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AngelzM28 · April 2010

Apparently I am being a big b*tch. I can't help how I feel, regardless of how stupid or selfish it may seem to the rest of you. I don't think the world should stop for me and of course I'm thrilled to be an Aunt again. It isn't about the child, of course I want nothing but the best for them! Thank you for your honest responses to my ridiculous 'drama'. I appreciate your brutal honestly and apparently I'm making myself sound like a total ass. Your right people can be happy for more than one person & I'm acting like a complete 'bridezilla'. Now I wish I could delete this for making myself like such a jerk....

MeaghanandMichael · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_wedding-stressfuture-sil-stealing-limelight?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:afab6b6f-12c0-4993-84e9-dcb89a36bf42Post:4521ef36-0993-4fcc-b4e6-a21364094609">Wedding stress/Future SIL stealing my limelight!</a>:
[QUOTE] Now one week later. Guess what the 'great' news is this time?! My lovely FSIL (Fiance's SIL) just breaks the news to the whole family that she's preggos and doesn't her due date just happen to be right around our wedding day! Now this will be the first grandchild for my FI's immediate side of the family so it's a HUGE deal. She couldn't have waited a few more months? I knew they weren't 'not trying' and we even half jokingly asked them to hold out a little while so there wouldn't be any Christmas babies. I know I'm being selfish but I'm really upset. Now all anyone cares about is the new baby and her baby showers, which of course don't they happen to be around the same time this Fall! I'm just so upset that we went out of our way to give them the limelight for their wedding and now she's taking it from me. No one is going to care about my bridal shower when she's having a baby shower. Ughhhhhhhhhhh so ridiculous. I guess I'm lucky we will have a child close to our future childrens ages (my siblings are much much older than I am) it's just horrible timing. I swear if she births this child on my wedding day & his whole family leaves our wedding for her to go have a baby I will die! Now I'm really kicking myself about not eloping. Too late now, all of the deposits are all down, what's done is done. I'm just soooo mad! Obviously I can't do anything but how do I deal & try to be positive about this?! Help!
Posted by AngelzM28[/QUOTE]

I didn't even quote the first part because it seemed like the normal run of the mill friend drama that you seemed to be sensitive too. But then I got to this part.

Please tell me you are joking right? You are tlaking about the birth of a CHILD to your family. This is such a blessing and so special. You sound like a ridiculously self centered person and I am not surprised people would rather focus on the baby than on the wedding.

andy71781 · April 2010

I don't believe that you have truly lurked if you are posting this.

