Should we invite cousin's "boyfriends/friends"?

Re: Should we invite cousin's "boyfriends/friends"?

• OuachitaTrixie

  

  May 2011

  I'm in the same stinkin' boat!  Except it's my family and not his.  The teens have been talking about which of their friends they're bringing to "the party."  When it gets closer to the wedding, as in after in invites go out, I'm going to let my mom talk to her siblings and therefore start a "trickle-down" effect of spreading the word to these kids.  It would be entirely different if they were in actual relationships but all they are wanting is to invite people to this awesome party with free food and hopefully they can snag some some alcohol.  Brats!  Oh, and some are actually over 21 but it's still the same thing, it's about friends and partying not about being recognized as a couple.

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  May 2011

  For the adult cousins (18+), you must invite them with their established boyfriends and girlfriends.  It doesn't matter if they live together or have been together 4 months.  If they are in exclusive relationships, you must invite those people.  

  
  

  For the adult cousins that are single, you don't have to invite them to bring along a random date.

  
  

  For the teen cousins, you should put them on their parents' invitation, and there is no need to invite them with a significant other.  

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• nyeelitt member

  

  May 2011

  Thank you for the insight!  I'll keep it all in mind when we make the final decisions.

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• aegrish member

  

  May 2011

  We gave all "adults" (over 18) a plus one. 

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• jessica.juliet

  

  May 2011

  If they live under one household, it is one invite, example, if you have a mom, dad, 25 year old son and 20 year old daughter, all still living together (despite boyfriends/girlfriends) they get ONE invite per family, so the invitye would be for the "Smith Family" and include all 4 under one household.
  
  If they live alone, it is one plus guest and if they live with a partner it is both names.
  
  Hope that helps!
  

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  May 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_should-invite-cousins-boyfriendsfriends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:e6f3c6f0-5cf2-4804-929a-2d9b43710086Post:46452509-bb76-4f7c-9462-71c83bcadda5">Re: Should we invite cousin's "boyfriends/friends"?</a>:
  [QUOTE]If they live under one household, it is one invite, example, if you have a mom, dad, 25 year old son and 20 year old daughter, all still living together (despite boyfriends/girlfriends) they get ONE invite per family, so the invitye would be for the "Smith Family" and include all 4 under one household. If they live alone, it is one plus guest and if they live with a partner it is both names. Hope that helps!
  Posted by jessica.juliet[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>This is totally wrong.  Etiquette requires that everyone over 18 be given their own invite, regardless of where they live.</div><div>
  </div><div>It also requires that their established significant others be invited, regardless of whether they live together or are engaged, and regardless of whether or not the couple has met them.</div>

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• ChadAngela member

  

  May 2011

  Well, I don't know what you'll decide...but our decision was made FOR us.  Talked with FI's Aunt last night, who *informed* me she was bringing  along a date for her highschool aged son.  Tell me that isn't rude and tacky!

  

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