POLL: BABIES!

csartini · December 2009

I think if one more person asks when I plan to get knocked up I'm going to scream. Can I just be married for a minute PUH-LEASE!

What do you ladies think... what's the baby plan for everyone after the big day is over?

sarack · December 2009

Def not trying to get pregnant on our wedding night. I am scared to have babies... I used to want them right away and yes i think about thema ll the time, but i'm scared. I already have enough trouble worrying about my puppy... haha

therickson · December 2009

Kids are still up for debate... We have many things we want to do first!! We will see where we are at in a few years

elleh08 · December 2009

My FI wants them right away... which is great because I know he will be a great Dad but we are going to wait a couple years.... I want to have some time to be a wife and not go right to being a Mom..but I definitley want kids!!!

sarack · December 2009

Def not trying to get pregnant on our wedding night. I am scared to have babies... I used to want them right away and yes i think about thema ll the time, but i'm scared. I already have enough trouble worrying about my puppy... haha

sarack · December 2009

fi wants kids yesterday.. he is so ready, so he thinks. i think he'll be a great dad too.. just wanna wait a while. we originally going to wait 4 years..now he has talked me down to 30 months after we are married to start having babies.. haha..

Ciaram22 · December 2009

I am ready for kids whenever. I can't wait to be a mom. We aren't really doing anything to prevent them except use condoms (maybe TMI). DH wants to wait until we have a house before we have children.

therickson · December 2009

I tried to convince FI that I wanted to wait 10 years... He did not go for it! He doesn't want to wait until we are almost 40... I guess he is probably smart about that! I think we compromised on 4 -5 years we could think about it...

I am too selfish and want to travel and have fun!!!

ahuette · December 2009

never. I don't want kids...I know it seems "weird", but I don't even want kids. Im content with being an Aunt.

therickson · December 2009

In Response to <a href="http://seattle.weddings.com/main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_washington-seattle_poll-babies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:104Discussion:c0c7df42-e246-4b0b-8164-a791d422619bPost:5f651dd8-cd1d-4ca3-bfc2-f2025c107e22">Re: POLL: BABIES!</a>:
[QUOTE]never. I don't want kids...I know it seems "weird", but I don't even want kids. Im content with being an Aunt. :)
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</div><div>I am totally at that stage right now too - I am just trying to keep myself open for FI.... SO excited to be an aunt though... My bro told me I may have a pregnant BM!!!

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Ciaram22 · December 2009

Originally we were going to wait 4 or 5 years. But DH would really like to have at least 1 before hes 40 which will be in 4. I won't break 30 for 6 1/2 years so I'm good for whenever.

Tygirljojo · December 2009

When I was younger I had a plan. Married at 26, first kid at 28. Real life: I'll be 28 going on 29 when we get married so as it stands, I'll probably be about 31 or 32 at the earliest with first baby. Amazing how life goes, right?

sarack · December 2009

tygirl.. i had a plan too.. married at 24.. babies at 27.. its following way too close to the plan.... kinda freaky!

Tygirljojo · December 2009

Lol, wish I could say the same, but I'm fine with how it's turning out. Honestly, I just don't feel my age.

Ciaram22 · December 2009

I never really had a plan. I just wanted to get married and become a mom.

jennuinne · December 2009

I had a plan too, and I'm way off. I'll be 30 when we get married. But, like Tygirl said, I don't feel my age.

FI wants kids yesterday and we've been together over 6 years already and we have a (small) house. So, our plan is to start right away. Although I go back and forth on waiting a year. Sometimes I get scared and I think I'm too selfish and won't have the energy. But, we're ready and our parents are definitely ready (and vocal about it

). We'll see...

BrandyL10 · December 2009

FI and I decided on making sure we're finacially stable before we pull the goalie. And that we have a house/condo, room for the kid. I want one, but really not ready. Parents are SOOOO ready though. My parents had me when they were early 30's, so I figure thats where I'll be at!

cmcclaning · December 2009

My "plan" was to get married at 25 and babies at 26. The married at 25 will be right but it will be more like babies at 27 or 28. Stupid nursing school, haha j/k.

carrieoz_76 · December 2009

I feel like we have a lot to do before we think about babies. They're not on my radar at all right now.

LauraLynneC · December 2009

we talk about it and we're both on the fence. I have 2 teens and my ovaries are a little dusty...so we'll have to decide one way or another soon before the choice is made for us.

