Should I add a Bridesmaid?

thurmanpowell · May 2012

This isn't really an issue yet, but I'm debating how I should go about this.

So, my FI originally had 3 groomsmen and I had 3 bridesmaids (I choose a friend from college, a friend from high school, and a cousin). Then two of my younger cousins asked me to be in my wedding (yeah, kinda rude, but that's fine, they're young and were really excited) and I remembered how excited I was to be in wedding at their age, so I made them Junior Bridesmaids. They're both in teanagers, so not quite JB ages, but whatever, it was fine.

My FI really wanted to add a groomsman (oldest friend) and just added number 4 about a week ago.

So here is my question: Do I "promote" a junior bridesmaid, or do I ask another friend? I do have one friend who has made it very clear that she wants to be in my wedding. Very clear as in, might be a little hurt that I didn't ask her. I didn't ask her because she has a huge full-back tattoo but she keeps offering to cover it up with makeup...

I'm leaning towards "promoting" the JB that asked me first.

edit: I should also add that im leaning towards the JB because the friend who wants to be in the wedding has a lot of drama with one of my bridesmaids. I don't think they'd cause a scene, but I don't want to feel like the mediator.

JNV825 · May 2012

everyone is going to tell you to keep it as is and not offend anyone but if you like symmetry i would go with the JB

Girlie1030 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]This isn't really an issue yet, but I'm debating how I should go about this. So, my FI originally had 3 groomsmen and I had 3 bridesmaids (I choose a friend from college, a friend from high school, and a cousin). Then two of my younger cousins asked me to be in my wedding (yeah, kinda rude, but that's fine, they're young and were really excited) and I remembered how excited I was to be in wedding at their age, so I made them Junior Bridesmaids. They're both in teanagers, so not quite JB ages, but whatever, it was fine. My FI really wanted to add a groomsman (oldest friend) and just added number 4 about a week ago. So here is my question: Do I "promote" a junior bridesmaid, or do I ask another friend? I do have one friend who has made it very clear that she wants to be in my wedding. Very clear as in, might be a little hurt that I didn't ask her. <strong>I didn't ask her because she has a huge full-back tattoo but she keeps offering to cover it up with makeup...</strong> I'm leaning towards "promoting" the JB that asked me first. edit: I should also add that im leaning towards the JB because the friend who wants to be in the wedding has a lot of drama with one of my bridesmaids. I don't think they'd cause a scene, but I don't want to feel like the mediator.
Posted by thurmanpowell[/QUOTE]

If this is reason enough for you to not ask her than I'd guess you're not really that good of friends to begin with.

I'd leave everthing as is. Promoting one JB over the other can also cause some hurt feelings, intended or not.

thurmanpowell · May 2012

A full back tattoo is a legitimate reason. It hours from her hair line to her waist, shoulder to shoulder! I want a back less dress, I don't want a tattoo on display.

Girlie1030 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]A full back tattoo is a legitimate reason. It hours from her hair line to her waist, shoulder to shoulder! I want a back less dress, I don't want a tattoo on display.
Posted by thurmanpowell[/QUOTE]

So esthetics are more important to you than your friend?

NicoleBreeze2013 · May 2012

I would have that GM be with both the JB I think it's sweet

iloveu4ever · May 2012

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[QUOTE]This isn't really an issue yet, but I'm debating how I should go about this. So, my FI originally had 3 groomsmen and I had 3 bridesmaids (I choose a friend from college, a friend from high school, and a cousin). Then two of my younger cousins asked me to be in my wedding (yeah, kinda rude, but that's fine, they're young and were really excited) and I remembered how excited I was to be in wedding at their age, so I made them Junior Bridesmaids. They're both in teanagers, so not quite JB ages, but whatever, it was fine. My FI really wanted to add a groomsman (oldest friend) and just added number 4 about a week ago. So here is my question: Do I "promote" a junior bridesmaid, or do I ask another friend? I do have one friend who has made it very clear that she wants to be in my wedding. Very clear as in, might be a little hurt that I didn't ask her. I didn't ask her because she has a huge full-back tattoo but she keeps offering to cover it up with makeup... I'm leaning towards "promoting" the JB that asked me first. edit: I should also add that im leaning towards the JB because the friend who wants to be in the wedding has a lot of drama with one of my bridesmaids. I don't think they'd cause a scene, but I don't want to feel like the mediator.
Posted by
thurmanpowell[/QUOTE]

Let it be mine are uneven

BrittneyRN · May 2012

Just let it be. Uneven sides are not a big deal at all. Also who cares about whether she has a tattoo or not? It's kinda crappy to not ask someone just because they have a tattoo.

owengirl996 · May 2012

I think you should just let it be. You still have some time until your wedding, and from reading these boards, I can tell you drastic things can happen with BMs in 7 months! Either way, it is fine to have things uneven, and will be easier on everyone in the end.

