You know you're in a committed relationship when...

Ember01 · August 2011

You go to Olive Garden on a date night and order something that is smothered in garlic and onions and you don't even consider (or care) that you're going to have garlic and onion breath for the rest of the evening.

Lol... This was our date night last night. We also spent the entire dinner discussing ex's.

You're turn! What stuff do you do now, with your bf/fi around, that you would have never done back when you first started dating?

flygirlmeg · August 2011

This might be a little TMI but I'm gonna say it because it's SOOOO true!!! You know you're in a committed relationship when . . . you don't always hide your um, bodily functions from each other. Yes, that's right ladies . . . gas. BF definitely broke through that barrier first but even I don't hide it all the time anymore. We've even gotten to the stage where it's become funny - always elicits a giggle from one of us. BF says if we might as well get used to it now because it's only gonna get worse when we're elderly!

kellyt89 · August 2011

haha both of these are verrry applicable to me! I love it.

SopChick · August 2011

Both of the above mentioned things are so true!

Sometimes I feel like I really should still do it, but I don't "dress up" like I used to. When BF and I first started dating I would shave my legs daily to avoid any stubble, put on makeup, and I never wore sweats/yoga pants. 10 years later, as I sit and type this, my legs under my yoga pants have reached the point where the stubble is no longer prickly... Ew, I know, but true - I'm on vacation and haven't left the house in a few days.

amsmith1989 · August 2011

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[QUOTE]Both of the above mentioned things are so true! Sometimes I feel like I really should still do it, but I don't "dress up" like I used to. <strong>When BF and I first started dating I would shave my legs daily to avoid any stubble</strong>, put on makeup, and I never wore sweats/yoga pants. 10 years later, as I sit and type this, my legs under my yoga pants have reached the point where the stubble is no longer prickly... Ew, I know, but true - I'm on vacation and haven't left the house in a few days.
Posted by SopChick[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes. No longer happens.</div>

SopChick · August 2011

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[QUOTE]Oh yeah, I do nothing to look cute anymore, at all. I used to put in some effort but I think living together, which we have done for the majority of our relationship, changed things pretty quickly. I rarely shave my legs for his benefit. I don't wear makeup at home. I use facemasks for my pores that he tells me make me look like a goopy alien. We fart in front of each other. We use the bathroom with the door open. We eat garlicky foods and don't even notice if the other's breath stinks. <strong>We don't do romantic things to start sex...it's usually like, "hey, I've seen this episode of SVU, wanna go do it and then order pizza?"</strong> I've popped zits on his back. He's held my hair while I puked. Yeah I don't think there is anything we don't do in front of each other. I think that's when you know you're in it for the long haul. :)
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

Ok cool, we're normal. Lol!

SopChick · August 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: You know you're in a committed relationship when... : I'm glad you said that. When I say that to IRL friends most of them look at me like I have two heads. But I am pretty sure they are lying when they say it's super romantic all the time.
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]
Maybe BF would put more effort into making it romantic if I put more effort in and shaved my legs! LOL

In all seriousness though, it's rarely soft music, candles, blah, blah, blah. A lot of the time it's exactly how you described. We'll be sitting on the couch watching something, and decide to have sexytime because what we're watching is boring. Before bed/in the morning happens too because we're already in bed.

lilphillips14 · August 2011

All of the above are true. Especially the gas thing. D'oh.

Mine is you know you're in a committed relationship when you don't have to constantly be entertaining to each other or do stuff all the time. I used to think romance was always going out, doing "couple" things. This is my last weekend here in TN with BF before I go to college again and I won't see him until December. I wanted it to be "special," instead he's been sick all weekend and we've pretty much stayed in bed while he sleeps. Then, I realized, I don't mind...I just want him to feel better, so staying in bed with him while he rests is perfectly special, and the only thing that would make the weekend better is that he wasn't sick, because I hate that he's not feeling well.

MLekathLEEN · August 2011

I think the only thing I don't do in front of him is wipe. We sit in the bathroom and talk while the other one is pooping or whatever but I make him leave when it's time to finish. You have to keep some mystery in a relationship, right?

polkadot111 · August 2011

I used to be embarassed when I'd wake up and my hair would be all messy. Now, who cares. I used to be scared to sing in front of him in the car (because I do NOT have a good singing voice...), but now I don't care if I sound like a fool. We pee with the door open now. When we first started dating I wouldn't want to cook anything I've never made and perfected for him- too afraid it would suck! Now he is my guinea pig. If it's bad, whatever.

I also rarely dress up for him. Although I want to change this. At camp I always wear just the staff tshirt and workout shorts (because that's our uniform). I didn't even change for him- i'd just wear work stuff all night after I finished working beacuse it's comfy. He asked me once a few weeks ago, "Why is it that after I workout it's an unsaid expectation that I change and shower before seeing you, but you can be all sweaty all day and then come over without changing or showering?" He made it clear that he loves me in whatever I'm wearing, but he'd like it if I'd at least just change. So I've started doing that, because he's right. I like looking pretty for him too.

