I am with Heather. I think its outdated. It doesnt mean that people dont still follow it. There are a lot of outdated things that some people still do.
And I think the hurtful things you are saying LindsayandMarc are uncalled for and terrible.
Look, some people view as "asking" as in saying, can I? If the dad/mom says no, does that mean we can't get married? No, that's not how it works. Some people, like me, view it as a blessing. If my parents hadn't given their blessing we would have gotten married anyway. Probably would have eloped to Vegas, not done a whole big shindig, but married nonetheless.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_did-fi-ask-dad-ur-hand-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:3fa643ab-c4c1-4dc9-abc3-c3347c40674aPost:6019c959-a34e-434b-b899-748053203416">Re: Did your Fi ask your dad for ur hand in marriage???</a>: [QUOTE]I refuse to continue on a conversation over someone's uhum bitterness. She attacked my post as a know it all. It was a matter of opinion and i agree to disagree, butttt to attack my post, come on... Posted by LindseyandMarc[/QUOTE] Wow you really need to grow up. She did not attack your post nor did she act as a know it all. You attacked her first by implying she wasn't close with her father because she didn't believe in this "tradition."
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_did-fi-ask-dad-ur-hand-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:3fa643ab-c4c1-4dc9-abc3-c3347c40674aPost:122917f5-7ddc-475e-9205-77e474f438f8">Re: Did your Fi ask your dad for ur hand in marriage???</a>: [QUOTE]Why are you attacking and jumping down people's throats for no reason. People have given you their responses and you need to respect that not everyone is going to have the same views has you. If you can't deal with that, then you shouldn't be posting. Posted by jrgoogrl[/QUOTE]
This!!
geez! Learn to agree to disagree without acting rude. Heather was merely stating her opinion, I don't see the other ladies jumping on her for doing it.
Lindsey- i don't think it's that serious like pp have said, everyone is entitled to their own opinion and we should respect it as so. I don't believe what Heather said was wrong, she just has a different opinion, no need for anyone to take things personally. Oh and i wish this was on the board about a year ago, someone would have been GBCK... i was a lurker then and the girls were VERY truthful, I loved it...lol
Absolutely did my FI ask my father!!!! It was important to both of us as we are both traditional. FI asked my father a weekend that i was away with all my girlfriends, it was about 4 weeks before we got engaged. he kind of asked my brother too (older brother and super italian family = over protective father and brother!) i thought that was sooo awesome of him to ask my brother too, and my brother thought it was very respectful as well. and of course FI told my mom last bc she cant keep secrets, but even that was about 1 week before the engagment!!!!
I don't post very often, esp if it involves drama, but Lindsey you have actually made me ridiculously angry reading your posts. I think Heather proved her point when she asked how old you were. Your responses show your maturity level. There is no reason to be dropping "F U" into a bunch of your posts and the fact that she made comments toward her feelings about her father's illness is extremely uncalled for. You don't know this girl and the fact that it is such a sensitive subject doesn't mean you get to comment on it. You two obviously disagree on the "tradition", but who cares?? Grow up!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_did-fi-ask-dad-ur-hand-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:3fa643ab-c4c1-4dc9-abc3-c3347c40674aPost:12f0340e-65c6-428d-8a23-5a4978820de6">Re: Did your Fi ask your dad for ur hand in marriage???</a>: [QUOTE]lol I would have loved it too then. Just hate when someone GOOGLES SOMETHING and makes it like they are sooooo smart... Not my point either, she came on strong like that, then to go and READ MY OTHER POST...AND COMMENT ON THEM, F U.... Theres that age old saying people in glass houses shouldnt throw stones... BUT IM SURE IF SHE GOOGLED IT IT WOULD SAY SOMETHING ELSE!!! Posted by LindseyandMarc[/QUOTE]
Obviously your pissed because you have no idea how the tradition started. Do us a favor and go back to high school and learn your World History, you may learn a few things.
FI was so excited the day he got the ring that he just proposed that night and felt guilty afterwards. Thankfully my dad didn't care - he actually always said he thought it was silly to ask because as a grown woman i can make my own decision. It all worked out!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_did-fi-ask-dad-ur-hand-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:3fa643ab-c4c1-4dc9-abc3-c3347c40674aPost:f5e1fc97-6648-472d-b9cf-dffceee8396d">Re: Did your Fi ask your dad for ur hand in marriage???</a>: [QUOTE]Obviously your pissed because you have no idea how the tradition started. Do us a favor and go back to high school and learn your World History, you may learn a few things. <strong>IM SPEAKLESS</strong> HERE. WORLD HISTORY! AND I SHOULD GO BACK TO H.S> Posted by LindseyandMarc[/QUOTE]
Enough said. Learn to spell as well when you go back.
Whoa - just read all the back and forth going on....
EVERYBODY needs to chill
1. If somebody has a different opinion/view/way of doing things - so be it. everybody is different and although you may not agree with it you have no right to insult others while trying to argue your own point.