beatlesgirl25 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_wedding-stressfuture-sil-stealing-limelight?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:afab6b6f-12c0-4993-84e9-dcb89a36bf42Post:4521ef36-0993-4fcc-b4e6-a21364094609">Wedding stress/Future SIL stealing my limelight!</a>:
[QUOTE]Hello ladies, I've also been a lurker off and on here for awhile, but I need to vent!! So I'm asking for your assistance. My fiance and I have been together for almost 6 yrs. We just got engaged before Christmas Eve this year. He purposely waited for his younger brother & SIL to have their Oct 09 wedding before proposing to me so we wouldn't be stealing any of their much deserved attention at their wedding. After being together so long I can't say that I was originally thrilled about having to wait for them, but I understood and us getting married whenever it may be is what's important! I've always wanted to elope, I've dreamed of a beach wedding. He wanted a big traditional wedding. This was a topic of tension between us both for quite some time before we got engaged (prob why it took so long). I finally decided to suck it up, and agreed to a local wedding in his hometown (1.5 hrs from where we live). After all, ultimately it is about us spending the rest of our lives together! We are going to the Caribbean for our honeymoon so I saw it as a compromise for both of us, he wanted Italy. Fast forward 5 months later...things had been great. I began to change my mind about how much fun weddings planning could be. I've already gotten my dress & BM dress orders in, DJ, Photographer etc. As I'm getting prepared for my bachelorette party & bridal showers, I've begun to get more & more exited about the whole wedding process, like most brides should! A week ago out of the blue one of my BM's drops out of my wedding the day before I ask her to have her dress order in! She had discussed some $ issues with me a few weeks prior. I told her we'd work through it. It's impt for me to have her in the wedding b/c she's a great friend, not because of what she can/can't pay for. She reluctantly agreed. Although she kept saying she felt bad about my paying for her, she's an independent woman etc. She claimed it was ONLY due to issues with money, that she's been stressing about for months. IIt finally came out that wedding/baby shower invites kept arriving in the mail & that she wanted to "enjoy our wedding". So being in a wedding means you can't enjoy it? Whatever, needless to say she dropped me, and a commitment she had already made, so that she could attend all of these other weddings/parties. Great friend huh? We are still not speaking to one another. I know it's 'tacky' to replace someone but luckily I was able to get my 18 y/o niece to be a BM in her place since the wedding is still 7 months away. It worked alright since the dress orders were just being sent out. Talk about stress. Thankfully I somehow got through it. Now one week later. Guess what the 'great' news is this time?! My lovely FSIL (Fiance's SIL) just breaks the news to the whole family that she's preggos and doesn't her due date just happen to be right around our wedding day! Now this will be the first grandchild for my FI's immediate side of the family so it's a HUGE deal. She couldn't have waited a few more months? I knew they weren't 'not trying' and we even half jokingly asked them to hold out a little while so there wouldn't be any Christmas babies. I know I'm being selfish but I'm really upset. Now all anyone cares about is the new baby and her baby showers, which of course don't they happen to be around the same time this Fall! I'm just so upset that we went out of our way to give them the limelight for their wedding and now she's taking it from me. No one is going to care about my bridal shower when she's having a baby shower. Ughhhhhhhhhhh so ridiculous. I guess I'm lucky we will have a child close to our future childrens ages (my siblings are much much older than I am) it's just horrible timing. I swear if she births this child on my wedding day & his whole family leaves our wedding for her to go have a baby I will die! Now I'm really kicking myself about not eloping. Too late now, all of the deposits are all down, what's done is done. I'm just soooo mad! Obviously I can't do anything but how do I deal & try to be positive about this?! Help!
Posted by AngelzM28[/QUOTE]

I just don't have the energy for this one.

jajph1974 · April 2010

I had a long day and I don't have the energy to type what I want to say.

This post made me dry heave

andy71781 · April 2010

Now one week later. Guess what the 'great' news is this time?! My lovely FSIL (Fiance's SIL) just breaks the news to the whole family that she's preggos and doesn't her due date just happen to be right around our wedding day! Now this will be the first grandchild for my FI's immediate side of the family so it's a HUGE deal. She couldn't have waited a few more months? I knew they weren't 'not trying' and we even half jokingly asked them to hold out a little while so there wouldn't be any Christmas babies. I know I'm being selfish but I'm really upset. Now all anyone cares about is the new baby and her baby showers, which of course don't they happen to be around the same time this Fall! I'm just so upset that we went out of our way to give them the limelight for their wedding and now she's taking it from me. No one is going to care about my bridal shower when she's having a baby shower. Ughhhhhhhhhhh so ridiculous. I guess I'm lucky we will have a child close to our future childrens ages (my siblings are much much older than I am) it's just horrible timing. I swear if she births this child on my wedding day & his whole family leaves our wedding for her to go have a baby I will die! Now I'm really kicking myself about not eloping. Too late now, all of the deposits are all down, what's done is done. I'm just soooo mad! Obviously I can't do anything but how do I deal & try to be positive about this?! Help!

If they "weren't trying" how could she have "waited a couple of months"? Not have sex?

