My family is very close, and I am trying to find 'jobs' for my 2 siblings and my cousins that are close to me. One brother and cousin are taking care of the guestbook and two cousins are my bridesmaids. My other brother is 18 and I just adore him. He's can be very serious and he's quiet. I asked my FI if he would include him with his groomsmen, but he just wants his three brothers as his groomsmen and thinks it would be 'weird' to add my brother. We are getting married in an LDS temple, so there aren't any 'jobs' to do during the ceremony. I want him to be an important part of the wedding, I don't want to leave him out, he may do the music, but I feel that's like pushing him into a corner. I thought about putting him on my side of the bridal party but I didn't think it would mean the same thing for my brother as it means for me, any ideas?