What to do?

feffany · March 2010

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[QUOTE]It seems to me if you agreed you were getting married, picked a date and announced it, then you already ARE engaged. I agree with Nebb, five weeks is okay, you can keep your date just fine.
Posted by pandasquishy[/QUOTE]

thanks, i was really stressing about it looking tacky being five weeks later.

september's bride · March 2010

It only sucks as bad as you want it to. Everybody who gets married or has a special event gets one day to plan for and enjoy, so if your date is that important to you, you need to move forward with it and stop being hung up on the title of "engaged." Don't compete with someone else's wedding, either. Make your day a reflection of you and your FI and it will be great.

Stop complicating things.

AdeleDazeem · March 2010

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[QUOTE]What to say? Shall you carry our treasure away?
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]

What a gem. What a pearl. Beyond rubies is our little girl.

feffany · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-to-do-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0ec839df-67fe-4d95-8c23-0da83212ac41Post:f58a6c19-ae26-4db6-8d54-472048fdede0">Re: What to do?</a>:
[QUOTE]#1 - Having a date means you're engaged, ring or no ring. If you're not engaged, you don't have a date, just an idea. #2 - When you're getting married, you get 1 day. Not a week, not a month, not 6 months. #3 - If your guests are going to compare decor, etc., they're going to do it regardless of how far apart the weddings are. #4 - Any form of "counteracting" will be seen as tacky and petty. Your best course of action is to be happy for them and worry about your own wedding as if theirs wasn't a factor...because it really isn't.
Posted by lisarose7[/QUOTE]

I understant that i only get one day and i'm VERY glad they didn't choose that. I just didn't want it to look tacky being 5 weeks later. I'm also not trying to counteract anything, just moving the date or not, or something of the like.

sucrets4 · March 2010

I'm unsure about the clusterfuck that is going on here, but have you booked anything for 11/11/11 yet? It's a super popular date and you may not even be able to get a venue if you haven't booked it yet.

Don't put the cart before the horse.

And, someone really needs to get my quote. It's not that obscure, people.

sucrets4 · March 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What to do? : What a gem. What a pearl. Beyond rubies is our little girl.
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

THANK YOU!!!!!!!! <3

lisarose7 · March 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What to do? : I understant that i only get one day and i'm VERY glad they didn't choose that. I just didn't want it to look tacky being 5 weeks later. I'm also not trying to counteract anything, just moving the date or not, or something of the like.
Posted by feffy11[/QUOTE]

Don't worry about it. The day after looks tacky. Over a month later is totally fine. I think if you proceed as you would have had they NOT gotten engaged, everything will work out great.

AdeleDazeem · March 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What to do? : THANK YOU!!!!!!!! <3
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]

Haha! I got it the first time I skimmed through and sung to myself... had I known, I would've continued it earlier! I love that show.

LP11509 · March 2010

thanks Roxy...she actually died about a year and a half ago

But that picture makes me happy because it just shows her whole personality so well. She was pretty much the best dog ever.

feffany · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-to-do-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0ec839df-67fe-4d95-8c23-0da83212ac41Post:b43dc1ae-56b7-42ff-8127-59d2c0a746c2">Re: What to do?</a>:
[QUOTE]It only sucks as bad as you want it to. Everybody who gets married or has a special event gets one day to plan for and enjoy, so if your date is that important to you, you need to move forward with it and stop being hung up on the title of "engaged." Don't compete with someone else's wedding, either. Make your day a reflection of you and your FI and it will be great. Stop complicating things.
Posted by september's bride[/QUOTE]

thanks, this post actually helped me remember what it's all about, rather than social awkwardness. I'm still on the fence, but this helped a lot

feffany · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-to-do-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0ec839df-67fe-4d95-8c23-0da83212ac41Post:68fb91d1-f07f-4aea-9ac3-cfaff5c1acac">Re: What to do?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What to do? : Don't worry about it. The day after looks tacky. Over a month later is totally fine. I think if you proceed as you would have had they NOT gotten engaged, everything will work out great.
Posted by lisarose7[/QUOTE]

