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When to tell bridesmaids
So our wedding is a while away. October 26 2014.
When do i tell my girls i would like them to be my bridemaids? Do i wait until 2014 or do i tell them now? I would like to send them a lovely letter invite in the mail explaining my reason i picked them as my bridesmaids. I am so gitty and excited to do this but i have one fear. What if i do this too soon. When is too soon? HELP
When do i tell my girls i would like them to be my bridemaids? Do i wait until 2014 or do i tell them now? I would like to send them a lovely letter invite in the mail explaining my reason i picked them as my bridesmaids. I am so gitty and excited to do this but i have one fear. What if i do this too soon. When is too soon? HELP
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Re: When to tell bridesmaids
9-10 months before is probably the ideal time, especially because your wedding isn't during a busy time of year.
Also, congrats on your engagement!
[QUOTE]<strong>There are so many stories on these boards about people picking wedding party members and then regretting it later. And every time it's "we were BFF's" or "she's my sister!" but really, until you're 6-10 months or so from the wedding, you really shouldn't be asking anyone yet.</strong> I know its' exciting and all, but you'll save yourself so many potential headaches by waiting. Also, congrats on your engagement!
Posted by mandi195[/QUOTE]
<strong>THIS! THIS! THIS! I</strong> was one of those girls and it was a mess because I chose two friends who I am closer with than two that I've known longer but not quite as close with as I used to be. I should have waited - lesson learned! I mean I would have chosen the same two either way but it was drama that could have been avoided.
Everything is fine now, we've talked and worked it out. But it was unnecessary. Don't say anything until the 6-10 month time frame.
[QUOTE]Thank you ladies so much!<strong> I really dont want to tell anyone,</strong> (due to life changing events uou never know will happen) even though I am so excited, but this really helped me make up my mind! Ill keep it hush hush for now. Thanks for the replys and experience based answers too! Sabrina
Posted by BunnieBride143[/QUOTE]
You are NOT telling anyone, you are ASKING!
[QUOTE]Wait until 2014. 23 months is an incredibly long time and so many things can change. 9-10 months before is probably the ideal time,<strong> especially because your wedding isn't during a busy time of year.
</strong>Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]
September and October are very very very busy wedding months in many coastal cities. In the bay area, the summer is foggy and often chilly. September is the busiest wedding month of the year. I imagine Florida in October has perfect weather, which would make it a very busywedding month. June, July & August aren't the "high" wedding season in all geographic locations.
OP, I would wait until the 8 month mark to ask your BMs. Most BM dresses can be ordered in about 2-5 months. I would ask around February of 2014.
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http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
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http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/