Ring finally fits

tafft1 · August 2010

Since you treat us like an immature child you have received the same back. And caps don't make you look better..they make you look more ignorant. But you will come back because you need validation , if you really didn't care you would leave already since we are all such "snobby" people.

jeanacorina · August 2010

RARARARARARARARARARRARARARRARARARARARARAR!

jeanacorina · August 2010

I apologize for that post. I am trying to get through the weekend without drinking coffee.

**Mutley** · August 2010

I just have to say that I do not expect my children to be perfect. However, once they have learned the conventions of the English language, I do expect them to use them. We are already working very hard to ensure that our children get a great education. I will see it as a sign of disrespect if they chose to ignore that education and write/type like you chose to do.

Your writing would not have been acceptable in my first grade classroom, so it isn't as if my expectations are too high.

Narwhal · August 2010

lmao LOUD NOISES

PaigeMcC · August 2010

*face palm*

brilibby4 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ring-finally-fits?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:691a597d-3d7b-496d-916e-a0095a0e3e21Post:89129933-4802-49f2-98cc-2dc1944b462e">Re: Ring finally fits</a>:
[QUOTE]I just have to say that I do not expect my children to be perfect. However, once they have learned the conventions of the English language, I do expect them to use them. We are already working very hard to ensure that our children get a great education. I will see it as a sign of disrespect if they chose to ignore that education and write/type like you chose to do. Your writing would not have been acceptable in my first grade classroom, so it isn't as if my expectations are too high.
Posted by **Mutley**[/QUOTE]

This. Mutley said it perfectly. To be honest, I don't think twice about my spelling and grammar on the boards. Because of my education, it comes naturally. I don't expect anyone to be perfect. However, this is a message board and our only impression of you comes from the words you type. If you type poorly, you are going to be perceived as unintelligent.

loopy82 · August 2010

Danielle - I do not think the strong language is necessary, neither is the name calling. Please proceed carefully.

desertsun · August 2010

The repeated use of terms like idiot, dimwit, and stupid to describe, to her face, another human being is unnecessary and hurtful.

I am really surprised and disturbed by some of the posts here.

Dani -- I hope you re-read deburnin's and Cate's posts early in this thread, as they are actually good advice on how to use this board and become part of the community here. I do also think consistent use of spell check would be to your benefit. Please be assured that I do not think that bad spelling or writing necessarily makes you an idiot. I do agree that it can give that impression, though. It would be worth the time and effort to be a bit more careful in your writing on public forums. I'm glad you're happy with the fit of your ring, and congrats on Bry's b-day! Hope you all have fun celebrating.

Danielle284 · August 2010

desertsun Thank you for the wishes on Bry's Birthday. I do greatly appreciate that. Bryland says thank you as well. Sometimes I'm in a great hurry to type, simply because the life with a one year old is hectic. Those of you who have children on this board will understand that.

Yes i will admit English was not my strength and school and i struggled greatly. I was greatly proud of myself when no one believed in me for dental assisting. I passed with a B average. Grading scale was 75 percent and below and failing.

I choose not to let my struggles as a child keep me back. But if you ladies care any. I was beat by my real parents locked in rooms, simply not taken care of. I had the mind of a 18 month old when i was 3 years old. I had to go to speech therapy. I also went threw many, many evaluations. Where they would work with me and teach me to get up to my age. By the time i was 5 i was starting to catch up to my age. I was nicknamed huggy by my foster parents, because i loved to hug. We were not showed that compassion by our real parents.

When i was 6 my sister was 7 we got adopted. Many of you may not care, or understand how this effects a child. Psychology majors will know that you form your personality by the time your 5. So imagine becoming who you are,. At the same time moving from home to home, not fully comprehending what's going on.

I do apologise for the names i have stated. But i do think sometimes your way to harsh. I do not wish to get to know people who can judge. I do not judge others. Simply because you do not fully know who they are. Where they have come from. What there past is. No one knows what is best for them, or there lives as a couple, except for them. So how can we really judge others not knowing every aspect. Just a thought.

Danielle284 · August 2010

I did not catch this in my proof reading. English was not my strength in school. My apologies.

deburnin · August 2010

Danielle,

I'm sorry for all that you've had to go through in your life. I couldn't imagine it. If more people had been aware of your difficulties perhaps they would have been more understanding of the lack of proper grammar/spelling. Instead you chose to say "I don't care" instead of "I have problems with English due to personal circumstances." However, to say that you don't judge people is going a bit far. Did you not call all of us here "snobby bitches"? Is that not judging?

Danielle284 · August 2010

I was upset and when i'm angry i tend to say things i do not mean. I did state that i apologise for that.

I choose not to explain my past, exactly for the reason you stated. I'm sorry. I do not want people to feel sad for me. Or say they completely understand. Neither of those i wish to hear. I am a better person for my foster parents, and adopted parents. I learned at a young age to appreciate what i have.

