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I need help!!!... a little long :(

    In my actual ceremony we are going to be married by a friend, no problem there, however; FMIL INSISTS we have a little 10 min mock ceremony right before the reception(which is the next day) so family and friends who couldn't make it to the real thing get a little taste of it. FMIL is really really opposed to us being married by a friend because she feels like its not legal enough and I think it has something to do with the fact we won't be getting married by a person from a church. Since FMIL is paying for the reception and I can't say no to her, I told her that at the mock ceremony she could choose an officiant.
    My problem is, this lady just emailed me a sample of what she thought we would like, when I explained I wanted something simple, short and sweet. Its this big huge thing all about Jesus and then she reads this poem about our hands. Its really long and dorky and FI and I are not religious in any way, even tho FI's family is really religious. I am having a hard time finding ceremony pieces that are non-denominational, does anyone have anything like this? I was hoping I could send her something like that and she would get a better idea of what we like without telling her we aren't religious.
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Re: I need help!!!... a little long :(

  • edited December 2011
    My fiance and I aren't religious at all either but both of our families are. To throw a little bible in there to make them happy we're going to read the love is patient love is kind verse from corinthians: ( http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+Corinthians+13&version=NIV ) it starts at verse 4 and ends at the end of verse 7. It's very iconic and I think it resonates with both religious and nonreligious folk. 

    You could let her know that you don't want the ceremony to be a sermon and would like something a little more short and sweet.

    Is this ceremony thingie everyone who was invited to your original ceremony is invited to also or will it just be some of FMIL's family and friends. If it's just for the religious folk let them be bored with it for a bit... you get to look at your hubby and wear your dress again. 25 minutes of that can't be all that bad.

    :)
  • edited December 2011
    I really don't want to do the 'mock' ceremony at all but thats the only way I could have my real ceremony on the day I wanted without FMIL throwing a fit because it would be harder for her family to be there on a friday night. I want a really small wedding. really small but FI has a billion family members that i feel don't all need to be there and FMIL does. FMIL is all about the show. so after we are all married attendents and everyone have to be dressed and ready by 10am to do another ceremony which will be at the reception, so everyone will be there. Me and my mum are paying for the ceremony while FMIL is paying for the reception (if it were up to me i wouldn't have a real reception in the first place) so i told her she could do whatever she wants.

         She doesn't really get that I'm not into all this. I would run away and elope but then I would still be missing out on what I really want.
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  • edited December 2011
    oh and I emailed the 'mock' ceremony OP a sample of something short but romantic I  found on the internet but she hasn't emailed me back... I'm kinda scared I might have offended her even tho I was really nice about it
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