I became engaged last week, although my fiance and I had talked about it and started planning before he actually proposed. We had a date set for 2011, because of specific reasons, but we are kind of thinking about trying to move it up a year for other reasons.
Here are our reasons for waiting until 2011:
- I am currently in my sophmore year of college and attenting community college applying to transfer to a four-year college this coming fall (2010).
- I have always said that I wasn't going to get married until at least after my junior year of college.
- I turn 21 in March of 2011 and have always preferred to be able to legally drink at my wedding and my bachelorette party.
- My dad also told my mother that he was ok with the wedding if we waited until 2011. This was before he really approved of my fiance and the engagement.
We are considering talking to my parents (because they are the ones who really need to approve) about moving the wedding to this coming summer. We both want to be married to each other and don't want to wait, that's the real reason we want to move the date. But we have also been talking about it because of financial aid for college. Being married would give me almost two times as much financial aid than being single and we would be able to go ahead and be married sooner.
I need advice on bringing the question up to my parents. We are considering not going on a major honeymoon until I graduate college as a honeymoon and graduation celebration. We are also going to go through pre-marital counseling through my church where we are considering getting married.
Should we not try to push the date closer? Are we rushing it too much? Or is it reasonable to want to get married sooner?
Thank you for any input, advice, or any other opinions that you will be able to give me!
[ And CONGRATULATIONS to all of you ]