BM pulls out- long post
I was wondering what your opinions are on this situation. One of my very close friends lives out of state and committed to being a bm. I flew out to see her in January. She has a 1yr. old and had recently gotten divorced a few months prior. We discussed all of the financial aspects that a bm could be encountered with when I asked her to be a bm. She agreed and said that she would be honored to be a bm and "would make it work". Well, since then the gown has been received and all bm planning has been in progress with her knowledge. She called me this weekend to let me know that altough she has paid for her gown she cannot afford to fly out to Florida for the wedding. I then offered to pay for her plane ticket and offered her to stay at my house instead of having to pay for a hotel room. She told me she would think about it and call me back. She called me back a couple of hours later and told me that she did not feel comfortable having me pay for her way out here. I of course was crushed and cried for 2 days b/c I truly wanted her to be a part of my wedding. I don't know what to do. She said she is shipping me her dress so that someone else can use it, but I don't know....I feel bad "replacing" her. Since we are less than 3mths. out from my wedding I have already purchased & had all bm gifts personalized, hair, makeup, flowers.......the whole 9 nine yards is paid for. FI and MOB thinks that I need to replace her w/another bm. I don't know how to go about this w/o offending anyone. I hope that someone hear has some good insight!!! TIA
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