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Rant Rant Rant (in bridesmaids voice)

So, about 10 months ago I was asked by a friend to be in her wedding. absolutely excited, myself and the other 5 bridesmaids went ahead and purchased the gowns the future bride asked for.. 

Fast forward 5 months and the bride-to-be fell off the planet.. turns out she decided she was in fact NOT ready to get married and called off the wedding. Let me preface my annoyance by saying that I, along with a few of the other bridesmaids reached out several times to try and give advice, comfort and support. Only after major prodding, did she say that she just felt like she was too young/didn't feel she had the right chemistry with her future hubby and his family. 

Hit the fast forward again to about 2 months ago when I find out she's not only seeing someone from work, but planning a courthouse wedding (sans bridesmaids, and our David's Bridal dresses)

Putting aside the fact that I'm annoyed at how things played out, she's never once offered to reimburse us for the dresses or even apologize for the money we've already put out for her bridal shower.. I won't even get into the fact that she's already made clear she's not willing to pay for hair/make-up for my own wedding and had specific specifications for any jewelry I purchased for them.. 

Could I get some feedback on general practices for called-off weddings? I would at least like SOME sort of acknowledgement? Also, the dresses are from David's Bridal and we all know that they have such a terrible return/exchange policy, so there's nothing I can do about that! 

I was thinking of reaching out to the entire bridal party and asking if they would be up for putting them up on e-bay as a collection -- but 2 of the ex-bridesmaids are her ex-fiance's sisters. 

Such a tricky situation and trying not to harbor any negative feelings for my upcoming wedding!
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Re: Rant Rant Rant (in bridesmaids voice)

  • mrsR12mrsR12 member
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    that's terrible, i would try to sell the dress as well and do it individually.  i hope she comes around and acknowledge that she put you thru all that financial strain (on top of your wedding) for nothing.  we understand some ppl change their mind, but say something.  
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  • She really is supposed to give you the money for it, but that doesn't look like it's going to happen. Just sell the sucker. You can post it on the classifieds here on the NJ board, on the international board & eBay too. 

    Just to clarify, is she currently a bridesmaid in your wedding, or was that in the past? If it's now, why are you maintaining a relationship? This chick is a little cray cray.
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