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wcvsb3b5 · March 2010

FI's parents never cared--and we were 17 when we started dating. My mom tried the whole bf sleeps on the couch thing but when I ended up sleeping out there she gave in. I thought my dad was going to be the bad one but surprisingly he didn't care either. I think that was mostly because at my dad's house, my bedroom was between his room and my brother's room so there is NO WAY anything was going to happen unless bf wanted to DIE! lol

LP11509 · March 2010

FI and I live together in a 1 bedroom apartment, but when we visit my parents, I stay in my old room and FI stays in my brother's old room. At FI's parents, I stay in FI's old room and he stays on an air matteress in the living room. Neither of us have pushed the issue out of respect for them. Their houses, their rules.

However, when FI's dad came and stayed with us before, we slept in our bed and his dad stayed on the couch. I offered to have him stay in the bed and me on the couch, but he insisted the couch was fine.

lyndausvi · March 2010

my parents it would have been an issue.. MIL... not at all.. she gave DH a gross of condoms as an xmas pressent and allowed her HS aged kids overnight opposite sex guests..

Me?? I would be somewhere in between... Not all excepting.. but willing to look at the situation and decide then..

lyndausvi · March 2010

Oh.. I'm like LP...in my home I can do whatever I wanted.. In my parents home I obeyed their rules.. It was easier that way.. WE respected their rules and it was not a big deal.. Considering how my DH was raised I thought it would have been difficult for hime, but he respected their values more than I did...

saschaduran · March 2010

When I was 16, and with my first love who my family adored, my mom gave him a key to my house and we would sleep in my twin bed. I didn't have very many rules growing up.

I let my daughters boyfriend start sleeping over when she was 18.

Sex is not a huge deal to me. I don't find it taboo.

Oh wait...I did let my daughter do that when she was 16 and her boyfriend came on our trip to Palm Springs. We had an issue with the house we were supposed to stay at and had to get a room the first night. They were right next to me and I am a light sleeper and knew nothing would happen, so I didn't care.

salt78 · March 2010

I voted maybe without reading the rest, but yeah at 16 that wouldn't have been allowed. It would have been at like 18 though.

andyandhillary · March 2010

Nope, never. Even after Andy and I have been together for 5 1/2 years, it was known that my parents lived together before married, and we all KNOW he sleeps in my bed, we still don't. When I asked my mom her reasoning she said "It's just common respect to the parents". What. The. Fu**. That being said, when I come home (Andy lives in the same town as him) he and I sleep together on a couch at both of our parents' houses. Stupid? yes. Keeps the peace? Sure does.

Bless their hearts.

andyandhillary · March 2010

I think when I have kids that I will probably let them sleep in the same bed after college. I'm not stupid. I know damn well that if my kid is over 18 they are probably going to have sex and that me having them sleep in different beds won't stop them even a tiny bit. Even if they are in my house.

Just watch I turn out to be a Duggar.

berryholly · March 2010

At 16? No way.

Before H and I got married, we always stayed in the same bed at my parents' house. We went on a weeklong trip to Florida with my parents before we were married and stayed in a two bedroom condo. Me and H in one room, my parents in the other. It was never an issue. At his parents' house, we always had to sleep separately until after we had moved in together. I guess at that point they figured there was no point.

wcvsb3b5 · March 2010

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[QUOTE]I think when I have kids that I will probably let them sleep in the same bed after college. I'm not stupid. I know damn well that if my kid is over 18 they are probably going to have sex and that me having them sleep in different beds won't stop them even a tiny bit. Even if they are in my house. <strong>Just watch I turn out to be a Duggar. </strong>
Posted by andyandhillary[/QUOTE]

Oh please no! I don't think I can handle another show like that!!

andyandhillary · March 2010

Trust me, my mind and my vag would not love that sitch either. You never know though...

sweetpea0911 · March 2010

I voted maybe. Started sleeping in the same bed as a BF when I was 17, but in all fairness, his parents slept right next door and they had very thin walls....and I spent most of the time on the floor anyway, even though they were cool with us in the same bed.

My mom wasn't cool with me being in the same room as a BF til I was 20 though. And FI's parents don't even let us stay on the same level of the house!

sep72fendr · March 2010

When I was 16 i went to cancun with my parents and they let me bring my bf at the time. we all stayed in the same room but dad slept with the bf and i slept with mom. it was weird.

maggyruth · March 2010

I'm 31. I was told by my mother that if my FI and I came to visit, one of us would have to sleep on the couch.

5 years ago this wouldn't have been an issue (she thought I was weird for not wanting to live with someone before marriage...based on studies, etc), but she's had some mental issues of late and, as a result, has become strangely focused on religion (not in a particularly good or healthy way.)

BioGirl21 · March 2010

I hit yes, but the age changes things.
FI and I went to Chicago with my parents for my brother's Boot Camp graduation and we shared a bed and they didn't care- we were both 21 at the time.(although I think the fact that they had to share a bed and were getting divorced at the time was the main thing on their mind.)

jasmineh7777 · March 2010

The only thing that strikes me as odd is that is was the same room.
I really had no rules. I could stay at guy's houses growing up. I had mostly male friends, and we would stay at eachother's houses all of the time.
Had we been in a situation that I was travelling with my bf and my parents, bf and I would just have gotten a seperate room.

Shasha3100 · March 2010

Wow, I guess my family I pretty easy going. It has never even been a question about us sharing a room. The same with his parents.

cukimerrydoll · March 2010

At that age, not a chance. If we go out of town with FH's family (to make my parent's happy), he shares with his brother and I share with his sister.

Or we all get separate beds.

puokgirl · March 2010

The first time FI slept over (we were 15 then and 29 now) he slept in my sister's room, she slept on the futon in my room, and slept in my bed.

The second time, he slept on the futon and I slept in my bed. Again, we were 15.

After that, we shared my twin sized bed. Mom was OK with it. She knew there was probably hanky panky going on, but she trusted me to be safe.

We've always shared a bed at FI's mom's house.

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