I say i don't care as a defense. I already have issues with letting people get into my life and letting them be close to me. The day the state came to take us away we got split from the twins. That's extremely hard to comprehend at 3 years old.

Yes i do try my best not to judge others. My sister and i have conversations about this almost daily. We state our opinions and how we feel, but try not to judge.

Danielle284 · August 2010

To mutley.

I see that your expecting. Although i have not had a great impression of you. I do wish you have an easy delivery. My son was not so lucky with a Dr. who made the wrong call. But as i know not to share my stories.

Danielle284 · August 2010

Mutley,
I don't know if you have discovered this. You are due the day before my sons birthday.

jeanacorina · August 2010

Honestly, some people will care about a rough past, and some people won't. It doesn't necessarily change the responses people give. What does affect those responses is the reaction YOU show.

You cannot control what other people think, do, or say. That is their choice. Some folks will get cranky over nothing. They just WANT to pick at someone. There is absolutely nothing you can do about that.

You should react in a way that you can respect yourself for. Don't let other people's attitudes push you to do things you may regret. Name-calling and cursing isn't very nice. Just because someone treats you poorly doesn't mean you should act the same way.

KD+BC · August 2010

I'm going to tell you what I tell my students (currently I teach 1st grade but have worked with older students in the past, all urban, most low socio-economic status, most who have seen indescribable horrors): Only you can rise above your circumstances. You had a rough past and I know how that can scar you. Prove to the world that you are not your past.

The message boards make it very easy to catch mistakes. Computers in general really help. Use the spell check button and reread. It takes very little time to proof read your post. The occasional mistake will slip through and you will be forgiven. Posts full of mistakes immediately makes you look uneducated. Don't use your difficulties as a crutch. I am a terrible speller by nature but have worked really hard to overcome this. I still make plenty of mistakes but use spell check as a tool.

Nat&Pete · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ring-finally-fits?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:691a597d-3d7b-496d-916e-a0095a0e3e21Post:f41b8b35-8bf8-4387-b57c-b411ade4da93">Re: Ring finally fits</a>:
[QUOTE]I am really confused... I understand that TK is a wedding forum where people post wedding related questions but why is everyone attacking Danielle because she posted something about how her engagement ring finally fits? Isn't that wedding related? Did anyone notice the LASIK thread? How is that wedding related? I see so many threads that are hardly wedding related and no one tells the OP that they should start a blog.
Posted by mandi921vh[/QUOTE]

What Mandi said!

I agree that there are women on this forum/site who not welcoming and is full of Mean Girls. I suggest sending a message to the administrator of the forums because that is the only way this board is going to be a place that everyone can enjoy without fear of being made fun of, picked on by the grammar police and attacked because they are happy and want to share their experiences.

Danielle284 · August 2010

I have taken the time for spell check and proof reading. I don't understand why everyone is still saying the same thing to me, The last few post have not had any spelling errors.

To the op who is a teacher. I have overcome my past. I was trying to state when that happened it was in the time frame that you form your personality. Basically meaning that i am an emotional person and, i do take offense to things easily. Nothing will change that i am who i am. I am also very kind caring. However what is most important is i love who i am, and nothing will make me change that.

I do not care about my real parents glad my dad is dead, and never care to see my real mom in my entire life. I do not care to know the kids she had after us.

Grammar is the only place i had a tough time in. I had the write right books and everything in school. It's easier on the computer to get caught up typing and not realise you left out a letter. I am a great speller and i always have been. Everyone has a subject was there weakness English happens to be mine.
So if you ladies feel the need to poke fun at me go ahead.

ekathleen684 · August 2010

EDIT: This is for Nat and not directed at Danielle.

heyimbren · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ring-finally-fits?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:691a597d-3d7b-496d-916e-a0095a0e3e21Post:a1e5b7b7-69b8-49b2-a6d8-fc324ff430cd">Re: Ring finally fits</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ring finally fits : What Mandi said! I agree that there are women on this forum/site who not welcoming and is full of Mean Girls. I suggest sending a message to the administrator of the forums because that is the only way this board is going to be a place that everyone can enjoy without fear of being made fun of, picked on by the grammar police and attacked because they are happy and want to share their experiences.
Posted by Nat&Pete[/QUOTE]

Does no one read the sticky thread at the top of the board for new posters?

The posters on here keep saying the same thing over and over: LURK first. There's a reason for that. It helps you figure out what to expect when you do start posting.
It also says to take a step back and think before posting. Think about how others will see your post. Try to understand where they're coming from.

The admins on this site tend to stay out of it. It's why we have mods. Jeana did a great job, and now loopy is doing a fantastic job as well.

This isn't kindergarten anymore where the teacher has to control everything. It is the Internet. You need to learn how to deal with people, and with people saying things you may not like. Sometimes things go too far. It happens. I think desert was very diplomatic in her post.

There's a reason people are picky about grammar on the Internet. Proper grammar and spelling makes it easy to understand what you're trying to say.