Viczaesar · May 2012

Don't promote (or for that matter, demote) your bridesmaids. They're not interchangeable players.

bunni727 · May 2012

Don't promote a junior bridesmaid, how would the other JB feel?

There is nothing wrong with uneven sides. There is everything wrong with valuing a backless dress over a good friend that happens to have artwork on her back.

saric83 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]A full back tattoo is a legitimate reason. It hours from her hair line to her waist, shoulder to shoulder! I want a back less dress, I don't want a tattoo on display.
Posted by thurmanpowell[/QUOTE]

Um...no. No, it is not. I have no tattoos, so I have no reason to feel personally offended by your opinion, but I think it's ridiculous. If I were your friend and I knew that was your reasoning, our friendship would be done. That sounds as stupid as not wanting to have a friend with blond hair because you don't want anyone with dark hair on display.

Her tattoo should have absolutely NOTHING to do with whether or not you want her standing up for you. The day of your wedding should be about the pledge and committment you and your FH are making to each other and the people who are there in support of that, not about some stupid backless dresses. Come on!

OBX2011 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]This isn't really an issue yet, but I'm debating how I should go about this. So, my FI originally had 3 groomsmen and I had 3 bridesmaids (I choose a friend from college, a friend from high school, and a cousin). Then two of my younger cousins asked me to be in my wedding (yeah, kinda rude, but that's fine, they're young and were really excited) and I remembered how excited I was to be in wedding at their age, so I made them Junior Bridesmaids. They're both in teanagers, so not quite JB ages, but whatever, it was fine. My FI really wanted to add a groomsman (oldest friend) and just added number 4 about a week ago. So here is my question: Do I "promote" a junior bridesmaid, or do I ask another friend? I do have one friend who has made it very clear that she wants to be in my wedding. Very clear as in, might be a little hurt that I didn't ask her. <strong>I didn't ask her because she has a huge full-back tattoo but she keeps offering to cover it up with makeup</strong>... I'm leaning towards "promoting" the JB that asked me first. edit: I should also add that im leaning towards the JB because the friend who wants to be in the wedding has a lot of drama with one of my bridesmaids. I don't think they'd cause a scene, but I don't want to feel like the mediator.
Posted by thurmanpowell[/QUOTE]

I stopped right after reading the bolded part.

So, you mean to tell me that you wouldn't have a close friend in your wedding b/c she has a tattoo? Are you for real? That has got to be one of the most judgmental things I have ever heard coming from anyone's actual thought process. What you are basically saying is that looks are more important to you than the depth of one's character. Shame on you. AND the fact that she is offering to cover it up is more than accommodating....but she really shouldn't HAVE to do this b/c you should love and accept her for WHO she is, not WHAT she looks like.

If you truly want her to be a part of your wedding, then you should ask her b/c you WANT her to be in the wedding and not just b/c it would make the sides even.

ETA: I don't care if my friend has a huge tattoo and a shaved head...she would be in my wedding b/c I love her and respect her for who she is, not what she looks like. This is beyond sad.

bunni727 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]I get the tattoo thing<strong> - I personally feel that tattoos along with piercings (and I have a nose ring) are out of place in weddings but to each their own</strong> - but if you want her as a bridesmaid and don't want the tattoo showing why don't you just get a dress with a back? And you friend is offering to cover it up anyways so I really don't see how that tattoo is an issue......I also think it would be sweet if one GM escorted the two JB up the aisle.
Posted by laurelrenee1[/QUOTE]

I personally feel that superficial jackasses are out of place at weddings, but to each their own.

Viczaesar · May 2012

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[QUOTE]A full back tattoo is a legitimate reason. It hours from her hair line to her waist, shoulder to shoulder! I want a back less dress, I don't want a tattoo on display.
Posted by thurmanpowell[/QUOTE]
What a horrible, superficial reason to not have someone in your wedding party. You should tell her your thoughts on the subject so that she knows how you really feel about her worth in your life.

thurmanpowell · May 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Should I add a Bridesmaid? : What a horrible, superficial reason to not have someone in your wedding party. You should tell her your thoughts on the subject so that she knows how you really feel about her worth in your life.
Posted by Viczaesar[/QUOTE]

