How much are you spending/will you spend on your wedding?

cvl105 · February 2010

inspired by the poll below...

cherylanddan0706 · February 2010

I'm pretty open about 20 or so, give or take.

cvl105 · February 2010

Well, if we're playing openly, which I don't mind...mind was probably around $37K, I just updated my rough budget file. haha.

$60K + - they must be some seriously awesome (or just huge guest list) weddings! I wanna go to one of those! haha

hcer0708 · February 2010

So far all I have booked is the reception but i plan on not going over 35k.

anika6200 · February 2010

60k + is the norm for the circle I am in. I went to one wedding that I think was around 40k, the rest have been 60k and up. Guest lists aren't huge around 200-250......

grace_ann · February 2010

im budgeted over 60 (with honeymoon) with a guestlist of 240 which i think is a lot - it was mostly becasue of the guest list and that we are spending more on the venue then originally planned

cvl105 · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_now-much-spendingwill-spend-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:56ecb52a-8050-4ad3-bbe3-2df29b8df824Post:ae9a605b-8852-47b3-a36f-a0f442a32c33">Re: Now much are you spending/will you spend on your wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]60k + is the norm for the circle I am in. I went to one wedding that I think was around 40k, the rest have been 60k and up. Guest lists aren't huge around 200-250......
Posted by anika6200[/QUOTE]

You must hang out with all wealthy people...I don't think I've been to 1 wedding that was 60K+...that I know of at least.

uppereastgirl · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://northjersey.weddings.com/Sites/weddings/Pages/main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_now-much-spendingwill-spend-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:56ecb52a-8050-4ad3-bbe3-2df29b8df824Post:ae9a605b-8852-47b3-a36f-a0f442a32c33">Re: Now much are you spending/will you spend on your wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]60k + is the norm for the circle I am in. I went to one wedding that I think was around 40k, the rest have been 60k and up. Guest lists aren't huge around 200-250......
Posted by anika6200[/QUOTE]

<div>How do you know? Did the people having the weddings tell you that? (Just curious -- kind of based on the "do you talk about what you're paying?" poll earlier.)</div>

cvl105 · February 2010

I didn't include HM in my vote...otherwise I'd be up higher, obviously.

cherylanddan0706 · February 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Now much are you spending/will you spend on your wedding? : You must hang out with all wealthy people...I don't think I've been to 1 wedding that was 60K+...that I know of at least.
Posted by cvl105[/QUOTE]

Ditto Chelsea wow! My friends wedding was huge (list and all) and they only spent about 50...

Chelsea, I might be going to my first 60k plus wedding in March, crystal plaza, saturday night (albeit in march) and from what i hear every upgrade available (not sure how true that is but well see)

hugauke · February 2010

oooh, you'll have to report back on the food I am getting married there in July. I've heard it's all excellent, but being that they don't do tastings, it would be great to hear people's favorites

mbcdefg · February 2010

I went to an Oheka Castle wedding a few years ago. Holy moly.

cvl105 · February 2010

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[QUOTE]I went to an Oheka Castle wedding a few years ago. Holy moly.
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]

wow, lucky! I've only seen pictures, but that place looks amazing. I know some people think it's the "trendy" place out in that area, but why not have your wedding there if you can afford it. It's incredible in pictures at least.

kle0113 · February 2010

We spent just under $30 on ours. That includes our HM!

Karma01 · February 2010

IWe went to a wedding at the Trump in Rye NY a few years ago it was amazing.

We are saving a lot of money by getting married in Feb.

uppereastgirl · February 2010

My in-laws went to a wedding at Oheka a few years ago ... on a Wednesday night in January. Am I the only one who finds it really inconsiderate to guests to have a wedding on a Wednesday night just so you can have it at the flashy princess place that you can't afford for even Thursday, when there are so many great places they could have had it at for a similar price on Friday or Sunday or even Saturday? I thought it was bizarre.

cvl105 · February 2010

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[QUOTE]My in-laws went to a wedding at Oheka a few years ago ... on a Wednesday night in January. Am I the only one who finds it really inconsiderate to guests to have a wedding on a Wednesday night just so you can have it at the flashy princess place that you can't afford for even Thursday, when there are so many great places they could have had it at for a similar price on Friday or Sunday or even Saturday? I thought it was bizarre.
Posted by uppereastgirl[/QUOTE]

VERY bizarre...and tacky in my opinion.

anika6200 · February 2010

I guess so! If you look up the average wedding cost in the town I grew up on( I forget what website it is on that shows that information) that is around 55k. Also, for almost all the weddings I have been to the families are traditional and the FOB pays for the entire thing, so that might contribute. FI's family is Irish Catholic. My family doesn't subscribe to that

Just kidding.