Guess what- this is coming from someone who's new to this board. But I've survived it. I post on this board the most because I like most of the posters on here. Especially the ones that most people say are the harsh ones. Some posters on this board (and others on TK) are very blunt- they call it like they say it. Some posters sugar coat things. That's just how it is. If you don't like it, no one needs to stay. There are tons of other boards here, you don't need to be NEY to post on here even though it's the NEY board.

Danielle284 · August 2010

We are all going rounds here. I've puncated my words. Not used anymore run on sentences. I've spell checked. I have gotten all you points.

I lurked before i posted. I read the new to this board. When i started lurking i saw non of what i came across or endured. So i hope the new girls lurking come acorss these post. Have theres to perfection.

oceana919 · August 2010

Ladies, I hate to repeat this (YET AGAIN), but you're posting on an international web forum. People can only judge off what you post here, and they're entitled to form whatever opinions they wish to form of you. If someone sees a post full of swearing and atrocious grammar/spelling/lack of sentence structure and decide you're ignorant based off that, they have every right to. Same as if someone reads my post and decides I'm an uppity bitch with a stick up my arse.

I'll be the first to admit that virtually any post that lacks basic grammar, spelling, sentence structure, has text speak, or slaughters the English language makes me judge you. Call me a snobby biotch, but that's just the plain truth. Feel free to judge away.

OP, many posters have provided you with valid suggestions. If you want to constantly update on your life - from the wedding-related to the mundane details - sites like Livejournal or Twitter are FAR more appropriate forums for that kind of thing. When you post something that does not have any sort of feedback or conversational capabilities on a repeated basis, all it does is clog up the board feed and piss off other posters. If you don't like that, then go elsewhere. It's a simple fact of board etiquette.

Nan, read the sticky. If you had, our blunt and up-front posting nature wouldn't be all that much of a surprise to you. Believe me, you won't be the first to complain to Annie about us, and you certainly won't be the last. If it's too hot in here for you, then get out of the kitchen. Frankly, I'm tired of having to hop on here to defend the girls on this board who, as often as they post blunt and non-sugarcoated opinions, post thoughtful, genuine, heartfelt advice and input.

Danielle284 · August 2010

I apologise that the last post was not spell checked. I was in the middle of moving the lap top to get my son up, from screaming in his crib. I accidentally hit post. So i copied it to this one. I was raised with respect. I respect you girls enough to take in what you say.

We are all going rounds here. I've punctured my words. Not used anymore run on sentences. I've spell checked. I have gotten all you points.

I lurked before i posted. I read the new to this board. When i started lurking i saw non of what i came across or endured. So i hope the new girls lurking come across these post. Have there's to perfection.

aperitisa · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ring-finally-fits?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:691a597d-3d7b-496d-916e-a0095a0e3e21Post:13c13f82-9aca-4e77-88b8-aff6e0fa1cca">Re: Ring finally fits</a>:
[QUOTE]We are all going rounds here. I've puncated my words. Not used anymore run on sentences. I've spell checked. I have gotten all you points. I lurked before i posted. I read the new to this board. When i started lurking i saw non of what i came across or endured. So i hope the new girls lurking come acorss these post. Have theres to perfection.
Posted by Danielle284[/QUOTE]

<div>There is so much more but I just need to walk away.</div>

aperitisa · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ring-finally-fits?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:691a597d-3d7b-496d-916e-a0095a0e3e21Post:140b2b1f-709a-4145-90db-9779fd053fc3">Re: Ring finally fits</a>:
[QUOTE]I apologise that the last post was not spell checked. I was in the middle of moving the lap top to get my son up, from screaming in his crib. I accidentally hit post. So i copied it to this one. I was raised with respect. I respect you girls enough to take in what you say. We are all going rounds here. I've punctured my words. Not used anymore run on sentences. I've spell checked. I have gotten all you points. I lurked before i posted. I read the new to this board. When i started lurking i saw non of what i came across or endured. So i hope the new girls lurking come across these post. Have there's to perfection.
Posted by Danielle284[/QUOTE]

KD+BC · August 2010

Danielle: Let it go. If you stop responding and being defensive the ridicule will stop too.

Danielle284 · August 2010

I am done. Plain and simple.

Danielle284 · August 2010

aperitisa

Did you read the post below that. I had accidentally hit the button. My son was screaming cause he just woke up. That is my first priority. I'm sorry that it didn't please you at first.

catemeg · August 2010

Wow, really glad I ditched this when I did. I was KUI and just wasn't up to dealing with talking to a brick wall.

Not to beat a dead horse (again), but here's a suggestion - to make it interactive, if you wanted to talk about something specific, put it as a question - like, "My son's birthday is coming up and I'm super excited! Does anyone have any ideas for celebrating?" or "Does anyone else have kids? When are their birthdays?"

Do you see how that might make it more of a conversation and less of a journal entry?

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