bbyckes · April 2010

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[QUOTE]Hello ladies, I've also been a lurker off and on here for awhile, but I need to vent!! So I'm asking for your assistance. My fiance and I have been together for almost 6 yrs. We just got engaged before Christmas Eve this year. He purposely waited for his younger brother & SIL to have their Oct 09 wedding before proposing to me so we wouldn't be stealing any of their much deserved attention at their wedding. After being together so long I can't say that I was originally thrilled about having to wait for them, but I understood and us getting married whenever it may be is what's important! I've always wanted to elope, I've dreamed of a beach wedding. He wanted a big traditional wedding. This was a topic of tension between us both for quite some time before we got engaged (prob why it took so long). I finally decided to suck it up, and agreed to a local wedding in his hometown (1.5 hrs from where we live). After all, ultimately it is about us spending the rest of our lives together! We are going to the Caribbean for our honeymoon so I saw it as a compromise for both of us, he wanted Italy. Fast forward 5 months later...things had been great. I began to change my mind about how much fun weddings planning could be. I've already gotten my dress & BM dress orders in, DJ, Photographer etc. As I'm getting prepared for my bachelorette party & bridal showers, I've begun to get more & more exited about the whole wedding process, like most brides should! A week ago out of the blue one of my BM's drops out of my wedding the day before I ask her to have her dress order in! She had discussed some $ issues with me a few weeks prior. I told her we'd work through it. It's impt for me to have her in the wedding b/c she's a great friend, not because of what she can/can't pay for. She reluctantly agreed. Although she kept saying she felt bad about my paying for her, she's an independent woman etc. She claimed it was ONLY due to issues with money, that she's been stressing about for months. IIt finally came out that wedding/baby shower invites kept arriving in the mail & that she wanted to "enjoy our wedding". So being in a wedding means you can't enjoy it? Whatever, needless to say she dropped me, and a commitment she had already made, so that she could attend all of these other weddings/parties. Great friend huh? We are still not speaking to one another. I know it's 'tacky' to replace someone but luckily I was able to get my 18 y/o niece to be a BM in her place since the wedding is still 7 months away. It worked alright since the dress orders were just being sent out. Talk about stress. Thankfully I somehow got through it. Now one week later. Guess what the 'great' news is this time?! My lovely FSIL (Fiance's SIL) just breaks the news to the whole family that she's preggos and doesn't her due date just happen to be right around our wedding day! Now this will be the first grandchild for my FI's immediate side of the family so it's a HUGE deal. She couldn't have waited a few more months? I knew they weren't 'not trying' and we even half jokingly asked them to hold out a little while so there wouldn't be any Christmas babies. I know I'm being selfish but I'm really upset. Now all anyone cares about is the new baby and her baby showers, which of course don't they happen to be around the same time this Fall! I'm just so upset that we went out of our way to give them the limelight for their wedding and now she's taking it from me. No one is going to care about my bridal shower when she's having a baby shower. Ughhhhhhhhhhh so ridiculous. I guess I'm lucky we will have a child close to our future childrens ages (my siblings are much much older than I am) it's just horrible timing. I swear if she births this child on my wedding day & his whole family leaves our wedding for her to go have a baby I will die! Now I'm really kicking myself about not eloping. Too late now, all of the deposits are all down, what's done is done. I'm just soooo mad! Obviously I can't do anything but how do I deal & try to be positive about this?! Help!
Posted by AngelzM28[/QUOTE]

I'll admit, I skimmed through a lot of this. What exactly do you need help with? She's pregnant. She's going to have a baby. Why wouldn't anyone care about your bridal shower because she's going to have a baby shower? The thought of her birthing "this child" on your wedding day kinda gave me the giggles. It'd kinda serve you right. Stop working yourself up over this and be flippin' happy that you're going to be an aunt. I hope you love "this baby" and understand that I'm sure she didn't try to get pregnant to steal your limelight.

This is nonsense. Do you feel better now?

mnp555 · April 2010

I'll bet she did it on purpose to ruin your special day. Next she'll be trying to convince your remaining bms to get pregnant so they don't look good in photos. What a conniving woman!

emarston1 · April 2010

Oh dear lord, I need a cliff's notes version. From what I gather you are upset about:

1) BM dropped out of the wedding due to "financial" issues which you don't believe because she wants to celebrate other people's life events other than yours. While I get that she made a commitment to you, at the same time this is not something to lose a friendship over. Clearly you weren't that close if you are willing to throw away a friendship over being a BM.

2) You waited to get engaged until FBIL and FSIL got married so you wouldn't steal their thunder. Now they are pregnant and stealing yours. Yes, I get it as an initial snap judgement reaction but you really should move beyond that. This is really EXCITING news. There will (hopefully) be a healthy, bundle of joy joining the family. Get over it, there's nothing you can do to change it.

