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Getting married on your birthday....hmmm?
Finally getting married after 5 and half years of dating the love of my life!!! Super excited but now that's it time to pick a wedding date, I immediately picked my birthdate for next year. But now I'm not sure if getting married on my birthday is a good a idea. I just thought, hey my birthday falls on a saturday in 2011 and since I got engaged 5 days before my b-day I thought, why not..but now I'm kinda in the middle. What should I do? Should I pick a different date? Or just go with my gut feeling?
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Re: Getting married on your birthday....hmmm?
However, I have a different reason than it being my birthday. I share my birthday with my Grandmother and she and my grandfather who passed away a few years ago were married on her birthday.
I would have loved to share their anniversary, and while I know I won't because it's not the date, my grandma understands the thought and the love behind the gesture.
I don't mind it being a day before my birthday. I figure every year we just get to do a wicked celebration!!
The way DH and I view it is: his birthday is all about him, my birthday is all about me, and our anniversary is all about "us".
Personally, I wouldn't have given up my "all about me" day while he got to keep his, lol
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It is definitely a choice you have to make. If like PP have said birthdays are a big thing in your family or to you then, maybe its not a great idea. But another PP said think of it as the best gift ever, and you can go with that too.
Either way whatever you decide will be the right decision.
My parents got married the day after my dad's birthday. I don't' know how they picked the date (I'll have to ask my mom, I'm curious now!) but they're not big out to dinner anniversary celebration people, and we really celebrate birthdays with immediate family only. But it depends on when you want to get married. I mean, I myself would want to keep some distance from my birthday. H's bday is April 1 and mine is tomorrow, and we absolutely wanted a summer wedding, so it was easy to bypass our birthdays. And we were looking at August 7 because it was kind of a midpoint between our birthdays, but we went with August 14 so I could have a Friday the 13th rehearsal dinner! I was born on Friday the 13th, 13 has been my lucky number and a lot of things through my life fell on the 13th, so we wanted to keep a good, positive things going on on the 13ths!
What does your FI think? He should definitely have some say in when the wedding is. H & I absolutely chose the date TOGETHER. His brothers both got married on the same date, several years apart. And we DID look at the calendar just to see where it fell, but honestly I think I would have shot that down because I really would want our anniversary to be separate & special. Talk to your FI and see what he thinks.
We picked a date that wasn't around either of our birthdays or a celebration holiday so that we would have time that was just for the two of us. Also, it gives you another day on the calendar to mark as special!!
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