My FSIL is getting married almost exactly a month before us. We had our date first, and due to money problems, she kept pushing her existing date back further and further until it was right against ours. She asked me if that was ok and I told her I personally do not mind, but she had best ask her family if they could deal with two weddings that close together.
My mom recently suggested that she and I either share a shower (to make it easier on her fam) or I attend hers, and then have a small one for just my family at a later time. I just don't know if having them at the same time will save her family (My FI's side) anything. The only convenience would be for OOT family on her side to be able to do both at once. Honestly, I don't care if I have a shower or not, but still want to make sure she and I are on the same page to avoid conflicting plans.
Do you think having them together is a good idea? Would it actually save her family/my in laws any money at all?