When we first started dating I also wouldn't like him to look through my phone to read a text for me if I was driving or pick it up if my friends were calling (thought he'd think they're weird or something), but now I could care less.

lavenderfields13 · August 2011

I second everything Liv said. Although I try REALLY hard not to pas gas in front of him it's happened and we just laugh. He does it all the time though and of course that's perfectly ok!
This makes me think of articles I've read in Cosmo and related mags where they say you need to keep the mystery and not pee with the door open, put makeup on in front of him, etc. Umm what? If BF can see me pop my zits, put on makeup, pee with the door open, smell my garlic breath and still love me and still want to have sex with me well then THAT is a great relationship!

lilphillips14 · August 2011

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[QUOTE]I second everything Liv said. Although I try REALLY hard not to pas gas in front of him it's happened and we just laugh. He does it all the time though and of course that's perfectly ok! This makes me think of articles I've read in Cosmo and related mags where they say you need to keep the mystery and not pee with the door open, put makeup on in front of him, etc. Umm what? <strong>If BF can see me pop my zits, put on makeup, pee with the door open, smell my garlic breath and still love me and still want to have sex with me well then THAT is a great relationship!
Posted by leese19[/QUOTE]</strong>

<div>True facts! I read on one site that your marriage/relationship is "doomed" if you pass gas all the time or share a bathroom or don't leave some "mystery." Sorry, but I'm pretty sure I don't want to be a "mystery" to my future husband. Blah.</div><div>
</div><div><a href="http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-the-kiss-of-death-15-signs-your-relationship-is-doomed/" rel='nofollow'>http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-the-kiss-of-death-15-signs-your-relationship-is-doomed/</a> <-- some of them, maybe, but some of them made me go...really, my relationship is doomed? Damn.</div>

Ember01 · August 2011

FI and I refuse to use the bathroom in front of each other, or pass gas. I know, it's silly. I think it's our personalities. I also refuse to use public restrooms if there is anyone else in the room with me. Weird huh?

[Deleted User] · August 2011

It's all good, Ember, we've all got our thing...trust me, I've thought twice about using public bathrooms before...I have to fart in front of BF though sometimes...intestinal problems

For me, it's all the PP have said, but also, when you can tell him your inner most sexual fantasies and not feel like an alien...sometimes, telling him, he'll say, "me too!" or something and bam, there we go!

cu97tiger · August 2011

Everything Liv said, except the gas part. FI HATES when we even talk about anything that comes from the 'exit only' oriface. He likes to pretend that I don't do any of that stuff. I've had to blame some random smells on the dogs. Oops!

tafft1 · August 2011

I knew He was the one when He actually expected me to use the bathroom with the door open and I didn't mind , lol. But we're far from normal :

I definitely agree with most said above already. There is no mystery to our relationship - I am to be completely transparent and in turn He offers me the same by earned trust and repsect. There is nothing taboo to us , and nothing that is off limits , it's very weird getting used to , but I feel more free in some ways than ever before because of it.

loves2shop4shoes · August 2011

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[QUOTE] I rarely shave my legs for his benefit. I don't wear makeup at home. I use facemasks for my pores that he tells me make me look like a goopy alien. We fart in front of each other. We use the bathroom with the door open. We eat garlicky foods and don't even notice if the other's breath stinks. We don't do romantic things to start sex...it's usually like, "hey, I've seen this episode of SVU, wanna go do it and then order pizza?" I've popped zits on his back. He's held my hair while I puked. Yeah I don't think there is anything we don't do in front of each other. I think that's when you know you're in it for the long haul. :)
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Ummmm... Liv hit the nail on the head. I could've written this myself.</div>

EverlastingLove2012 · August 2011

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[QUOTE]This might be a little TMI but I'm gonna say it because it's SOOOO true!!! You know you're in a committed relationship when . . . you don't always hide your um, bodily functions from each other. Yes, that's right ladies . . . gas. BF definitely broke through that barrier first but even I don't hide it all the time anymore. We've even gotten to the stage where it's become funny - always elicits a giggle from one of us. BF says if we might as well get used to it now because it's only gonna get worse when we're elderly!
Posted by flygirlmeg[/QUOTE]

That's what I was going to say, too. And when he refers to gas as "floating air biscuits." What does that even mean?

