I have a question about baby showers.... I have a friend who is pregnant with her third child and made a comment to me that sounded.....odd? She has two older children, a daughter who is almost 6 and a son who is 17 months. Like I said, she is pregnant with their third child, due in Sept, two months before their son turns 2. She told me that she is wondering IF she is going to get a shower with this baby, because she said something to her mom, and mom's reply was "huh?" I told her that I didn't think showers were common for third pregnancies, since you probably have everything thing you would need for a baby already. I also realize that sometimes, if there is a large age gap, some people will throw a second baby shower. But there is going to be less than two years between her youngest two. She said that she had one with both her first and second, so why wouldn't she have one with this baby? Her family is about to move into a bigger place, and she wants it held at her house, as the first social gathering there. I told her to have a housewarming party, then. I also told her that it looks very greedy when someone asks others if they are going to have a shower for them, and typically, mothers don't host showers for their daughters, because it looks like they are just after gifts. A friend or other family member usually hosts baby showers, and it's held either at THEIR house, or a place of THEIR choosing. Am I wrong on this? Or am I just misled because I had a shower for my first baby, but not my second, who was born just over 2 years later?
MOH (different girl) already told me that she wants to have my wedding shower at her house, but I did not ask her about it, or if she was planning on hosting it for me. I haven't mentioned it to anyone else I know, except my mother. If she hosts it, wonderful; if not, oh well. I know that it's not her job as MOH to host anything, just to show up at the wedding for me. She is going above and beyond for me, and I'm so grateful for her. But I'm not asking for any of it. I'm appriciating it.
So, back on topic, the friend is now not talking to me.... again..... She recently dropped out of my BP, because of various reasons, including she didn't know if her health post-baby would be up to traveling (wedding is next March, baby will be 6 months), she didn't have anyone to keep her kids (she doesn't trust her husband, the kids' father, to watch them for any extended period of time), and the latest reason is that she is using the money her and H were budgeting for her being in the wedding to, instead, fly her MIL in from AZ to TX the week of my wedding. And she told me I was going to appriciate what she was going to tell me right before landing that one on me. How am I supposed to appriciate that? Will someone enlighten me?
I guess I just want to know if I was right in what I told her or if I'm wrong and she's right? TIA