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rikachika · September 2010

I am having an inner debate over lables verses hving the mailing envelopes profesionally done by a caligrapher? Any thoughts?

iamsteph · September 2010

I hear it's "bad etiquette" to use labels. I ended up using clear labels because ink on the metallic finish on my envelopes didn't show up. If you have nice cursive (or even print), you don't need it professionally done. However, I don't think anyone will refuse to go to your wedding if you use labels.

mysticl · September 2010

I ran the envelopes through my printer and printed the addresses directly on them. No one has said anything to me about it and personally I have never noticed how the address on the envelope was done.

Lisa50 · September 2010

If those are your only two choices, go with the calligrapher. I don't think labels look good on personal correspondence. Even though clear labels would skirt the color-matching issue, it just doesn't seem as nice.

I have nice penmanship, but will likely go with a calligrapher.

banana468 · September 2010

Labels are one of the last resorts you should use for addressing the envelopes. If you have nice handwriting, DIY is best.

JoyMatt424 · September 2010

DIY is the way to go. One of my BMs and myself have great penmanship, so we're doing it ourselves.

Heathirdd · September 2010

I don't think "tacky" is the right word, but I think the handwritten is so much more indicative that you are inviting them because they are special to you. Also you are asking them (though they are probably excited to) to set aside their time, possibly travel to your wedding, possibly buy you a gift and celebrate with you. Maybe think about how you would react to receiving a handwritten (whether its by a calligrapher, you or a friend w nice handwriting) vs a label...I heard a friend of mine hired an art student from the local college (she put up flyers) for like $1 an envelope...(they were stoked to make the extra $$)

Best of luck!!

Heather

mysticl · September 2010

I have to disagree with Heather. I have never considered the way an envelope was addressed to indicate how the sender felt about me. In fact I've never even noticed how it was done. Sending an invite to the wedding indicates the sender's level of feeling. Also, how is it at all personal if you hire some stranger to address them? I'd consider a bride going through the hassel of formatting and printing labels (or envelopes) way more personal than her handing them off to some person who has never met any of the guests and is just in it for the money. And even if the guest decides to keep the invite as a momento the envelope is probably going to get trashed so how much money do you really want to put into it? Just my personal opinion.

marissa_claire · September 2010

If you're going to print, I would go through the effort to print directly on the envelopes rather than using a label.

aerinpegadrak · September 2010

I vote for printing directly on the envelopes. I saw the bio of one girl who developed a sort of loopy font for the calligraphy rather than trying to do one of the more standard calligraphy styles, and then just did them herself. I just think that labels look bad.

banana468 · September 2010

And there IS a correct and incorrect way to follow etiquette here. Labels are a no no.

banana468 · September 2010

Why do you need to use a calligrapher? Can you teach yourself?

A friend gave me a kit (they cost maybe $15 to $20 at bookstores and craft shops) and I taught myself a basic font with the kit and pens that were included. I also used the included pens to addres the envelopes.

MyNameIsNot · September 2010

Someone on here downloaded a "calligraphy font" and printed it in light grey, and then went over it with a calligraphy pen. It looked like it had been done professionally.

But really, you don't need calligraphy. If your FMIL thinks it is so important, she can pay for it. Otherwise, just print on the envelopes or print them yourself.

aerinpegadrak · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_tacky?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:496d9941-1705-44c6-817d-097f25d78fecPost:f3163b76-40b8-46e9-b068-97c462ab5bb9">Re: Tacky??</a>:
[QUOTE]THanks for al your input ladies. I personally do not feel that it's a big deal but my FMIL is adminate that I use her caligrapger for $1.25 per envelope!!! sigh, I'll just have to work some OT to be 'classy' in her eyes.
Posted by rikachika[/QUOTE]
If she's so adamant about it, she can pay. If she isn't willing to pony up the money, then she can accept how you decide to go about it. You just have to be willing to tell her that.

scorpiorlr · September 2010

There is not a single thing wrong with labels. The clear ones will work perfectly fine. With so many Fonts out there today you can make it look very nice. If someone judges you on the fact your envelope has a label or is not handwritten it then they have some issues. People do not remember envelopes for a wedding. Its just another way to promote supposed tradition when its really just a money deal. Do what you want, its your wedding and if someone holds your envelope against you becuase it was a printed label ignore them. Spend your money on other important things not something that hits the waste been 2 minutes after they got it.

MyNameIsNot · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_tacky?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:496d9941-1705-44c6-817d-097f25d78fecPost:e7ad30dc-7944-4ec6-b504-31f495c376f7">Re: Tacky??</a>:
[QUOTE]There is not a single thing wrong with labels. The clear ones will work perfectly fine. With so many Fonts out there today you can make it look very nice. If someone judges you on the fact your envelope has a label or is not handwritten it then they have some issues. People do not remember envelopes for a wedding. Its just another way to promote supposed tradition when its really just a money deal. Do what you want, its your wedding and if someone holds your envelope against you becuase it was a printed label ignore them. Spend your money on other important things not something that hits the waste been 2 minutes after they got it.
Posted by scorpiorlr[/QUOTE]

<div>Keep in mind, this is coming from a person who thinks it's ok to include a nasty note along with the invitation. </div>

JanoBean75 · September 2010

OP has already stated she can't print on her metallic envelopes. However, OP, someone mentioned printing them and tracing them over. Yes, it's time consuming, but it may work well for you. Otherwise, just take your time and write them all in your own handwriting.

Labels, IMO, are okay when you're using a decorative wrap-around label (becoming increasingly popular in the stationery world), or on black/dark envelopes.

Heathirdd · September 2010

This seems to be a point of contention and someone on here aready stated they disagreed with me...but I really DO believe that unless you are inviting 300 people a handwritten address (I mean c'mon, you arent writing the entire invite, info or SERMON over for each one, just the 5 line address!) (does NOT have to be a "professional"!!) address sets the tone for your wedding....you are asking (again--they are prob THRILLED to be invited) but again, remember you are inviting = asking them to spend their time with you...the 1 minute it would take to write their address yourself is such a simple way to put your personal touch on things....

I just think back to how etiquitte tells you not to send an email thank you, send a HANDWRITTEN note...a mass excel label printing...not the same..

APOLOGIES to you ladies who do not feel the same, I'm not trying to offend I just think there are a few things to defend

Best of luck either way,

xheather

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