As of right now, I am engaged to my boyfriend of 4 years. I've been planning my wedding for a while and I can't decide on a factor that is pretty important in my family.
I have two sisters, and so does he. I have seriously consided excluding my older sister from my bridal party due to her actions at her best friends wedding. She forced her way into the bridal party, demanded she gets her own special dress, and went against the brides request that the wedding be formal (after the ceremony she changed from her dress into a "punk rock" outfit" ). And to top it off, she fashioned a mini veil and wore it around as if she had just gotten married. I understand having a good time, but I did not find this appropriate behavior. Do you think this is a good move? How should I break it to her?
I would love to include my fiances sisters, but like with my siblings he has one who likes all the attention be on her. She can turn any situation into "KaLeigh Time". I don't want to be bridezilla, but it will be Jonathan & Kirsten Day, and I would like to celebrate our wedding, not KaLeigh being...KaLeigh. My concern is she will act similarly to my older sister.
I have no idea what to do. I want to include KaLeigh, but I don't want it to be KaLeigh Day.
I also need advice on the number of my bridal party. Including the flower girls, is 6 or 7 too much?
I would love some advice.
Re: In need of some help.
OP, don't even think about getting married until you can afford not only a wedding, but to live together and support yourselves afterwards. It's the adult thing to do.
One month after FI and I put my ring on layaway, he got laid off. That was in May of 2010. He just started working at a regular job last November. That was a long time for us to have our wedding plans shelved, but we did it. I'm not able to support us on our own, so the most logical, adult thing to do was to wait until he was more secure again. It was TOUGH. I mean...there were lots of times we wondered if we were strong enough to survive it. We spent a lot of time apart (weeks at a time) because he was trying to get work. But that's what being an adult is all about - doing the tough thing sometimes, because it's the right thing. I still don't have a ring, even though he's working again, because he's still paying off bills and straightening expenses out. But we do know that a wedding is in our future again, and we'll be able to talk about it and start making plans before too long. The wait was worth it, and it will be for you, I promise. You're still engaged without a ring.
[QUOTE]Wow. When I read your title, I thought you really did have a serious problem. OP, don't even think about getting married until you can afford not only a wedding, but to live together and support yourselves afterwards. It's the adult thing to do. One month after FI and I put my ring on layaway, he got laid off. That was in May of 2010. He just started working at a regular job last November. That was a long time for us to have our wedding plans shelved, but we did it. I'm not able to support us on our own, so the most logical, adult thing to do was to wait until he was more secure again. It was TOUGH. I mean...there were lots of times we wondered if we were strong enough to survive it. We spent a lot of time apart (weeks at a time) because he was trying to get work. But that's what being an adult is all about - doing the tough thing sometimes, because it's the right thing. I still don't have a ring, even though he's working again, because he's still paying off bills and straightening expenses out. But we do know that a wedding is in our future again, and we'll be able to talk about it and start making plans before too long. The wait was worth it, and it will be for you, I promise. You're still engaged without a ring.
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</div><div>Truth. My FI and I waited more than 2 years to get engaged because I had cancer and racked up lots of medical debt. We wanted to get married so bad, but couldn't afford to (hell, we could barely afford our rent, and my medical bills). Once we were financially stable and my health was intact, we were able to make plans. And lots has changed between 3 years ago and now, and a few of the people that I would have wanted in my bridal party then aren't even a part of my life now.</div><div>
</div><div>Get to the point where you have a date and a place, and then start worrying about your wedding party. A lot may change between now and then.
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