<div>I have told her. Plus, I still think it's reasonable to not have a full back tattoo on display at your wedding. I don't know if you guys are uynderstanding this, it's not an issue of having a tattoo per se, two other bridesmaids will have small shoulder tattoos...</div><div>
</div><div>this is full back, suicide girl level, incomplete (and won't be done by then) tattoo. It would be completely out of place at my more formal wedding AND would offend both mine and the FIs family. </div><div>
</div><div>Not that this matters; I asked FIs sister as he mentioned that a relative of his said that she wanted to be a bridesmaid but didn't want to say anything. </div>

thurmanpowell · May 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Should I add a Bridesmaid? : I stopped right after reading the bolded part. So, you mean to tell me that you wouldn't have a close friend in your wedding b/c she has a tattoo? Are you for real? That has got to be one of the most judgmental things I have ever heard coming from anyone's actual thought process. What you are basically saying is that looks are more important to you than the depth of one's character. Shame on you. <strong>AND the fact that she is offering to cover it up is more than accommodating</strong>....but she really shouldn't HAVE to do this b/c you should love and accept her for WHO she is, not WHAT she looks like. If you truly want her to be a part of your wedding, then you should ask her b/c you WANT her to be in the wedding and not just b/c it would make the sides even. ETA: I don't care if my friend has a huge tattoo and a shaved head...she would be in my wedding b/c I love her and respect her for who she is, not what she looks like. This is beyond sad.
Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>These offers came unsolicited AFTER I already had bridesmaids. Basically, she asked me why I choose a certain bridesmaid in particular over her (the one she doesn't get along with) and I mention that it was simply because of the tattoo. Which is true, I don't like either of them more than the other. </div><div>
</div><div>THEN she started bring up tattoo cover up at random moments, such as posting it on my facebook wall. and Making comments that the other BM will look terrible due to her weight, etc.

</div>

Fancypantsamy · May 2012

You are free to think that a tattoo is a legitamate reason not to ask a close friend to be in your bridal party and hurt her feelings. That is your right. I'm also free to think you're extremely superficial and shallow. Aren't freedoms great?

longislandblondie · May 2012

Ignoring the Tattoo thing beacause I think enought has been said already, I do think it is tacky to promote, demote, or ask a woman to be a bridesmaid after everyone else as an afterthought to make your party even, this is thoughtless. However I understand your dilemna and as one of the earlier posters suggested having the extra groomsman escort both of the young ladies, one on each arm can be very charming, it makes everyone feel included. I know in your head you are probably devestated by the fact that you may not have even numbers for your pictures, since you are obviously very concerened about how things will look ascetically, but I guarantee any decent photographer will be able to work around this and make your pictures beautiful. Just keep in mind that even though this is 'your day' it does not give us brides the right to treat our friends as possesions and move them about at out convenience, they are doing a wonderful and loving thing by being there to support us in our big decision. I wish you the best of luck in your marriage and on your big day, hope this helps.

Viczaesar · May 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Should I add a Bridesmaid? : I have told her. Plus, I still think it's reasonable to not have a full back tattoo on display at your wedding. I don't know if you guys are uynderstanding this, it's not an issue of having a tattoo per se, two other bridesmaids will have small shoulder tattoos... this is full back, suicide girl level, incomplete (and won't be done by then) tattoo. It would be completely out of place at my more formal wedding AND would offend both mine and the FIs family. Not that this matters; I asked FIs sister as he mentioned that a relative of his said that she wanted to be a bridesmaid but didn't want to say anything.
Posted by thurmanpowell[/QUOTE]
Ick to your treatment of your friends and family as pretty - and interchangeable - props in your wedding.

Viczaesar · May 2012

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[QUOTE]Ignoring the Tattoo thing beacause I think enought has been said already, I do think it is tacky to promote, demote, or ask a woman to be a bridesmaid after everyone else as an afterthought to make your party even, this is thoughtless. However I understand your dilemna and as one of the earlier posters suggested having the extra groomsman escort both of the young ladies, one on each arm can be very charming, it makes everyone feel included. I know in your head you are probably devestated by the fact that you may not have even numbers for your pictures, since you are obviously very concerened about how things will look<strong> ascetically</strong>, but I guarantee any decent photographer will be able to work around this and make your pictures beautiful. Just keep in mind that even though this is 'your day' it does not give us brides the right to treat our friends as possesions and move them about at out convenience, they are doing a wonderful and loving thing by being there to support us in our big decision. I wish you the best of luck in your marriage and on your big day, hope this helps.
Posted by longislandblondie[/QUOTE]
Just an FYI, there's a huge difference in meaning between ascetic and aesthetic.

thurmanpowell · May 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Should I add a Bridesmaid? : Name calling? Awesome. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I said that I personally do not feel that piercings and tattoos are for weddings, thus I will be taking my nose ring out and I will be covering the tattoo I am getting this summer. Everyone is entitled to feel differently, and I do not judge a person who does choose to have tattoos visible at their wedding. OP, it wasn't cool that you based your decision on your friend having a tattoo. <strong>And she did offer to cover it up anyways</strong>. But that seems to be water under the bridge now. I still think it would be sweet to have one GM walking the two junior BM up the aisle.
Posted by laurelrenee1[/QUOTE]

