FI's mom REALLY wants to throw me a separate shower (aside from my family and friends) for FI's friends and family. I'm all for it, told her to have at it. The problem is where she wants to have it. She has this friend, let's call her M, that always likes to help her throw parties and always hosts them at her house....now here's the kicker. M's husband is a convicted pedofile who is getting out of jail in 1 month and moving home. There's no way in H-E-L-L I want my shower to be there, but I know that's exactly where FMIL is going to plan for it to be. Do I say something to her or what?