Peaseblossom55 · August 2011

Mostly the shave the legs thing, but defintely not the gas stuff.

dragonwagon · August 2011

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[QUOTE]This might be a little TMI but I'm gonna say it because it's SOOOO true!!! You know you're in a committed relationship when . . . you don't always hide your um, bodily functions from each other. Yes, that's right ladies . . . gas. BF definitely broke through that barrier first but even I don't hide it all the time anymore. We've even gotten to the stage where it's become funny - always elicits a giggle from one of us. BF says if we might as well get used to it now because it's only gonna get worse when we're elderly!
Posted by flygirlmeg[/QUOTE]

This is hilarious. In front of my most recent ex, I was totally like this. But FI and I have been together almost 8 years, and I have <em>never</em> passed gas in front of him. I burp, but I try my best to keep it quiet haha

mymissingpuzzlepiece · August 2011

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[QUOTE]This might be a little TMI but I'm gonna say it because it's SOOOO true!!! You know you're in a committed relationship when . . . you don't always hide your um, bodily functions from each other. Yes, that's right ladies . . . gas. BF definitely broke through that barrier first but even I don't hide it all the time anymore. We've even gotten to the stage where it's become funny - always elicits a giggle from one of us. BF says if we might as well get used to it now because it's only gonna get worse when we're elderly!
Posted by flygirlmeg[/QUOTE]

<div>LOL we do the same thing. It's hilarious. I will go no farther with this. But another thing I can say is... you know you are in a committed relationship when your FI tells you you're beautiful every day even when you don't feel like you are.</div>

NurseyK · August 2011

.... when you run out of ways to make farts funny.

desertsun · August 2011

MH and I still keep the bathroom door shut and our gas to ourselves, and I think our relationship is strong and healthy. *shrug* Whatever floats your boat!

MissTheFrog84 · August 2011

You know your in a committed relationship when you can both sit in silence and not feel the need to fill it, and you are content to be in each other's company. The garlic thing has happened to us both, he did the onion breath before. The only reason I haven't done that is because I'm not a fan of onions. He's seen me with my hair not straightened and look like crap, no make up, baggy t-shirts and the old comfortable faded boxers that I really need to get rid of.

MLekathLEEN · August 2011

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[QUOTE].... when you run out of ways to make farts funny.
Posted by NurseyK[/QUOTE]

FI thinks farts are disgusting...unless they come out of his bum, then they're HILARIOUS!!

PaigeMcC · August 2011

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[QUOTE].... when you run out of ways to make farts funny.
Posted by NurseyK[/QUOTE]

<div>Not true. There is ALWAYS a way to make a fart funny. FBD can prove this.</div>

wink0erin · August 2011

Lol, I burp in front of BF all the time and I don't even realize I'm doing it anymore.

I try to hold the farts back but sometimes they slip out. And sometimes I let them go when I think they'll be silent... but if he catches a whiff he'll ask me about it, and I seriously can NOT lie about it, I bust out laughing every time. Our dog has worse ones though, and BF farts too, so there!

And amen to the shaved legs thing, although when we first started hanging out I had stubble sometimes and just didn't care. Same with the pits. If I wanted to keep mine smooth I'd have to shave them daily, but my skin is too sensitive for that, so I have to wait a few days in between.

I still dress nicer and put on makeup if we are going to go out somewhere, but when I'm just running by in the evening or if I'm hanging out on the weekend I won't go out of my way to put on makeup or look presentable. I'll spend most of a day in sweatpants and a tshirt with my hair all crazy looking (or ponytailed).

Yet even when I look awful he still tells me I'm pretty

Ember01 · August 2011

If I ate something that upset my stomach, or I'm not feeling well, then I let him know and I'm usually in the bathroom the entire evening. Not because of the farting, but because I can't be further then 3 steps from the toilet.

For the most part, we just leave the room.

But, I have the noisest stomach ever. My stomach growls all the time. So, FI constantly cracks jokes about my tummy talking.

EverlastingLove2012 · August 2011

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[QUOTE]So, for those of you who don't fart in front of your SO...what do you do? Like, say you just went out and had Mexican food and you have a digestive system like mine that gets gassy afterward. Do you like...sit in the bathroom all night? Excuse yourself every five minutes and go fart in another room? I'm really curious. Like, that's what I would do if I was at a friend's house, but I'd feel weird doing that in my own home with BF.
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

I'm rather curious and confused, too. How much time are you spending with these people? Do you only fart once a year <span class="st">for a full hour atop a mountain in Switzerland? (Quote from <em>30 Rock</em>, I wish I could take credit.)

I'd love to know what kind of diet you have that you never break wind accidentally because that sounds awesome. Or maybe you just burp more in general. I don't think I've heard my little sister fart since she was in elementary, but when she releases one of her rolling belches...watch out. They're so bad I run to another room gagging.
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wink0erin · August 2011

Before I felt comfy tooting in front of BF I would either hold it and hope it went away or I'd run into the bathroom or other room. Now, I just try to suppress them or at least move a few feet away. No lap farts!

orangehills · August 2011

if i couldn't fart around my bf, to me that would be a deal breaker- i need that comfort level!! i have a few coworkers who don't fart around their wives- i don't understand that! it's natural, and it happens often! how horrible to have to hold it in or hide it... *shudder*

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