You get a day. Not a month, not a year, a DAY. And it will be as wonderful as you make it. Nothing ruins a great wedding like a selfish bride.

Edit: Took out some personal information that I forgot we weren't supposed to tell yet. And knowing my luck someone I know might see it and tell people. I suck at keeping secrets.

rtv3 · April 2010

Seriously? Can you get any more self-centered? It's totally possible for people to be excited about two different happy occasions at the same time. It's not like the entire world has to be focused on sending happy thoughts your way.
And I know what I'm talking about because about a month after FI and I got engaged his sister announced that she was pregnant - and is due 5 days before our wedding. Guess what I did? Said, "Congratulations!!!!!" about a million times and was genuinely happy for her.
Her showers are all right around the same time that mine are (different days of course so that we can go to each others) and I could care less. A baby is an awesome gift not something to gripe about!

beatlesgirl25 · April 2010

Alright, I'll try to be constructive.

Does it suck that your friend dropped out of your wedding party? Yes. Was it super tacky for you to replace her in the WP with someone who wasn't a first choice? Yes. Is it okay to feel frustrated with having compromised a lot of what you wanted for your wedding, only to have things coming up now that seem like interferences? Of course.

That being said, your choice of words here is really making it difficult to take you seriously (i.e., "stealing my limelight"). Life happens. Marriages and babies and other people's weddings that your friends want to go to happen. It was yours and your FI's choice to wait for everyone else to get married, but that doesn't guarantee you a designated amount of months now that can only be about your wedding. I think the fact that you tried to lay claim to this period of time in everyone's lives by waiting for it has made you lose the bigger picture here. Happy events are occurring all around you, including your own wedding. Don't be resentful of others and feel sorry for yourself because they are carrying on with their lives. I hope you come back to this thread and realize how selfish and entitled you sound.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · April 2010

So you're upset that she's "stealing your thunder" because she's pregnant? Do you know how presumptious it is to ask ehr to put her LIFE on hold for your ONE day? This is her FAMILY and her CHILD you are talking about. You wedding is a PARTY. In 20 years, which one are people going to be more concerned about? Yeah.

No one is going to ignore you because your FSIL is having a baby shower. But they might ditch your shower because you're being a biitch.

[Deleted User] · April 2010

This post represents all that is souless and evil.

xoxob · April 2010

I think that you should resent the baby after it's born, too. Blame it for "stealing your limelight".

I really hope that you're just upset because you never wanted this big to do to begin with and now you're realizing you bit off more than you can chew. I think you need to re-evaluate the impact your wedding makes on everyone else's lives around you.