KST_ · December 2009

While this polling feature is a good idea in theory, it's all wonky! This is the first time I've looked at the thread and it won't let me vote but shows all the results. *pout*

I used to be dead set against kids for myself. then my sister had my first nephew 4 years ago and it made me rethink it. Now I definitely want kids, although I'd rather just one. I'm so structured it's ridiculous. I'm very firm on wanting at least 1-2 years of FI as my DH before we start trying. Once you have kids, it's never the same and I think it's important we get over the adjustment to married life and have some time together before there's a fourth person in our home. (Ivan kitty being third.) I'll be married at 30 so that puts kids at around 32-33, I guess about when my mom had me.

Tygirljojo · December 2009

KS - my MOH mentioned a couple years ago about when a woman see's "the baby that makes you want one." I met that kid a year and a half ago - she's the daugther of one of FI's friends and is half asian like me. Seriously, I want my daugther to be a cross between her and the "I'm a PC and I'm 4 and a half" girl. ADORABLE!

karebear219 · December 2009

FI also really wants babies. We will probably start trying a year from now. My sister is getting married March 2011 and I don't want to be huge at her wedding. It took me a while to accept that FI wants kids so soon. It isn't that I am not ready, just scared. Over our engagment the idea has grown on me, plus the sooner we start the sooner the kid moves out

dmw_2010 · December 2009

We'll be waiting to start trying for about 3 years after the wedding, mostly because I'll be in grad school until then. If school wasn't an issue, we'd probably start trying a year or two after the wedding.

jennlin · December 2009

i want to start trying in about a year..but hubz wants to wait for a year and a half. i've always wanted to be a young mom..(start at 24), but i guess it's not realistic now that we're past that. we have too much traveling we want to do!

KST_ · December 2009

Tygirl - huh, hadn't heard of that before. My previous 'absolutely not' stance was a reflection of how I felt physically and mentally, I just didn't want to pass all that on to any child and stick them with my genetics. I've gotten over that, plus FI's health is pretty good so hopefully they'll get more of his. My nephews have just started hitting the stage where taking care of them was a bit of a task rather than just crazy, energetic but still fun. I bet your kid will be CUTE. Ours will be very WASP

Unless they get FI's super-curly hair from his Russian Jewish great-grandma's side.

Pixel'sMom · December 2009

As I got older I wanted kids less and less. This year I was told that my chances of being a mom are less than 30%. FI and I decided we don't want to invest in . So thanks to mother-nature I think we'll opt out for being cool aunt/uncle!

Archel · December 2009

Neat thread - I enjoyed reading the responses. As for me, I'm going to wait at least 5 years.

My "plan" was to get married around 26 and have kids at 28, but the marriage thing is happening a little earlier than expected. FI and I are ready and all the other pieces of the puzzle are coming together (house, dog, family thinks we should be married), so the plan has been moved up.

That being said, even though everyone has been asking the baby question and our families seem to be ready for them, we are not. We want a chance to live our lives, travel the world, and just relax without the responsibility of babies.

SaraAnnAlvarado2010 · December 2009

It's so funny because FI and I got so much crap from people like "When are you going to get married?" and now all we hear is "When are you going to have babies?" Ugh! Please people I have an academic plan to achieve first! Master's Degree then a baby!

Plus I want to enjoy my 20's.

cupcakepirate · December 2009

I've actually been curious where you ladies stood on this.

DH wants kids yesterday. I'd like at least a year before we start trying (after he gets out of the military). But in all reality, DH is going to go to school when he gets out (next Nov) and that will take about 2 years. And in that time I really want to pay off my student loans (Which are under 10k, so it's doable, even though it will suck.) in that time. The military is paying for his schooling and giving him us a living allowance as long as he's in school. No babies while he's in school, and most preferably I'd like to wait until he's been a secure job for at least a year after he's done with school. All in all, we're waiting about 3 - 4 years. We've got all the time in the world though so there isn't a rush.

I'd like to find a house back home before we start trying as well. Back home = free/really cheap daycare, as MIL runs one out of her home.

jennyann28 · December 2009

I wouldn't mind having one now (but I can wait till after the wedding, lol). FI goes back and forth. Sometimes he wants one yesterday, because everyone we know (especially his friends) are having them. Then sometimes he's like, "Ahhhh, no!" He'll be 34 when we get married though, and he doesn't want to be an "old dad". So I don't suspect we'll wait too long after the wedding.

Oddly enough, my family has always been like, don't be in any hurry to have them, but over Thanksgiving my mom told me we could have them any time. She bought a bunch of baby stuff for my niece, so she's prepared, lol.

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