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No flower girls/Ring bearers, but other family in WP

ElleTR13ElleTR13
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Ok, I will have 7 bridesmaids(1 matron of honor, 2 MOH, 4 BM). One is my sister, 5 are college/childhood friends, and 1 is probably going to be my first cousin who is my age(we've always been close). She has 2 sisters, one who I am close to(who has 3 kids), one who I am not(with 2 kids). I have decided not to have child attendants just because the ceremony will be short and sweet, and only 3 of the 5 kids are the appropriate age. Will it be odd to have 1 cousin, but none of the others involved?
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  • lalap69lalap69 member
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    No, I don't think it's odd.  You definitely don't need to have child attendants and I think the line you are drawing makes sense.
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  • gottahavashortigottahavashorti member
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    Are you asking about the cousins or their kids?  Either way, I think it would be fine to ask one cousin but not the others if you're closest to that cousin.  It's fine not to have any children in the WP.
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    I think that's fine.  Actually, my FI is back-seat knotting and his exact reaction was "So?"  You're not obligated to have anyone in your party.  If anyone is rude enough to ask why they or their kids aren't in the wedding, just say, "Well, if we had everyone we love up there with us, there wouldn't be anyone to watch the ceremony."  Then change the subject.
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    I have 17 first cousins.  4 were in the wedding, the other 13 weren't.  Asking one does not mean you have to ask all (although it does help that with an extended family that large we're accustomed to not everyone being included in the events).
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  • leeshab1982leeshab1982 member
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    I think it's fine not to have children in the wedding party.  We aren't having a flower girl or ring bearer because between FI and I, we have 7 nieces and nephews that are all under age 8.  We didn't want to choose just one or two of them, so we decided to not have a FG or RB. 

    As for the cousins, I think it's fine to choose the one that you are close to and not the others.  I'm sure everyone would understand, and if you aren't close with the other two cousins, they probably aren't expecting or hoping that you'd ask them anyway.


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