Thanks, that's helpful too. You're right

nda_roxybabe · March 2010

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[QUOTE]thanks Roxy...she actually died about a year and a half ago :( But that picture makes me happy because it just shows her whole personality so well. She was pretty much the best dog ever.
Posted by LP11509[/QUOTE]
Oh, I'm sorry to hear that :( She's gorgeous. Schnauzers have amazing personality.

lisarose7 · March 2010

Feffy11: I have to give you credit for not completely freaking out over our blunt honesty. You took our comments, good, bad, and otherwise, and never once started throwing a fit over how mean we all are. I think you might be a keeper.

feffany · March 2010

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[QUOTE]Feffy11: I have to give you credit for not completely freaking out over our blunt honesty. You took our comments, good, bad, and otherwise, and never once started throwing a fit over how mean we all are. I think you might be a keeper. :)
Posted by lisarose7[/QUOTE]

lol thanks! I mean, the main reason why I posted was to hear opinions from some people with experience about this sort of stuff. Mainly, I wanted to know what others would do if it was them, so I appreciate it (as I'm trying to keep all of this 'anxiety' underwraps).

Some of the stuff was silly (it hurt a little) or irrelevant (misunderstood the situation) so I just ignored it.

LauraT25 · March 2010

OP: It seems like you aren't insane. I honestly thought this post was fake, and the 'neuterversary' and 'wet food cake' thing just sort of cemented that in my mind. You have to understand that some people get bored and just post really random crap.

Way to take all of this in stride, though. I do agree with someone above, 11/11/11 is very popular, so you may have trouble booking vendors - if you have a venue or other major venues in mind, I'd suggest you start trying to get contracts now.

feffany · March 2010

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[QUOTE]OP: It seems like you aren't insane. I honestly thought this post was fake, and the 'neuterversary' and 'wet food cake' thing just sort of cemented that in my mind. You have to understand that some people get bored and just post really random crap. Way to take all of this in stride, though. I do agree with someone above, 11/11/11 is very popular, so you may have trouble booking vendors - if you have a venue or other major venues in mind, I'd suggest you start trying to get contracts now.
Posted by LauraT25[/QUOTE]

wow thanks.
I know lots of people thought it was a MUD.
that really sent me spinning because I felt like I was in a full-on drama situation.

p.s. the neuterversary thing is just a joke from the bump

LauraT25 · March 2010

The Bump is like a whole different planet to me - different 'rules', attitudes, norms, everything.

jasmineh7777 · March 2010

Damn it! What is that quote from? Why can't I think of the name!

sarah0725 · March 2010

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[QUOTE]No one is getting my musical theater quote. ::pouts::
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]

I get it. My sister and I listened to the Les Mis soundtrack so much when we were kids that my older brother went out and bought us a tape of ...Forum so that he could hear something else from time to time.

sucrets4 · March 2010

lol, Sarah! I went to see Les Mis on bway with school when I was in 8th grade. My mom gave me some money for a souvenir. I really wanted a tshirt, but got the cassette tape so that I could introduce it to her and she could fall in love, take me to see it again, and then get me a tshirt. *lol*

melissa_leavitt · March 2010

" #1 - Having a date means you're engaged, ring or no ring. If you're not engaged, you don't have a date, just an idea.

#2 - When you're getting married, you get 1 day. Not a week, not a month, not 6 months.

#3 - If your guests are going to compare decor, etc., they're going to do it regardless of how far apart the weddings are.

#4 - Any form of "counteracting" will be seen as tacky and petty. Your best course of action is to be happy for them and worry about your own wedding as if theirs wasn't a factor...because it really isn't. "

I completely agree with this

fangsiting · March 2010

You're on team green and going on a cruise?

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