Sorry a bit of a vent. Okay I don’t know why this is bothering me so much. Our families involvement in our wedding has been pretty smooth. We are in our 30s and are paying for the wedding ourselves so our families haven’t really made any demands on us. I am a graphic designer and my FI is an illustrator so we designed our own invitations and were really excited about them.
But my family didn’t seem as happy with them when I showed them last night. We have little orange leaves running down the side of them and my FBIL joked that they looked like doritos. And my sister made a comment how they are “just” printed on card stock. My mother is sending them to my side of the family and insisted she needs pink or red envelopes and not the teal ones that I chose. I know this all isn’t a big deal but for some reason all the comments really bothered me. We don’t have a problem sticking up for the wedding decisions we’ve made but I guess when we’re excited about something it sucks if members of your family are critical. As well for some reason I feel that we’ll get more criticism from everyone as more decisions are made. How do you make yourself feel good about your choices when others make comments?
Re: Family didn't like invitations
I think your invitations sound really cool and very personal. I know you want your family to like them....but really, if they dind't like them they should have kept it to themselves. So just go with what you have planned, whether they like it or not:-)
And I would tell your mother "Thanks for offering to send them to your side of the family, but if my teal envelopes offend you so much, I'll send them by myself."
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the other thing that i would suggest is that, in the future, make sure that it's clear that you're not soliciting feedback on your decisions, etc. i'm not sure how the conversation went re: the invites, but i know that i'm much more apt to be 'hey, here are the invites.' and not 'hey, here are the invites, what do you think?' helps that i'm a second time bride, in my late 30s, and paying for the wedding ourselves.
just ignore them. it's not about them. they should have kept their mouths shut.
so sorry to hear that. it really irks when other (especially family) belittle any aspect of someone's wedding. it's a personal day to *celebrate* two people joining together. these people are being invited to a FREE party, yet all they can do is point out things they don't like. selfish.
I'd love to see them.
OP, Bec and baystate said it best. They need to STFU. I would definitely be asking for those addresses myself.
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as for the comments, that's just plain rude. did they not understand that these were your final invites? how many people did you show them to? i only showed mine to my mom as she helped me pick them out. otherwise, no one saw them until they got them in the mail.
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Things go with me! Moved in with DH back in August after I lost my job, found a new job with a baby product company, sold my house, and just moving right along! I'm SO ready for summer and school to be over for Chloe. I'll miss her like crazy, but she's going to spend a few weeks with her dad and my mom, so I'm looking forward to the break so I can get the house remodel finished. (I say that now, but 48 hours after she's gone I'll be heartbroken.)
Sorry for the threadjack! OP, I really want to see your invites. Can you post them?
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[QUOTE]I think your whole family needs to STFU and keep their opinions to themselves. And I would tell your mother "Thanks for offering to send them to your side of the family, but if my teal envelopes offend you so much, I'll send them by myself."
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Exactly!
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I would follow PP's suggestions on how to handle things in the future. Sometimes it's best that they just don't know about things ahead of time.
Also, that really sucks, OP. Screw those people. Let's see your invitations!
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I don't get why people make such a big deal about the little things that don't matter (like envelope colors... seriously!).
Tell your mom that next year, nobody will remember the envelopes were teal and if that's what you want it's not gonna hurt anyone.
I'm still waiting to see the invitation!
However, back to the actual point, your family is incredibly rude to be saying that. I'd send out all of the invitations myself and use my own GD teal envelopes. It's not your mom's choice what color they should be. I'm actually kind of shocked that she asked you to change your invitation's appearance (which she is essentially doing) for her side of the family. Not cool, mom.
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Bec, good to see you!
[QUOTE]<strong>I want to see the invitation!</strong>
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Me too!
Your invitations sound really nice along with the contrast of the teal. Just get the addresses from your mother and send them out yourself.
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