betrothed123 · April 2010

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[QUOTE]Hello ladies, I've also been a lurker off and on here for awhile,
<strong>Bullshit. There's no way you've lurked here before.
</strong>
but I need to vent!! So I'm asking for your assistance. My fiance and I have been together for almost 6 yrs. We just got engaged before Christmas Eve this year. He purposely waited for his younger brother & SIL to have their Oct 09 wedding before proposing to me so we wouldn't be stealing any of their much deserved attention at their wedding.
<strong>This was a choice that your FI made. He didn't have to wait, but he did. You getting engaged would have had nothing to do with them and their engagement/wedding.
</strong>
After being together so long I can't say that I was originally thrilled about having to wait for them, but I understood and us getting married whenever it may be is what's important!
<strong>I commend you for recognizing that you getting married is what is important, but again this is a choice your FI made. He didn't have to do this.
</strong>
I've always wanted to elope, I've dreamed of a beach wedding. He wanted a big traditional wedding. This was a topic of tension between us both for quite some time before we got engaged (prob why it took so long).
<strong>So then your FI's reasons for waiting were not as noble as you originally stated, huh?
</strong>
I finally decided to suck it up, and agreed to a local wedding in his hometown (1.5 hrs from where we live). After all, ultimately it is about us spending the rest of our lives together!
<strong>Again, I commend you for this last part.
</strong>
We are going to the Caribbean for our honeymoon so I saw it as a compromise for both of us, he wanted Italy. Fast forward 5 months later...things had been great. I began to change my mind about how much fun weddings planning could be. I've already gotten my dress & BM dress orders in, DJ, Photographer etc. As I'm getting prepared for my bachelorette party & bridal showers, I've begun to get more & more exited about the whole wedding process, like most brides should!
<strong>I'm glad you grew to enjoy the planning. This is something not all brides do.
</strong>
A week ago out of the blue one of my BM's drops out of my wedding the day before I ask her to have her dress order in! She had discussed some $ issues with me a few weeks prior. I told her we'd work through it. It's impt for me to have her in the wedding b/c she's a great friend, not because of what she can/can't pay for. She reluctantly agreed. Although she kept saying she felt bad about my paying for her, she's an independent woman etc. She claimed it was ONLY due to issues with money, that she's been stressing about for months. IIt finally came out that wedding/baby shower invites kept arriving in the mail & that she wanted to "enjoy our wedding". So being in a wedding means you can't enjoy it?
<strong>She actually has a pretty good point. If I had a choice, I'd rather be a guest at a wedding than in the BP. There's a whole heck of a lot less stress when all you have to do is show up and party. She shouldn't have initially accepted if she didn't want to be in it, but it is what it is and I'm sorry you lost a BM.
</strong>
Whatever, needless to say she dropped me, and a commitment she had already made, so that she could attend all of these other weddings/parties. Great friend huh? We are still not speaking to one another.
<strong>I understand being hurt over her dropping out, but if you are the one that ended contact with her, I urge you to reconsider. She was obviously a very close friend if you wanted her to be a BM. A wedding should not be the cause of the ending of a friendship. Try to figure out what's really going on in your friendship that lead to her dropping out.
</strong>
I know it's 'tacky' to replace someone but luckily I was able to get my 18 y/o niece to be a BM in her place since the wedding is still 7 months away. It worked alright since the dress orders were just being sent out. Talk about stress. Thankfully I somehow got through it.
<strong>The stress caused by finding a new BM and getting her a dress lies solely on you. You should not have replaced her and would have saved yourself this particular stress if you had left things as they were.
</strong>
Now one week later. Guess what the 'great' news is this time?! My lovely FSIL (Fiance's SIL) just breaks the news to the whole family that she's preggos and doesn't her due date just happen to be right around our wedding day! Now this will be the first grandchild for my FI's immediate side of the family so it's a HUGE deal.
<strong>Congratulations to your BIL and SIL! That's awesome news! Your whole family must be thrilled.</strong>

She couldn't have waited a few more months?
<strong>Nope, the decision of when to start a new family should NEVER be based upon another person's wedding.
</strong>
I knew they weren't 'not trying' and we even half jokingly asked them to hold out a little while so there wouldn't be any Christmas babies. I know I'm being selfish but I'm really upset.
<strong>I'm glad you recognize how horrible you sound right here. You wanted them to wait a few months when they weren't even trying? You're incredible!

</strong>Now all anyone cares about is the new baby and her baby showers, which of course don't they happen to be around the same time this Fall!
<strong>Everyone should be excited. They are still excited for you, but a new baby in the family is just as exciting as a wedding. That's the way it should be.
</strong>
I'm just so upset that we went out of our way to give them the limelight for their wedding and now she's taking it from me.
<strong>Again, you and your FI chose when to get engaged, and as you admitted above, it really didn't have as much to do with them as you'd like to remember. You could have gotten engaged at any point that you wanted to. She is not stealing your limelight at all (By the way, I like the use of "me." Does your FI rate in your wedding at all?). She's having a child. You're still getting married and on your wedding day you will be the bride, not her.
</strong>
No one is going to care about my bridal shower when she's having a baby shower.
<strong>Yes they will care about your bridal shower. Are they going to happen at the same time? Are they combined showers? I don't know about you, but I'm capable of being happy for more than one person at a time.</strong>

Ughhhhhhhhhhh so ridiculous.
<strong>I agree you are.
</strong>
I guess I'm lucky we will have a child close to our future childrens ages (my siblings are much much older than I am) it's just horrible timing.
<strong>It sounds like they were not planning on this, but that's the only way I see this as bad timing (for them not you). You need to continue thinking in line with the first part of this sentence and forget the second part.
</strong>
I swear if she births this child on my wedding day & his whole family leaves our wedding for her to go have a baby I will die! Now I'm really kicking myself about not eloping.
<strong>I doubt the entire family will leave your wedding to go to the hospital in the middle of your ceremony. In fact, I'd be willing to bet they'll stay for the party and wait until sometime after your wedding to visit. Most new parents don't want millions of visitors in the short time right after having a baby.
</strong>
<strong>And look at the bright side, if they do all leave, it'll be closer to that elopement you wanted.

