My parents have offered to pay for most of our wedding (venue, food and drinks) which is about two thirds of what we want to spend on our wedding. His mom and step-dad have offered to help where we need it, but have not set a limit. His dad and step-mom on the other hand don't want to help theywant to just give us a gift. My fiance and I have been together for 10 years we are very committed to each other. All I want to ask his dad and step-mom for is the dress rehearsal dinner and the day after lunch. How do I do this with out being a bridezilla?? I really want this to be as fair as possible my parents are dipping into their retirement and that kills me. We are trying to save what we can but with his dads help it would really take some burden off our shoulders. PLEASE help!