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Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!!

Oh so my idea for MY wedding is much much diffrent then my mom's. Roy and I are very laid back. We want a simple country wedding. My sister suggested that the BM wear cowboy boots. I thought it was cute. I said something and my mom walked out of the room. I don't live in the same state as she and the rest of my family so no onw was there to witness this but her friend and her daughter. I left her friend's house and went home because I was so upset we were also not agreeing on the menue. I got to my truck and started crying. Called my sister she said she would call mom and try and get her to calm down. Well, Roy is ready to call the whole thing off because it's upsetting me and go elope. I'm about there too. I called my dad and he talked to mom and well they are all saying that I'm over reacting!!!! I'm sorry when someone one walks out of the room and refuses to look at pictures of the idea it hurts. She's in town for a week and I'm dreading the whole week. I'm already starting to cry just writting this.... Sorry I'm going on and on but I need to vent....I'm just at a loss as to what to do....
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Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!!

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    [QUOTE]Oh so my idea for MY wedding is much much diffrent then my mom's. Roy and I are very laid back. We want a simple country wedding. My sister suggested that the BM wear cowboy boots. I thought it was cute. I said something and my mom walked out of the room. I don't live in the same state as she and the rest of my family so no onw was there to witness this but her friend and her daughter. I left her friend's house and went home because I was so upset we were also not agreeing on the menue. I got to my truck and started crying. Called my sister she said she would call mom and try and get her to calm down. Well, Roy is ready to call the whole thing off because it's upsetting me and go elope. I'm about there too. I called my dad and he talked to mom and well they are all saying that I'm over reacting!!!! I'm sorry when someone one walks out of the room and refuses to look at pictures of the idea it hurts. She's in town for a week and I'm dreading the whole week. I'm already starting to cry just writting this.... Sorry I'm going on and on but I need to vent....I'm just at a loss as to what to do....
    Posted by kymalibustacey[/QUOTE]

    What is your relationship with your mom normally like?   I think that's the core of the issue here.   Do you normally butt heads on things? I get why you're upset that she isn't listening to your ideas but my first thought was that crying because your mom didn't like the idea of cowboy boots was an overreaction on your part. 
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    [QUOTE]I do think sobbing and considering calling off the wedding because your mom doesn't like the idea of the BMs in cowboy boots is probably overreacting, sorry. Who is paying for the wedding?
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    It's not just the cowboy boots!!! It's every idea I have!!!!!!! That was just an example
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  • I do agree with PP's.
    Take a deep breath.


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  • She and my Dad are paying....Well, I really should say my Dad is paying :) The cowboy boots were just an example!! It's the food what the guys are going to wear the flower everything!!!!

    I don't was a fancy sit down dinner that's what she wants.

    I want simple flowers in mason jars or metal buckets.... She was big elaborate center pieces...

    Neither Roy nor I want the guys or him in tuxes because well that's not us. She said Roy HAD to wear one.

    And, mom and I usally get along fine....

    I live in KY and have most of my life. She is org from NYC. Long story how they ended up in KY...As I said before she doesn't live here any more and hasn't in some time, due to my dad's job. My sister thinks that she is trying to keep up with her friends in the north becase she plans on inviting them. Well, I don't have that style. There is nothing wrong with it if that's what you like big and fancy Itallian weddings, but that's not me. I ride horese and motorcycles. Roy and I met playing paintball!!! I just want simple country..... I love pink camo LOL

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  • Nothing at the wedding is going to be be pink camo LOL
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  • Trust me I'm ready to just run off to TN.

    Roy is to this is not his first wedding so he really is loving the idea of running off!

    If she would listen to me she wouldn't spend near the same amount of money... I just don't feel the need to spend tons of money on a wedding. I'm all about simple....just a country girl girl....
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    [QUOTE]Nothing at the wedding is going to be be pink camo LOL
    Posted by kymalibustacey[/QUOTE]

    That wasn't her point...
    The point is, if they pay, they get to host the party they want. I can understand the desire for smaller things, but then you need to pay for it.
    If that means pushing your date back so that you and your FI cansave the money, then so be it. There are ways to pay for your own wedding. H and I did, and we saved the money in about 6 months. It has taken a lot of sacrifice and determination but it felt so good to have all of my own ideas and my own decisions and our compromises and choices.
    H and I worked our a$$es off to pay for it, so you can too.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!!: Then what was the point of saying you love it!?! See that is the appropriate use of excessive punctuation, because I am truly frustrated and incredulous.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    just showing how country I am. gosh you don't have to take everything literally. I do have many pink camo things....make up bag...one of my BIRD dog's leashes....Saddle pads....
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : just showing how country I am. gosh you don't have to take everything literally. I do have many pink camo things....make up bag...one of my BIRD dog's leashes....Saddle pads....
    Posted by kymalibustacey[/QUOTE]

    Sugar, I am a Georgia Peach through and through. My wedding had absolutely no camo in it.

