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Knot Annie

I understand where you're coming from, I do. I try hard not to be too negative when newer posters come on. But if a poster comes on with name switched, has called people the c word, the b word, impugned our fiance's/H's service/branch, what should we do? Be super nice all the time? Are you inferring we should be inundating you with reports and emails? You're the only one left to handle all the boards, and most of us know that. You've got insanity on TN and TB right now with the IP address posting, and such (well, TB is always nuts). What should we do?

And rather than post a general type warning, couldn't you PM warn the people you're talking about? Because, honestly, I get what you're saying about the JOP posts, but my "ideas about military etiquette" are not my ideas. I think that's the difference with other boards, we are a board where etiquette is about more than what's polite. I take societal etiquette with a grain of salt. But military etiquette is something I take very seriously. And genuinely, there are issues that we discuss that will get someone prosecuted by a military court (like JOPing and lying about it, which the military does consider a "contract marriage"). So we are different than a board like SB/E, though again, I get where you're coming from.

So, while I understand that the squeaky wheel will get the oil, or elicit the warnings if you will, but I don't think they're particularly fair to us. I know you're busy though.


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Re: Knot Annie

  • lyonstmlyonstm member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I think that if she were to take the time out to PM people individually she might be a little busy.  I too understand where she is coming from; Ive seen some people get on here and I have seen them totally bashed for some of the questions that they've asked. And I admit even as a newb I have bashed not in a derogatory sense, but told her off because of the insult to the Armed forces.  But hey, you'd be suprised what people would say when they sit behind a computer and an IP address...
  • kara811kara811 member
    2500 Comments Third Anniversary
    edited December 2011
    Couldn't have said it better myself Stan! I completely agree. 
  • calindicalindi member
    5000 Comments Second Anniversary Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    I nearly wrote this myself last night.

    It really doesn't feel fair, and is very frustrating, because I know that most of us try to show outrageous patience in answering the same questions over and over in friendly and nice ways.  Usually someone asks the question, we each nicely state what we know as fact and combined with our own opinion, and then we usually all get yelled at and called names and other people jump on to 'defend' the OP, and then we all sort of laugh about it and get a bit sarcastic sometimes.  But really, the only one I remember ever getting "bashed" is Katelyn, and to some extent Kendall (though she's even THANKED US now for setting her straight and hangs around as a normal poster now).  And the reason was because they literally flipped out on us!  And then ran to other boards on here to bash us, and then ran to other boards on the web to bash us.

    From the amount that Katelyn has said, she should have been banned a long time ago, but she deletes her horrible posts before we could report her. 

    Knot Annie, telling someone that it's not a good idea to commit fraud isn't some mob mentality meant to push away new posters.  We have new posters all the time, some that come here with ideas that many of us disagree with but who don't throw temper tantrums and start calling people names when someone expresses an opinion other than to support what they're doing.  It isn't opinion, and if we had a moderator who was actually remotely active, we could at least post a friendly sticky to let posters know the general legal situations and standardized military etiquette (which is written and factual, not opinion).

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  • LuluP82LuluP82 member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Eh, I post on other boards and definitely lurk all over the place, and I always, always see the suggestions of lurk before posting. When the 100th question in as many days about JOP and then a "real" wedding comes on, it's a bit hard to remain patient, when one just needs to scroll down a bit and read the 99th thread about the same topic.

    Frankly, this board isn't any more "mean" or "impatient" than any of the other boards, and we have had some crazy people here in the recent past.
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  • IrishcurlsIrishcurls member
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Not that anyone actually reads them before posting, but maybe a sticky with FAQs would be helpful--to at least direct new posters too? Personal opinions on lying about a JOP will never change, nor do I think we have to be "nice" when someone admits to fraud, but I do think there are a lot of young, naive girls that come on here and might not genuinely know some of the military rules--OPSEC comes to mind. Just a thought from a newb.
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  • edited December 2011
    Second the OPSEC thing. Not only does it put people in jeopardy, but it really goes against common sense when you really think about it, military or not. Same goes for not broadcasting on fbook that you're going out of town for a week.
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