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Just asking...

luckyone08_7774238luckyone08_7774238 member
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Alright. So some of you know the MOH drama I just went through. Things seem okay but I am afraid that the BM will give major attitude to the MOH somewhere in the process. Should I give the MOH a heads up that it didn't go over well as a precautionary or just let things play out and if MOH says something about the BM having an attitude, explain things to her then? I don't want her to feel guilty or anything like that, I'm just trying to get an idea of what I should do. Thanks!
(I can't recall if anyone said anything about this, so I'm asking again)
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  • blackfire5thblackfire5th
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    Link to thread: http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_told-her-she

    I don't know, if you are close enough with your cousin (which it sounds like you are) I might mention in passing that she didn't take it well and leave it at that.
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  • gottahavashortigottahavashorti member
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    Was your BM the one who was trying to hold you to a childhood promise that she'd be MOH and threw a fit when she gleaned that she wasn't MOH?  If so and I were your MOH, I'd probably want a heads up if she's likely to take it out on the MOH. 

    Not necessarily the full story, but just "There was a misunderstanding with Jane about a childhood promise related to her role in the bridal party, so if she tries to take it out on you don't take it personally and feel free to walk away."
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  • luckyone08_7774238luckyone08_7774238 member
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    Thanks ladies, that's all  I wanted to know. I was just thinking in fairness to the MOH, she should know in case she got attitude major from the BM and wasn't expecting it. 

    And yes, it's the same BM with the teenage promise and that threw a fit when she found out. 

    Thanks!
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  • lalap69lalap69 member
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    Yeah, I'd give your MOH the heads up.  I'd definitely want to be forewarned that I might be walking into that crazy.  GL!
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  • suz62984suz62984
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    I give her a casual heads up. I would want one!
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  • luckyone08_7774238luckyone08_7774238 member
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    thanks girls! I just did and she was like "i'm not worried about it, if it becomes a problem I'll handle it and let you know.". basically like i thought she would, but she said she was glad I did. :)
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