    Can you have a "southern" themed rehearsal dinner, including a good old smoking BBQ?

    ETA: We got married in a barn and I wore heels then flip flops. I am more comfortable in flip flops and boots.
    You need to find a rustic venue that everyone loves and then build the wedding around that. Things are going to change so much over your engagement it will be crazy. Who knows, you may end up with the wedding you want.

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  • If your mom is upset about boots, how do you think she will react to you eloping?
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!!: Thanks, peachy. Glad SoMEONE got it.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    Well hot darn. Guess I'm pretty smart for a redneck ;)

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : But she doesn't want to listen to you. She wants to host the wedding that she wants to host, not the wedding you want her to host.  When your visions are so vastly different your only option is to pay for the wedding on your own so you can make your own decisions.  It doesn't sound like she WANTS to do any of this on the cheap so why do you think she cares about saving money?
    Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

    She doesn't care about saving money. But me being who I am just can't understand it. I have worked hard for everything I have. I don't ask my parents for things. I put myself through my master's I work hard for my money bought my own house without help. I just think money could be spend better even if it's not mine. I'm not asking for her to give me the money, I just don't see the point of spending that much money on a wedding.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : She doesn't care about saving money. But me being who I am just can't understand it. I have worked hard for everything I have. I don't ask my parents for things. I put myself through my master's I work hard for my money bought my own house without help. I just think money could be spend better even if it's not mine. I'm not asking for her to give me the money, I just don't see the point of spending that much money on a wedding.
    Posted by kymalibustacey[/QUOTE]

    Well, she obviously wants to give you something that is important to her.
    Why don't you just be a southern belle, accept the gift and zip your lips. You can talk to her about it in a few years once its all over.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : My only issue with this is I really don't want the OP to regret what kind of wedding she has.  She obviously does have a very specific idea in mind.  I wouldn't want to regret the kind of wedding I had just because my mom was paying for it.
    Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

    Thank you! You get it. I would regret it if I didn't say anything. Trust me there are things I haven't say boo about. I don't like pearls, but she wants me to wear the ones she and my sister wore when they got married, so I am even if I really don't like them....
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  • edited July 2012
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : Do you listen as poorly to your mom as you do everyone else?  If so this shouldn't be a problem at all.  I'm quite sure most of us get it.  We've offered you a way out.  If you don't want to take it stop complaining about the situation.
    Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

    I'm done here...I really thought people would understand and be supportive and let me vent. I would pay for it myself, well, we'd just elope, but that would cause a family fued. Forget it. good luck in all your wedding plans.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : My only issue with this is I really don't want the OP to regret what kind of wedding she has.  She obviously does have a very specific idea in mind.  I wouldn't want to regret the kind of wedding I had just because my mom was paying for it.
    Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

    Yes, you are right.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : I'm done here...I really thought people would understand and be supportive and let me vent.<strong> I would pay for it myself, well, we'd just elope, but that would cause a family fued</strong>. Forget it. good luck in all your wedding plans.
    Posted by kymalibustacey[/QUOTE]
     
    We are letting you vent. But we also have opinions or have been in your shoes. We also know the realities of situations.
    As for the bolded part, do you even want to get married and be married? The family will get over it eventually but you need to either pay for it yourself and have yourself a nice little country wedding or get over it and let your parents pay for it.
    Ever think that maybe your mom is just really excited and doesn't want to disappoint you? Have you considered your mother's feelings in this process at all? It doesn't sound like it.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : We were supportive.  We did let you vent.  Then we offered you suggestions to improve your situation.<strong>  But apparently you're like one of those annoying friends that just wants to complain and complain</strong> but never actually improve their situation.  We can't help you if you won't help yourself. HELP ME HELP YOU!
    Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

    I will be a sounthern lady and bite my tounge to what I want to say to you! Good day!
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! :   We are letting you vent. But we also have opinions or have been in your shoes. We also know the realities of situations. As for the bolded part, do you even want to get married and be married? The family will get over it eventually but you need to either pay for it yourself and have yourself a nice little country wedding or get over it and let your parents pay for it. Ever think that maybe your mom is just really excited and doesn't want to disappoint you? Have you considered your mother's feelings in this process at all? It doesn't sound like it.
    Posted by peachykeen26[/QUOTE]

    I just don't get it if she doen't want to disappoint me why doesn's she even listen to me???
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : I will be a sounthern lady and bite my tounge to what I want to say to you! Good day!
    Posted by kymalibustacey[/QUOTE]

    Oh well bless your heart.  (See, I grew up in Cincinnati and know how to cuss someone out without uttering a single curse word - though it's not as much fun).

    OP, here is a general life lesson for you:

    MONEY = STRINGS.

