is it ok to not invite dad's girlfriend?

khm82 · April 2010

So... Mom is coming to the wedding, Dad's other ex-wife is coming, and Dad is coming. Can I not invite his live-in girlfriend? I like her, I've spent time with her, but I don't want all three women in the same room and she's not family. Is it completely rude not to invite her?

tidetravel · April 2010

Yep, it's rude. They are living together. They are a social unit and social units cannot be broken apart.

brookelynpaisley · April 2010

Nope - they live together, so they're an established social unit. Major breach of etiquette to not invite her. Your parents are adults - they'll have to figure out how to get along for a day.

nda_roxybabe · April 2010

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[QUOTE]So... Mom is coming to the wedding, Dad's other ex-wife is coming, and Dad is coming. Can I not invite his live-in girlfriend? I like her, I've spent time with her, but I don't want all three women in the same room and she's not family. Is it completely rude not to invite her?
Posted by khm82[/QUOTE]
You should definitely invite her. To invite his exwife and your mother but not her is rude.

PsyDet 2155 · April 2010

Yes, it would be rude. Would you appreciate going to a wedding and not having your significant other be invited? I know I wouldn't. Your Mom and ex-step-mom are both adults and should act accordingly on your wedding day.