Worst Wedding Etiquette Offense?

Smile1114 · July 2010

Avoiding work today and trying not to use vaca time and go home early, whats the worst wedding etiquette offense you've seen? Keep me busy!

Bride_to_be_2011 · July 2010

Mentioning your registry on an insert in the invite. The girl mentioned where in the wedding website to go for the registry. I am sure people would have figured that part out if she didn't add that in. Clearly she is not on TK or she would have known it is tacky haha.

Smile1114 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]Mentioning your registry on an insert in the invite. The girl mentioned where in the wedding website to go for the registry. I am sure people would have figured that part out if she didn't add that in. Clearly she is not on TK or she would have known it is tacky haha.
Posted by Bride_to_be_2011[/QUOTE]

I agree about putting this on the wedding invitation but how do you feel about putting this on a bridal shower invitation?

Bride_to_be_2011 · July 2010

That is the only place it is allowed.

Smile1114 · July 2010

Glad I asked, because alot of people debate this but I thought it was acceptable for a shower invitation and thought it to be the only place allowed.

cutie4420 · July 2010

agreed above about the registries, only for your shower is it appropriate!!

I am so horrified when I see someone in a white dress at a wedding! I dont know how people could even think its okay! one of my biggest pet peeves!

[Deleted User] · July 2010

In England many people have a sit down meal with family and close friends and then have an 'evening do' which includes a DJ, a buffet and inviting more guests.

Both events have cash bars.

Higher class weddings do not do this, they have weddings like ours.

People asking/ assume they are inviting or asking if they can bring a date.

caraellen23 · July 2010

I agree, assuming you are invited. Its just uncomfortable for everyone.

LaRositaMonita · July 2010

I was once invited to an engagement party that the couple threw for themselves. It was at a venue in Philly and you had to pay to get in. I found an excuse not to go, but DH did not.

And yes, I'm pretty sure DH and I also felt obligated to write them a check because the invitation didn't mention "no gifts".

Smile1114 · July 2010

Wearing white is horrible. If anyone does this at my wedding Im pretty sure we will no longer be on good terms. Who does that? And charging a cover to get into your engagement party is pretty bad.

[Deleted User] · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I was once invited to an engagement party that the couple threw for themselves. It was at a venue in Philly and you had to pay to get in. I found an excuse not to go, but DH did not. And yes, I'm pretty sure DH and I also felt obligated to write them a check because the invitation didn't mention "no gifts".
Posted by LaRositaMonita[/QUOTE]

<div>Wow.
<div>You aren't supposed to mention gifts at all, even to say no gifts. </div><div>
</div></div>

CA2PABride2Be · July 2010

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[QUOTE]Wearing white is horrible. If anyone does this at my wedding Im pretty sure we will no longer be on good terms. Who does that? And charging a cover to get into your engagement party is pretty bad.
Posted by Smile1114[/QUOTE]

Best man's date wore white to my wedding. I just smiled, shook her hand, and thought "everyone's thinking how tacky you are right now."

Bride_to_be_2011 · July 2010

CA2PA- Isn't the best man the one you don't like or is it just one of the groomsmen you didn't like?

I agree, wearing white is just stupid. How could anyone think that is ok?

PharmJen · July 2010

Not being invited with a guest and calling the bride and groom to see if you can bring one...only to show up solo.

My boss told me he's been invited to weddings that say "No boxed gifts" - read: cards wtih loot only! That's a whole new level of gift mentioning.

CA2PABride2Be · July 2010

No best man I like - it was one of the groomsmen. But we made up by the wedding and I realized he's a good guy (he's still a tool though). Funny story - we're all in the limo and I yell out, "Ok it's official I love Josh's friends!" Right at that moment one of the groomsman accidently spills champagne all over me. It was completely fine b/c you couldn't see anything but I hope there are some good reaction shots out of it. Later in the night another groomsman spilled beer on me too. So a tip for ladies getting married - stay away from people with red wine that night!

Bride_to_be_2011 · July 2010

Going off of Pharm's post:

Being invited to a wedding plus one and not coming at all, when you RSVP 2 people. My one friend is not being invited to my wedding because he did that to my MOH. I use the term friend loosely though.

Smile1114 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]Going off of Pharm's post: Being invited to a wedding plus one and not coming at all, when you RSVP 2 people. My one friend is not being invited to my wedding because he did that to my MOH. I use the term friend loosely though.
Posted by Bride_to_be_2011[/QUOTE]

I just pm'd you doesnt relate to this post tho.

PhillyGal34 · July 2010

i was in a wedding where the invite said "cash gifts appreciated" we also found out on the way to the reception that it was a cash bar and we would be "expected" to buy the bride and grooms drinks. i also did not get and guest to that wedding and was in the wedding party (which i totally understand) but now she is divorced and told a friend that if she did not get plus one for the guy she just started dating she is not coming to my wedding!!!!!

Bride_to_be_2011 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]i was in a wedding where the invite said "cash gifts appreciated" we also found out on the way to the reception that it was a cash bar and we would be "expected" to buy the bride and grooms drinks. i also did not get and guest to that wedding and was in the wedding party (which i totally understand) but now she is divorced and told a friend that if she did not get plus one for the guy she just started dating she is not coming to my wedding!!!!!
Posted by PhillyGal34[/QUOTE]

OH. MY. GOSH! Wow, this is the ultimate in rudeness.

Smile1114 · July 2010

Ok, I understand needing to be able to save money but cash bar and asking for cash gifts is ridiculous.

PhillyGal34 · July 2010

she also had all the bridesmaids go do all the decorating the morning of the wedding... but didn't tell us until that morning when we got calls with her yelling at us asking why we werent there... ummm because she never told us!

Bride_to_be_2011 · July 2010

Bridezilla much?!

PhillyGal34 · July 2010

she is my "what not to do!" role model!

Bride_to_be_2011 · July 2010

LOL I know right! Do the opposite of her!

Stacylynn702 · July 2010

I realize this is an old post but it relates to something that just happened to me. A friend of mine (who I do love dearly) told me people she does not want seated at her table. She literally gave me a list of names, as if I don't have enough to worry about. This may not seem like a big deal but I was shocked when she came to me with this. I almost feel like she and her husband want their own Sweetheart table.

aprovencher21 · July 2010

I find dollar dances, dollar dashes and bride auctions to be tacky and rude. Also, not having enough seating at the reception or ceremony is pretty rude as well.

PhillyGal34 · July 2010

aproven- just an FYI- in some cultures a dollar dance is part of the tradition... as much as wearing a white dress is in most traditions.(keep in mind that wearing a white dress is taboo in some places as well) I am not having one because it is not in my culture and yes, I think it is tacky if it is just another way to get money... but I just wanted to throw that out there.

Bride_to_be_2011 · July 2010

WTF is a bride auction!? Weird. And I know that dollar dances are in some cultures and some parts of the country as well. They are not tacky really.... but just a little odd.

Stacy- That is insane, I would have been floored and speechless!! What did you say to her?

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