2. The biggest nono here is the comment "Sorry ur dad is dying and u feel angry u werent close to him!" that wasn't fair. Most things in arguments on the boards can go in one ear and out the other but to say something as touchy as that is low. Sorry to say that and I'm not implying your a bad person - when ppl are heated they say things that in hindsight arent the best choices.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_did-fi-ask-dad-ur-hand-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:3fa643ab-c4c1-4dc9-abc3-c3347c40674aPost:de69b5b3-8364-40c7-9ab0-93c266ab9955">Re: Did your Fi ask your dad for ur hand in marriage???</a>: [QUOTE]I can go on all day...lol U wrote world History, I know i often spell wrong when typing fast... Seriousy WE ARE ALL WELL AWARE u r friends with the attacked.... Please really dont u see ur brown nosing is making me attack her more, very immature Yes but very entertaining. I dont even think this is about her anymore.. Posted by LindseyandMarc[/QUOTE] Your immaturity level is absolutely ridiculous for someone who is engaged to be married.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_did-fi-ask-dad-ur-hand-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:3fa643ab-c4c1-4dc9-abc3-c3347c40674aPost:4b1444cb-ddc8-4a69-b2a9-18cecd1d6fda">Re: Did your Fi ask your dad for ur hand in marriage???</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Did your Fi ask your dad for ur hand in marriage??? : Your immaturity level is absolutely ridiculous for someone who is engaged to be married. Posted by rlb81[/QUOTE]
FI called my dad and asked to meet him at a local bar. FI got there a little early and the bartender actually started to ask what kind of cologne he had on LOL... He said to her "i'm sorry but i'm about to ask my gf's father for her hand" and the waitress brought him a free beer that he chugged before my dad came. My dad, of course, said absolutely and the waitress then brought them both over free beers. We were suppose to go to the gym when I got home from work that day... but FI had a few too many for the early afternoon (which at the time i didnt even notice). I was happy that he asked... and my dad was too.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_did-fi-ask-dad-ur-hand-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:3fa643ab-c4c1-4dc9-abc3-c3347c40674aPost:2e9aa32d-d252-4233-af59-bf9b26ad1ad1">Re: Did your Fi ask your dad for ur hand in marriage???</a>: [QUOTE]Look dont be a hypocrote.. Dont be defensive for the girl and her sad story. <strong>Because he dad is croaking </strong>doesnt mean she can come off as a google queen... O sad story please feel bad for me, STOP really, I mean seriously re read the post... Im sorry ohh wait let me apologize, NOT! Hows that for maturity! Posted by LindseyandMarc[/QUOTE]
<div>You should really GBCK. </div><div> </div><div>Oh and anyone who would say something like the bolded part of your post, pretty much sucks at life. </div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_did-fi-ask-dad-ur-hand-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:3fa643ab-c4c1-4dc9-abc3-c3347c40674aPost:2e9aa32d-d252-4233-af59-bf9b26ad1ad1">Re: Did your Fi ask your dad for ur hand in marriage???</a>: [QUOTE]Look dont be a hypocrote.. Dont be defensive for the girl and her sad story. Because he dad is croaking doesnt mean she can come off as a google queen... O sad story please feel bad for me, STOP really, I mean seriously re read the post... Im sorry ohh wait let me apologize, NOT! Hows that for maturity! Posted by LindseyandMarc[/QUOTE]
are you serious with this? you're the biggest cunnt i've seen in a while.
Ahhhh....Chelsea....I was waiting for you or Cheryl to come out with it.....love it! If you don't want an opinion....don't ask for it, because essentially that is what you asked for in the beginning. Heather was giving her opinion and you jumped down her throat because she did not agree with you. We all come from different walks of live and have different persepectives on things....If you cannot respect that then you are outdated!
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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_did-fi-ask-dad-ur-hand-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:3fa643ab-c4c1-4dc9-abc3-c3347c40674aPost:95592c51-6452-4c90-b2a1-f7a8559db527">Re: Did your Fi ask your dad for ur hand in marriage???</a>: [QUOTE]ur mothers a twatwaffle. Posted by LindseyandMarc[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_did-fi-ask-dad-ur-hand-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:3fa643ab-c4c1-4dc9-abc3-c3347c40674aPost:a2c68152-30c6-4a85-8f2f-6dcbb0aaffaf">Re: Did your Fi ask your dad for ur hand in marriage???</a>: [QUOTE]"Miricle" LMAO Posted by Denise91980[/QUOTE]
Re: Did your Fi ask your dad for ur hand in marriage???
And I think the hurtful things you are saying LindsayandMarc are uncalled for and terrible.
[QUOTE]I refuse to continue on a conversation over someone's uhum bitterness. She attacked my post as a know it all. It was a matter of opinion and i agree to disagree, butttt to attack my post, come on...
Posted by LindseyandMarc[/QUOTE]
Wow you really need to grow up. She did not attack your post nor did she act as a know it all. You attacked her first by implying she wasn't close with her father because she didn't believe in this "tradition."
