One of my best girlfriends from childhood (who I love, but is a mess for a different story) is upset with her sister's boyfriend.
Her sister graduated from nursing school a year ago and has a great job. Her sister's boyfriend is a sheriff's deputy and he lives several hours away. They see each other when they can.
And they've been together for six years.
From what my friend tells me, her sister is constantly on her boyfriend's ass about getting engaged and getting married. After all, they've been together for a very long time, and have great careers. The next logical step is getting married. But this guy just isn't interested.
I think that's ok. I mean, if he doesn't want to, then he won't ask. I really don't see any point in bothering him with it. My friend says her sister will not, under any circumstance, leave this guy. And she says that the boyfriend wants to ask her to marry him, but, he wants to do it on his own terms and when no one expects him to. Problem is, the longer he waits, the more people expect it.
Personally I probably would have left the guy a long time ago. I mean, if you love someone, you stick by them... but if she doesn't want to be someone's girlfriend for the rest of her life, she should grow a pair and get out.
Of course, these are all my opinions, and there is no use in talking to her about this - nor is it exactly appropriate.
What makes a woman stay in a relationship that really isn't going anywhere? I mean, if both parties are FINE with not getting married, that's great. But I feel like if one wants to move forward and the other wants to stay put... well... then what's the point?
