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Scheduling Etiquette?
Hello,
I want to get married on January 8th, and leave on my honeymoon cruise on January 9th. We would have to catch a flight at 6:30 am on the 9th to meet up with the cruise ship. The airport is 3 hours away from our wedding location, so clearly we would have to leave to be closer to the airport on the night of the 8th. How do I structure my wedding reception time wise so that I can leave early enough to not fall asleep on the road?
I want a traditional wedding, so I don't really want to do a morning wedding. Furthermore, the reception site is an italian place so it isn't susceptible to a light midday lunch type meal. I was contemplating having an early dinner around 4 in the hopes people would clear out enough for me to leave early enough to make all this work. How long do people usually stay at a reception? Is it rude to leave before all/some of the guests have? A friend suggested a time specific reception (I.e. 4-8pm) so that I can leave after the alloted time without feeling guilty. Is that still rude?
Thanks!
I want to get married on January 8th, and leave on my honeymoon cruise on January 9th. We would have to catch a flight at 6:30 am on the 9th to meet up with the cruise ship. The airport is 3 hours away from our wedding location, so clearly we would have to leave to be closer to the airport on the night of the 8th. How do I structure my wedding reception time wise so that I can leave early enough to not fall asleep on the road?
I want a traditional wedding, so I don't really want to do a morning wedding. Furthermore, the reception site is an italian place so it isn't susceptible to a light midday lunch type meal. I was contemplating having an early dinner around 4 in the hopes people would clear out enough for me to leave early enough to make all this work. How long do people usually stay at a reception? Is it rude to leave before all/some of the guests have? A friend suggested a time specific reception (I.e. 4-8pm) so that I can leave after the alloted time without feeling guilty. Is that still rude?
Thanks!
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Re: Scheduling Etiquette?
ETA: Just noticed that you're from NY. I especially wouldn't plan on flying in that day. You know how unpredictable the weather can be then.
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I also would not fly in the day of a cruise. Too many ways that can go wrong. If you are going to fly in the day of, please get vacation insurance. If you don't believe, go over to cruisecritic.com and read some of the horror stories about people flying in the day of.
You really never know what can happen. You'd never stop kicking yourself for missing your cruise due to a delayed flight.
My concern is asking all of our out of town guests to take time off of work if we get married on a Friday....
Anyway, I would really worry about flying out on the same day as the cruise, especially in Januray. My parents were going to do that last year but we tallked them out of it... good thing, a huge strom hit and they would have missed their 2 week cruise or flown to Panama to catch the flight (on their own dime).
[QUOTE]If you can't afford a honeymoon, then save money until school lets out in the summer. Win-win. You're basically pushing an issue that could easily be solved by waiting a few months.
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Yes, listen to Georgia. Also a cruise will be much warmer and nicer in March.
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[QUOTE]I'm in law school, and classes start up shortly after (as it is I will be missing roughly three days of classes) so it sort of has to be rushed :-(
Posted by botticelliangel6[/QUOTE]
I don't think that rushing anything is ever a good idea. If your in school, why don't you get married after the Spring semester? That's what I'm doing and it's working out perfectly. :)
[QUOTE]Spring Break in law school means you write your papers due at the end of the semester, or at least it does for me because I work so I have no "extra" time to write my papers during the semester. Summer is also a problem because I'll be taking the bar exam that summer and will be studying/taking courses.
Posted by botticelliangel6[/QUOTE]
Hmm well in this case I'd suggest getting married on Friday, flying to the cruise location on Saturday night, and boarding the cruise Sunday. As long as you have the Friday wedding on the later side (maybe 6 or 7) it shouldn't be that much of an inconvenience for your guests - and like Georgia said, you'll possibly save some $.
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Yes, do Friday.
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Or, take that Saturday night and spend it someplace awesome locally (B&B, etc.) and delay the big HM until spring break.
I think you've got too much stuff packed in there to relax and enjoy either your wedding, your wedding night, or your HM if you try to do it as planned.
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Plus, you're already missing school if you go, so what's a week in the summer?
OP, I'd suggest combining your honeymoon and bar trip. Most people go on a crazy vacation after the bar; why not just postpone the honeymoon until then? Then you can celebrate both your marriage AND being done with the most hellacious summer of your lives.
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If you want to do a Saturday wedding and take your chances then do it late morning early afternoon. My sister had a 10:30 wedding the a full lunch (filet craved at your table) with drinking and dancing from 12-5 and it was one of the best weddings I've ever been to.
I can't speak for anyone else, but driving 3 hours after my wedding would have never happend. We were sooooo tired. We did a 3 hour drive the afternoon after and that was hard enough, there is no way in hell I would have do it directly after the wedding.
They have 5 day cruises that leave on the 10th? Could that be an option? Spend a night or 2 in Miami and be on the cruise for less time?
[QUOTE]I know this isn't what you asked, but I really, really would not fly in the day of the cruise. Too many things can go wrong.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]
<div>Definitely this. A few of our guests had travel issues getting onto the island where we got married. One of them didn't come in until almost a day later than planned. </div>
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After talking it over with my fiance we're going to do a Friday wedding, drive back and fly out on Saturday, and hop on the cruise on Sunday.... It might be more inconvenient for our out of town guests who would have to take Friday off from work (at least in some case) but it will make things a lot easier for us!
Thanks for all the suggestions!