I am MOH for a bride who is having a destination wedding. Only a select few are attending the wedding, however there will be a reception a month after in the couples hometown. The Bride wants to have a Shower, which I would normally be more than happy to throw for her. However, I'm worried that it is innappropriate for her to expect gifts (her only reason for wanting a shower - by her own words) from people who aren't even invited to the wedding.
She claims that they ARE invited. However, she isn't actually sending out invitations and to the best of my knowledge, she hasn't verbally invited most of them either. I know the goal is to make her feel pampered and loved, but is this appropriate? She won't be embarrassed, but as the hostess, I am a bit. Does the post wedding reception make up for not being invited to the wedding? I know she will expect gifts to that as well.
Thoughts?