    If you don't want the strings, don't accept the money.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : I just don't get it if she doen't want to disappoint me why doesn's she even listen to me???
    Posted by kymalibustacey[/QUOTE]

    Here's the thing. Granted I don't know your mom, but perhaps this is how she shows she cares. Maybe she thinks you are trying to cut back to save money since she's paying and she thinks it will show how much she cares by throwing you a big, fancy, expensive wedding, even if you know you don't want it.

    Either way, her money comes with this kind of wedding. So while I understand not wanting to hate your wedding, in this instance you can't have your cake and eat it too. You can't have your mom's money AND the wedding you want. So you have to choose which is more important. I would personally politely decline her money and throw the wedding you guys want. That may ruffle some feathers, but it sounds like they're already ruffled anyway. Ultimately the choice is yours. But this is the only advice we can give you. I don't know what you want to hear. Is it too bad that your mom doesn't see eye-to-eye on your wedding? Sure. But it doesn't sound like that's changing, so now you have to adapt.


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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : Oh well bless your heart.  (See, I grew up in Cincinnati and know how to cuss someone out without uttering a single curse word - though it's not as much fun). OP, here is a general life lesson for you: MONEY = STRINGS. If you don't want the strings, don't accept the money.
    Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

    I don't know why it's says Cincinnati...lol I can't get it off. I live like and hour and a half south. I'm in KY not OH :)
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : Because she's older and wiser and probably assumes that although you THINK you want these things you'll regret them later. She probably also has some sort of desire to "show off" to her friends and family how great her daughter is and how nice of a wedding she can throw.
    Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

    Yup.
    You just need to sit down with her and come to a compromise.
    So, you have a nice sit down dinner, this is easier than a buffet. So you get married at a golf club, have the ceremony outside with mason jars and sprigs of baby's breath and/or candles hanging on the chairs and then a more elaborate reception. So she wants a black tie affair, change into your boots for the reception, they're more comfortable anyway.
    There are ways to have an upscale country wedding.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : I don't know but I would sit down with her and maybe you two can calmly talk about what you want and what she wants and maybe you guys *could* come up with a compromise. I would definitely try talking to her one more time.  Doesn't sound like you have anything left to lose.
    Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

    All of this.

    Have you even just tried having a calm, adult conversation with her about your wedding?

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : Yup. You just need to sit down with her and come to a compromise. So, you have a nice sit down dinner, this is easier than a buffet. So you get married at a golf club, have the ceremony outside with mason jars and sprigs of baby's breath and/or candles hanging on the chairs and then a more elaborate reception. So she wants a black tie affair, change into your boots for the reception, they're more comfortable anyway. <strong>There are ways to have an upscale country wedding</strong>.
    Posted by peachykeen26[/QUOTE]

    Yes.  These can be absolutely gorgeous.
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  • For the most part, I agree that if your mom is paying, she gets to call most of the shots. HOWEVER, if you try and sit and have an adult conversation with her, you might get further than you think.
    When you talk to her, give validation to her ideas, because she deserves that. Example: Mom, I totally understand that you want an upscale, formal wedding, but what if we meet in the middle and have an upscale country wedding? See, here are some picture of a wedding that is similar to what I would like. What do you think? Well, I really want X, so what if FI and I offered to pay for that part, so you aren't burdened with it?
    And just have an open, mature, conversation with her. And show gratefulness if she does end up paying.
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    [QUOTE]Why does you paying for the wedding have to equal eloping? We had a lovely country wedding for about 100 people on the cheap. You could do the same.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    Because TN is not far and we would invite a few people and have a simple wedding at a cabin and just have fun.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : Okay well that wouldn't be eloping.  That would be having a small Destination Wedding.  Eloping is when you run off and get married alone without telling anyone else ahead of time.
    Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

    Oops. Doin' it wrong. :(

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_help-i-have-a-momzilla?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:028264e8-a760-4406-8e3c-fcea1d23d8b3Post:85533db5-fc45-40a3-88fe-4ea3eaddf811">Re:Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Why does you paying for the wedding have to equal eloping? We had a lovely country wedding for about 100 people on the cheap. You could do the same.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    Because she still wants Daddy and Mommy's money, more than having her vision it would seem. 

    If you don't take any of the above amazing suggestions, I sort of feel like this situation would make a very good couple episodes of Bridezillas.

    You could also pay for the venue and decor on your own, and let your parents cover the food/drinks etc.  Also, if you really think your mom just wants to impress her "big city" friends, maybe when you sit down to an adult conversation with her, you could point out how having an upscale country wedding would be very unique to her crowd and therefore impressive.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_help-i-have-a-momzilla?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:028264e8-a760-4406-8e3c-fcea1d23d8b3Post:0bd3780e-61af-469c-97d5-126914da3a07">Re:Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : I can get how you got this impression, but I don't think this is the case.
    Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

    Genuinely curious- what do you think it is?
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