I'm getting married in November and hand-addressing over 300 invites (yeah, you read that right, lol) so I need to get started soon. For reference, I am doing outer envelopes only. I am trying to figure out how to appropriately address an invite to my cousin, her life partner, and their 3 boys, but the situation is a little complicated.
Both my cousin and her life partner were married when they met - my cousin had 2 sons with her H, and her life partner had 1 son with her H. When they got together, my cousin's life partner legally divorced her H (in fact I think she was already in the process when they met) - but my cousin is still legally married to hers. I think it has to do with wanting to work out their own custody and child support issues, etc. So what you end up with in the household is this:
Mrs. Jane Smith
Ms. Anne Jones
John Smith (age 13)
Joe Smith (age 11)
Andy Jones (age 8)
So how should I address this invitation? I was thinking of doing "Mrs. Jane Smith and Ms. Anne Jones and Family," but isn't it bad etiquette to use "and family?" Just looking for a couple of suggestions.