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RSVP Card Opinions Needed Please!

kkidd28kkidd28 member
Ninth Anniversary 100 Comments
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My reception is adults only....so I have already heard from one of the attendees that she & her husband will only be attending the ceremony because their 12 year old daughter cant attend the reception...how can I word my reception card to include that option?  Does this wording sound ok?  Any suggestions or comments are appreciated!  They need to go out in about 2 - 3 weeks!

Number of Guests attending the Ceremony  ___ of __                        
Number of Guests to Attend Reception ___ of ____        
Declines with Regret  ____

Thanks in advance!
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Re: RSVP Card Opinions Needed Please!

  • Jeffie86Jeffie86
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    edited December 2011
    I don't know if this is a regional thing, but I don't think I've ever seen something like that on an RSVP.  I don't know how many more cases like this you'll have, and kind of think it's not necessary to put that on there--I think people that don't plan on attending both generally let you know.

    I could be wrong, and how you have it would be a fine way of accounting for that, but it looks a little too wordy.  Maybe just put:

    (Number) Attending ceremony: __
    (Number) Attending reception: __
    Declines with regret: __
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  • kkidd28kkidd28 member
    Ninth Anniversary 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Its not regional - its to prevent extras from being added. to our guest list of roughly 240.  I don't know all of them either so I'm not sure if they would all even let me know?  I just know if this situation because the girl is one of my girl scouts and the mom is one of my fellow girl scout leaders.

    But it got me thinking....I have church members from my parents previous church that is about 3 hours away....I'm not sure if they will be able to stay for a reception that ends at 9 pm and then travel back home in time for the next day.  I dont want to pay $100 for them if they're not going to actually be at the reception.....  Decisions...decisons....
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  • iamjoesgurliamjoesgurl member
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    edited December 2011
    I've always thought that it was a given that if you respond affirmatively, you are attending both the ceremony and reception.  If you are concerned that people will respond affirmatively and then only attend the ceremony, I guess you should be more clear on the invite.  You probably don't need a count on the ceremony though and I think people would be confused by having to answer 2 of 3 lines.  Sorry - I'm not really helpful.  I don't know what a good suggestion is.  Perhaps the Etiquette board could help.
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  • Myroni03Myroni03
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with PP that if someone responds yes they are committing themselves to both the ceremony AND reception.... I have a feeling your friend is in the minority of not attending both or she may be trying to force you into letting her bring the 12 year old. My advice (and what I'm doing) is to write...

    "We are reserving (2) places in your honor..."
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  • kkidd28kkidd28 member
    Ninth Anniversary 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    thanks to everyone who has responded so far - still listening...

    is it just me....everytime i go on the etiquette board, half the time its not wedding related - lol!  Its just manners in general (smile)!

    i think i will go back to my original __ seats have been reserved in your honor....
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  • iamjoesgurliamjoesgurl member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree that the E board has issues and most of the conversations are NWR, but there is a lot of traffic there so I thought maybe it would help.  I personally don't like posting there because I'm not in the "In" crowd so most of my posts are ignored so I can understand hesitancy to post there.
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  • LadyB64LadyB64
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    edited December 2011
    I am having my ceremony and reception at different locations (about a 30 minute drive apart) and I am also concerned about guests coming for ceremony but not to reception. My FI and I have decided to do online RSVPs through The Knot website, but we are still sending a reception card with our invitation with the venue's address on it.  The card also directs our guests to our wedding website with a link to RSVP on The Knot. It's worded like this:

    "Kindly RSVP before September 15. Response needed for reception only."

    The online RSVP also allows you to put all names of each party on your guest list, so when the time comes to RSVP, any name not included in the party is clearly not invited (i.e., children).

     I hope this helps! Good luck and God bless.
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  • monrettamonretta
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    my cards are going to look like

    We have reserved one seat in your honor.
    Mr. Jay Walker

    Response not received by September 1st, 2010 may not be accommodated.
    ____ accepts ____ regrets

    __Beef Tips or  __Chicken Parmesan


    I am making a card with a name for each person invited (may cost me more to mail, but will I want to advoid headaches later

    my suggestion to you would be

    We have reserved three seats in your honor.
    Mr. Jay Walker

    Response not received by September 1st, 2010 may not be accommodated.


    Ceromony ____ accepts ____ regrets

    Reception ____ accepts ____ regrets

     

                                  #__Beef or # __Chicken

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