As to how I know, for most just deduction based on the venue and peak season, the last few weddings I went to (85% on Saturdays peak season) Venetian, Skylands Manor in Ringwood, Hyatt Jersey City, A place in the Hamptons, Westmount. Some people told me how much they paid so I know the exact cost for a few....

Edit: I wrote the wrong Skylands sorry!

cvl105 · February 2010

Isn't the Skylands at Randolph on the crappy side? Maybe I'm remembering someone say that incorrectly. You also never hear people talking about it on here.

anika6200 · February 2010

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[QUOTE]Isn't the Skylands at Randolph on the crappy side? Maybe I'm remembering someone say that incorrectly. You also never hear people talking about it on here.
Posted by cvl105[/QUOTE]

I am going to edit I meant the Ringwood one at the botanical gardens. Oops!

anika6200 · February 2010

Also, not to harp on this, but think about it this way:

They say reception should be about 50% of your budget, food, cake etc.

200 people * $150 pp = $30,000 * 2 = $60,000
250 people * $150 pp = $37,500 * 2= $75,000

Linqdz · February 2010

Are the choices just for the reception cost? Or does it include flowers, dress, invitations, etc..?

cvl105 · February 2010

TOTAL wedding...down to the bubbles for after the ceremony. haha

cvl105 · February 2010

I can't believe that 60K+ is the largest percentage so far...wowza

Linqdz · February 2010

haha, got it.

uppereastgirl · February 2010

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[QUOTE]Also, not to harp on this, but think about it this way: They say reception should be about 50% of your budget, food, cake etc. 200 people * $150 pp = $30,000 * 2 = $60,000 250 people * $150 pp = $37,500 * 2= $75,000
Posted by anika6200[/QUOTE]

<div>You're right about that, but I think the budget calculators can fall off on the deep end. Certain services only get so expensive (can you really go overboard on limos?), and the brides who are spending a large amount just because of huge guest lists may not be going overboard on photographer or dress or limo etc. because their budgets are sucked up by the per person venue costs. This isn't always the case, but can be.</div><div>
</div><div>The average by zip calculators are b.s. by the way. My hometown is $44,000 - $74,000 -- could that range by any wider? And my current neighborhood, the West Village (which is pricey even by Manhattan standards) is $19,000 - $34,000. And probably many of them are having Manhattan weddings? </div><div>
</div><div>I really was asking though because I was wondering if this is something that you guys discuss amongst yourselves or if it was just guesses. A lot of people I know who have the money to have fancy weddings wouldn't tell friends how much they cost, and wouldn't think about it enough to figure out who was the one who only spent $40,000.</div>

melissa82 · February 2010

For this board, I think the categories are too low/should be a bit wider.

What's interesting to me is that for other places we've lived/boards I've posted on, 20K is the extreme high end, with most budgets coming in at $5-15K. I dare someone to link to this on P&E (I hate saying just E).

anika6200 · February 2010

I agree, that sometimes the budget calculators and location estimators are off, just using it to put a little perspective on what might be going on.

Some people did discuss with me fairly freely their budgets even before I was engaged. I only really started thinking about it once I got engaged and started looking at places. Some of those places I looked at so I know the approximate cost. Before I got engaged, I never really thought about what weddings cost.....

cvl105 · February 2010

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[QUOTE]For this board, I think the categories are too low/should be a bit wider. What's interesting to me is that for other places we've lived/boards I've posted on, 20K is the extreme high end, with most budgets coming in at $5-15K. I dare someone to link to this on P&E (I hate saying just E).
Posted by melissa82[/QUOTE]

I created a new poll for the 60K+ girls to give a better range... :o)

NJMom050911 · February 2010

My guest list is 170 and counting 150 we're at $50K.......that's with everything expect for my dress (my mom is paying for the dress)

melissa82 · February 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How much are you spending/will you spend on your wedding? : I created a new poll for the 60K+ girls to give a better range... :o)
Posted by cvl105[/QUOTE]

I didn't mean you had to start a whole new poll. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" /> I just meant it as a general statement.

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