</strong>Too late now, all of the deposits are all down, what's done is done. I'm just soooo mad! Obviously I can't do anything but how do I deal & try to be positive about this?! Help!
<strong>Yes, be positive. There is no reason to be otherwise. This is a great thing for you and your new family.</strong>
Posted by AngelzM28[/QUOTE]

number55 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_wedding-stressfuture-sil-stealing-limelight?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:afab6b6f-12c0-4993-84e9-dcb89a36bf42Post:a30db9e8-d0da-4f5b-ac2d-c143147eee43">Re: Wedding stress/Future SIL stealing my limelight!</a>:
[QUOTE]Don't be resentful of others and feel sorry for yourself because they are carrying on with their lives.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

<div>This.</div><div>
</div><div>I don't understand why you think that your day means the rest of the world needs to stop turning. I don't understand why any bride thinks that. </div><div>
</div><div>Yes it is your wedding day. You will look lovely, so will your bridal party hopefully, and all the men dressed up in tuxes. Everyone will still oohhh and ahhh...even if your your FSIL has her baby before the wedding or even if she is there and about to burst (sorry if that image is disturbing, you know what I mean)...and yes, people will speak to her if she is there and they will talk to her about the baby. That doesn't mean that you aren't still the centre of attention. Really, if your wedding 'event' is about 6 hours long, do you really think people will be thinking about nothing other than you? </div><div>
</div><div>And please remember that the point of a wedding day is the marriage that follows...I hear (sorry, read) the word marriage so little on TK...everything is about the wedding and so little is about what comes after. If your FSIL has her baby on the day of your wedding, will that make your whole marriage any less amazing? </div><div>
</div><div>Finally, things only affect them if you let them...beatles kind of alluded to this...don't feel sorry for yourself. It really does reflect poorly. I know you came here to vent and I understand that you are frustrated and clearly not happy with the way things have worked out but really, it the greater scheme of things, shouldn't you be excited about your new future nephew/niece?</div>

luckyme502 · April 2010

First of all, it was your decision to wait to get engaged until after their wedding. You could have gotten engaged while they were engaged, so that is on you.

Second, are you serious? Your FSIL is having a baby. I'm sorry she didn't consult you before she had sex with her husband, but I bet she was unaware she needed your permission. Maybe you should tell her that in the future all reproductive functions between her and her husband need to be ran by you to make sure they don't interfere with your plans for your life.

tidetravel · April 2010

::Sigh::

Clearly the solution here is to go ahead and get pregnant now. That way you'll one up her! You'll be getting married AND pregnant.

There is a bride on this board who's FSIL was a total cow about the fact that one of her relatives, a BM, was pregnant and due around the wedding. She kicked the BM out of the wedding and guess what? Karma kicked into full gear and she went into labor right there at the wedding. Half the family followed her to the hospital. Stop being bitch.

Babies trump weddings. Everytime.

PharmacyBride · April 2010

I just want to let you know my brother and his wife are pregnant and their original due date was my actual wedding day. I will be very sad if they couldn't be there- because I always looked up to my big bro- but I am SOOOOO HAPPY FOR THEM!!

You can't expect people to put their lives on hold! I don't care if the baby was a surprise or planned- they aren't going to wait a whole year to start their family.

I know exactly what it is like to have a family member pregnant and due around your wedding day - and I am telling your reaction is very inappropriate. Are they really suppose to coordinate having kids around a wedding- it is ONE day.

BTW... you and your FH didn't have to wait to get engaged. You chose to wait.. but the rest of the world won't go on pause for you.