<div>AFTER. This offer came AFTER. </div><div>
</div><div>Plus, the JBMs are escorting the children. The grooms men thing won't work. </div>

thurmanpowell · May 2012

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[QUOTE]Making a teen, who is close to adulthood, a "junior" bridesmaid is really a slap in the face. It's a pat on the head just because they're younger. "Junior" bridesmaid is silly, because ALL the maids do the same thing....walk down the aisle, hold flowers, and smile. Just call them all bridesmaids. Don't ask people just to make up numbers. The only people at the wedding who must be paired up are the couple.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

<div>They asked to be in the wedding. That's how I could accomodate them. I fail to see how that's a bigger "slap in the face" than saying no. </div><div>
</div><div>EDIT: PLUS, when I was in family weddings at their age, I was always a junior bridesmaid. Hell, I think i was a flower girl once at 14.Same with all my other teenage cousins. Nobody got offended, nobody thought twice about it. Sorry, but I've got to completely disregard you on this. </div>

thurmanpowell · May 2012

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[QUOTE]Ignoring the Tattoo thing beacause I think enought has been said already, I do think it is tacky to promote, demote, or ask a woman to be a bridesmaid after everyone else as an afterthought to make your party even, this is thoughtless. However I understand your dilemna and as one of the earlier posters suggested having the extra groomsman escort both of the young ladies, one on each arm can be very charming, it makes everyone feel included. I know in your head you are probably devestated by the fact that you may not have even numbers for your pictures, since you are obviously very concerened about how things will look ascetically, but I guarantee any decent photographer will be able to work around this and make your pictures beautiful. Just keep in mind that even though this is 'your day'<strong> it does not give us brides the right to treat our friends as possesions and move them about at out convenience, </strong>they are doing a wonderful and loving thing by being there to support us in our big decision. I wish you the best of luck in your marriage and on your big day, hope this helps.
Posted by longislandblondie[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I'm not sure how I'm doing that, This would just change when they walk down the aisle.

</div>

saric83 · May 2012

Then have one of your bridesmaids walk down with two groomsmen. It really doesn't have to be complicated. : )

Don't "promote" one of the junior BM's since I'm guessing that will cause a lot of hurt feelings for the one who isn't "promoted".

Asking someone later on simply because someone dropped out just isn't a good idea and is inviting more drama (as you mentioned earlier that this friend seems to cause extra drama.)

Leave the wedding party as-is and don't worry about it!

thurmanpowell · May 2012

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[QUOTE]Then have one of your bridesmaids walk down with two groomsmen. It really doesn't have to be complicated. : ) Don't "promote" one of the junior BM's since I'm guessing that will cause a lot of hurt feelings for the one who isn't "promoted". Asking someone later on simply because someone dropped out just isn't a good idea and is inviting more drama (as you mentioned earlier that this friend seems to cause extra drama.) Leave the wedding party as-is and don't worry about it!
Posted by saric83[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>Nobody's dropped out... the question was about making the wedding party larger. </div>

squeakyduck · May 2012

Don't ask anyone else because they will feel like they are second string. Uneven parties are fine.

I cannot believe back-tattoo girl still wants to be in your wedding. She must be a much nicer person than I, because if a "friend" had treated me like that, you wouldn't be able to pay me to so much as get a cup of coffee with them anymore.

thurmanpowell · May 2012

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[QUOTE]Don't ask anyone else because they will feel like they are second string. Uneven parties are fine. I cannot believe back-tattoo girl still wants to be in your wedding. She must be a much nicer person than I, because if a "friend" had treated me like that, you wouldn't be able to pay me to so much as get a cup of coffee with them anymore.
Posted by rentaduckie[/QUOTE]

<div>If you felt that entitled to <strong>my</strong> wedding... I wouldn't care. </div>

saric83 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Should I add a Bridesmaid? : Nobody's dropped out... the question was about making the wedding party larger.
Posted by thurmanpowell[/QUOTE]

Sorry....I had forgotten the original reason for the uneven number.

But regardless, the point is the exact same. Leave things as-is.

melb2013 · May 2012

This is a wedding- not show business. These are not actors in a show. You don't not choose them because of how they look- you choose them because they are emotionally close to you. Symmetry is absurd. Again this is just for show- you should be having people you love in your wedding party regardless of the number.

thurmanpowell · May 2012

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[QUOTE]This is a wedding- not show business. These are not actors in a show. You don't not choose them because of how they look- you choose them because they are emotionally close to you. Symmetry is absurd. Again this is just for show- you should be having people you love in your wedding party regardless of the number.
Posted by melb2013[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I'm really started to think that people on here don't even bother to read posts before replying to them... neither of my options would lead to a symmetrical wedding party. </div><div>
</div><div>TO CLARIFY: while we are still adding people to our wedding party, I was debating adding a BM, which would lead to 4 on one side and 6 on the other, or having a Junior bridesmaid walk down with a groomsman, leaving 4 on one side 5 on the other. </div>

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