You can read my original post here: http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_best-man-saying-inappropriate-things
Thank you all for your great advice last time, but now things seem to have gotten worse. My FI had his Bach party on Saturday night, and while he was cautious about what might happen, I knew he was really pleased that they threw one for him.
My FI came home at about midnight, and when I enquired how it went, his face dropped and he told me I didn't want to know, we went to bed where my FI proceeded to tell me what had happened at the party, apparently both twins (BM & GM) spent the entire evening, talking about all my flaws and how my FI's ex is so much better than me, they talked about how I am shy and quiet and that after seven years, I should be comfortable around them now but I never talk to them etc.
I am shy and quiet and I don't feel comfortable around these men to make conversation, I am not the kind of person who can enter any conversation and I can't do idle chit chat, I can take quite awhile to warm up to people, (even years) what made it all worse, is that my younger brother was there, and while I am so happy and proud that both my FI and my younger brother stuck up for me and explained to them that I am the way I am, I feel so angry.
My Fi and my brother should not have been put in the situation to defend me in the first place, my FI got to the point where he had to actually walk out of the party because he wanted to punch them, as did my brother.
I just don't know what to do now, I have cut out all speeches at my wedding (except from my FI and my Mum who is hosting) and I will be speaking with the staff at my venue in regards to alcohol consumption and intoxicated behaviour, but I know that this kind of thing will happen at the wedding, I just fear that they will say something to the wrong person, namely my oldest brother (who was absent from the Bach party) but he is very volatile and it doesn't take much to set him into a rage, I know that had he been at the party, there would have been a fight.
I guess all I can really do is try and not dwell on it, and be extremely grateful that I have a wonderful FI who will defend me in any situation, and that my brothers will also defend me against anyone (which, has actually caused me to tear up, I didn't realise how much my brother cared about me).
Any advice on how to forget about this mess, I just don't know whether I should now confront them myself (and being the person I am, that could be hard) or do I forget about it? My FI has told me that after the wedding, he doesn't want anything to do with them.
Thanks for all the advice, any advice now would be greatly appreciated.