[QUOTE]Why are you attacking and jumping down people's throats for no reason. People have given you their responses and you need to respect that not everyone is going to have the same views has you. If you can't deal with that, then you shouldn't be posting.
Posted by jrgoogrl[/QUOTE]
This!!
geez! Learn to agree to disagree without acting rude. Heather was merely stating her opinion, I don't see the other ladies jumping on her for doing it.
just calm down.
"5.01.09"
Oh and i wish this was on the board about a year ago, someone would have been GBCK... i was a lurker then and the girls were VERY truthful, I loved it...lol
I don't post very often, esp if it involves drama, but Lindsey you have actually made me ridiculously angry reading your posts. I think Heather proved her point when she asked how old you were. Your responses show your maturity level. There is no reason to be dropping "F U" into a bunch of your posts and the fact that she made comments toward her feelings about her father's illness is extremely uncalled for. You don't know this girl and the fact that it is such a sensitive subject doesn't mean you get to comment on it. You two obviously disagree on the "tradition", but who cares?? Grow up!
[QUOTE]lol I would have loved it too then. Just hate when someone GOOGLES SOMETHING and makes it like they are sooooo smart... Not my point either, she came on strong like that, then to go and READ MY OTHER POST...AND COMMENT ON THEM, F U.... Theres that age old saying people in glass houses shouldnt throw stones... BUT IM SURE IF SHE GOOGLED IT IT WOULD SAY SOMETHING ELSE!!!
Posted by LindseyandMarc[/QUOTE]
Obviously your pissed because you have no idea how the tradition started. Do us a favor and go back to high school and learn your World History, you may learn a few things.
FI was so excited the day he got the ring that he just proposed that night and felt guilty afterwards. Thankfully my dad didn't care - he actually always said he thought it was silly to ask because as a grown woman i can make my own decision. It all worked out!
[QUOTE]Obviously your pissed because you have no idea how the tradition started. Do us a favor and go back to high school and learn your World History, you may learn a few things. <strong>IM SPEAKLESS</strong> HERE. WORLD HISTORY! AND I SHOULD GO BACK TO H.S>
Posted by LindseyandMarc[/QUOTE]
Enough said. Learn to spell as well when you go back.
EVERYBODY needs to chill
1. If somebody has a different opinion/view/way of doing things - so be it. everybody is different and although you may not agree with it you have no right to insult others while trying to argue your own point.
2. The biggest nono here is the comment "Sorry ur dad is dying and u feel angry u werent close to him!" that wasn't fair. Most things in arguments on the boards can go in one ear and out the other but to say something as touchy as that is low. Sorry to say that and I'm not implying your a bad person - when ppl are heated they say things that in hindsight arent the best choices.
[QUOTE]I can go on all day...lol U wrote world History, I know i often spell wrong when typing fast... Seriousy WE ARE ALL WELL AWARE u r friends with the attacked.... Please really dont u see ur brown nosing is making me attack her more, very immature Yes but very entertaining. I dont even think this is about her anymore..
Posted by LindseyandMarc[/QUOTE]
Your immaturity level is absolutely ridiculous for someone who is engaged to be married.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Did your Fi ask your dad for ur hand in marriage??? : Your immaturity level is absolutely ridiculous for someone who is engaged to be married.
Posted by rlb81[/QUOTE]
Obviously, it'll be a long lasting marriage.
[QUOTE]Look dont be a hypocrote.. Dont be defensive for the girl and her sad story. <strong>Because he dad is croaking </strong>doesnt mean she can come off as a google queen... O sad story please feel bad for me, STOP really, I mean seriously re read the post... Im sorry ohh wait let me apologize, NOT! Hows that for maturity!
Posted by LindseyandMarc[/QUOTE]
<div>You should really GBCK. </div><div>
</div><div>Oh and anyone who would say something like the bolded part of your post, pretty much sucks at life. </div>
[QUOTE]Look dont be a hypocrote.. Dont be defensive for the girl and her sad story. Because he dad is croaking doesnt mean she can come off as a google queen... O sad story please feel bad for me, STOP really, I mean seriously re read the post... Im sorry ohh wait let me apologize, NOT! Hows that for maturity!
Posted by LindseyandMarc[/QUOTE]
are you serious with this? you're the biggest cunnt i've seen in a while.
for the Dad dying comments alone.
If you don't want an opinion....don't ask for it, because essentially that is what you asked for in the beginning. Heather was giving her opinion and you jumped down her throat because she did not agree with you. We all come from different walks of live and have different persepectives on things....If you cannot respect that then you are outdated!
[QUOTE]ur mothers a twatwaffle.
Posted by LindseyandMarc[/QUOTE]
takes one to know one!
is that at your maturity level now?
LMAO
[QUOTE]"Miricle" LMAO
Posted by Denise91980[/QUOTE]
LOL! I love it!