MeaghanandMichael · April 2010

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[QUOTE] Apparently I am being a big b*tch. I can't help how I feel, regardless of how stupid or selfish it may seem to all of you. Sorry I posted a blog. Thnx for your honest responses. Now I wish I could delete this for making myself like such a jerk....
Posted by AngelzM28[/QUOTE]

There is a difference between hearing the news, thinking about how it will effect you wedding/pouting a bit to FI, and coming on here like a raving lunatic.

[Deleted User] · April 2010

Yay! She called it a blog. We have an instant winner.

xoxob · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_wedding-stressfuture-sil-stealing-limelight?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:afab6b6f-12c0-4993-84e9-dcb89a36bf42Post:1a943a59-1540-4385-9096-fea8dd13749c">Re: Wedding stress/Future SIL stealing my limelight!</a>:
[QUOTE] Stop being bitch. Babies trump weddings. Everytime.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

A crying baby is waaay cuter than a crying bride.

beatlesgirl25 · April 2010

ANGELZM28: First off, you can't delete your post because it's been quoted multiple times. I can't tell if you're being facetious or insightful in what you typed in place of the OP, but there were some honest and not unkind responses in this thread. I don't envy being in your shoes and being confronted with the idea that you're being incredibly selfish. Maybe you should leave this thread for now and revisit it once you have had time to process it. Good luck!

emarston1 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_wedding-stressfuture-sil-stealing-limelight?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:afab6b6f-12c0-4993-84e9-dcb89a36bf42Post:cf8780f3-cbfa-4f26-887b-0cb8a8c87757">Re: -</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to - : There is a difference between hearing the news, thinking about how it will effect you wedding/pouting a bit to FI, and coming on here like a raving lunatic.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

This exactly. Put it much better than I could.

Blueyed228 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_wedding-stressfuture-sil-stealing-limelight?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:afab6b6f-12c0-4993-84e9-dcb89a36bf42Post:cf8780f3-cbfa-4f26-887b-0cb8a8c87757">Re: -</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to - : There is a difference between hearing the news, thinking about how it will effect you wedding/pouting a bit to FI, and coming on here like a raving lunatic.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

This. I did this exact thing yesterday.

FI's best friend (GM) told us yesterday that they are pregnant and the due date is my wedding date. Lol.

I guess it doesnt help that I hate this girl, lol. But I mean really. Married people have babies. And since I cant stand her (loathe is a better word), maybe she will have the baby the day before or something and have to stay home, haha!

FI's friend was like "I wouldnt miss your wedding for the world" and unless she gives birth that day, I know he will show up. And if he cant, I know he will have wanted to be there.

Its only human to have yourself a 4 minute long private pity party. But really, its no big deal. Be happy for them. Babies are a special thing. You should be understanding. Its not like they did it just to "ruin your day".

MeaghanandMichael · April 2010

btw- Blueeyeed, does you dress have sleeves or not? The two pics are confuzzling me.

Blueyed228 · April 2010

The come off. I am wearing them for the ceremony. Then taking them off for the reception.

MeaghanandMichael · April 2010

Very cool! I can't even decide which way I like it better. Both are very pretty.

Blueyed228 · April 2010

I couldnt decide either, lol, so I went with both. Plus, I think the church would rather me keep the sleeves on. Im pretty boob-a-licious so the least I can do is cover my shoulders, lol

Lenore2010 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_wedding-stressfuture-sil-stealing-limelight?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:afab6b6f-12c0-4993-84e9-dcb89a36bf42Post:8b965f8f-47b1-4911-8eda-0ac43a3c3154">Re: -</a>:
[QUOTE]I couldnt decide either, lol, so I went with both. Plus, I think the church would rather me keep the sleeves on. Im pretty boob-a-licious so the least I can do is cover my shoulders, lol
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Is this dress by chance Maggie Sottero's "Ambrosia"? It is absolutely beautiful. It looks a lot like that style if it is something different!

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annmarie2178 · April 2010

The coolest thing that could happen with this IMO is the evil hag SIL's water breaks, JUST as the officiant says the "speak now or forever hold your peace" part. Because you know she wouldn't be able to wait 10 more minutes before she was yelling about it if she couldn't wait til she was 5-6 months preggo before telling the family....the ridiculous witch.

<<this is sarcasm

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