So FI and I had our first fight last night. He always calls me when I get done with work (he works as a waiter and doesn't get home till late). So yesterday he mentions he has something to tell me but doesn't want to upset me before dinne (my older brother and his new wife were in from out of town), of course I said what's going on. He tells me that he has invited his friend to stay with us indefinatly. Two things are really bothering me about this, first that he didn't even bother to ask me if that was ok. He just says yes to his friend even though we live in a small apartment and they both work late and I leave for work early. Second is that this friend takes complete advantage of him. I know for a fact that if the situation was flipped his friend would not offer his place to live. He is constantly borrowing money from him, only calls him when he needs something. I understand that they are friends but he needs to take into account that it is not just him in the appartment. I told him that this friend could not stay with us, since I know that once he moves in he'll stay with us forever and would not contribute anything to the household. My FI doesn't understand why I got so upset about this and why he can't stay with us. Am I wrong to not want someone who takes advantage moving in with us, especially when there is no set timeline. My FI offered to help him find a new apartment but his friend said no, just proving my point. Sorry it's so long but I really needed to get this off my chest.
P.S. we did talk about it and for right now he is not moving in with us.
P.P.S initially he was not going to tell me right away but was going to call me from the metro station saying that we're on our way.