty of other wedding matters for you to think about.
  • I am really flexible with what everyone wears. I took all my bridesmaids and told them go ahead choose what you like just make sure everyone is same color. And they agreed on a dress I really liked. I did the same with my maid of honor I let her pick whatever she wanted. Same with moms! Its not like im forcing anyone to do anything. But I really think that maybe she is just trying too hard to over do everyone! I felt like long dress is more appropriate for a mom at a wedding but if she wants short thats fine. once I made het feel like its ok with the short she decided to get two. I feel that its just pushing it. There is such a small difference between the cereminy and the reception. Even I the bride have only one dress so it feels like she wants to out do me! My husbands family is small there wont be many guests most of the wedding will be my side. So far they didnt even shell out a cent, meanwhile we will peopablly have to rent a limo because none of my husbands parents drive. And I heard rumors that any flying in guests from my husbands family will have to stay at our apartment (mine and husbands). I start to have steam coming out of my ears they just dont care, dont help and still complain! Jeeeez I had to take it out somewhere soooo soorry girls!!!
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  • This is completely understandable. When I read she had two dresses, I thought it was a bit unorthodox and certainly hints at her personality. But take a deep breath and don't worry about that. Worry more about accomodating your out-of-town guests. That's more a sucky situation than your FMIL
  • We (FI & I) decided that my side of family out of town guests will stay at my moms and his side will stay at his moms meanwhile our mutual friends will stay with us. now FMIL decided she doesnt want to do that she wants everyone from her side to stay with us at our one bed apartment meanwhile she had 2 empty rooms....I think I need a little more space at my apartment for everyone to get ready that means me and 5 bridesmaids!!!
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  • First thing, let the dress thing go.  The length of her dress doesn't matter, short or long both are appropriate.  As far as the two dress thing goes, I suspect most people won't notice.  If someone does they will likely think either "huh, that's odd" or "I wonder if she spilled on herself".  Neither fleeting thought is worth you getting worked up over.

    As far as the issue of where people are staying, neither you nor you fmil can decide people are staying at the others home.  If no one offers the guests will simple need to find their own place to stay.  Not a big deal.
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