Paying Vendors and tipping day of wedding

DianaB312 · September 2012

I understand that I need make envelopes for the vendors with the money owed to them included (and tips if gratuity is not included in their service). But cash or check? Thanks!

arendiva · September 2012

For safety reasons I would say check. That way if it got lost in the mail you could just cancel the check and send out a new one.

DianaB312 · September 2012

I Forgot to mention I meant, day-of tips or payment. But very true! I would never put cash in the mail, too risky!

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[QUOTE]For safety reasons I would say check. That way if it got lost in the mail you could just cancel the check and send out a new one.
Posted by arendiva[/QUOTE]

achiduck · September 2012

If it's day of payment most vendors will want cash or a bank draft. They don't like to take the risk that a cheque could bounce. Any vendors I have to pay the day off have all said cash.

Do you have a DOC that can be responisble for handing out the payments? If not, I would make sure yourself, your FI or someone you trust (like a parent or MOH/BM) are the ones handing out payments.

Maggie0829 · September 2012

I would still suggest a check. That way if the vendor misplaces it then you can cancel it and resend them a new one.

Meegles4 · September 2012

We did cash. My DOC gave them the envelopes at some point during the wedding day.

One side note, I set up all my tips pre-wedding, and part of me wishes I would have tipped post wedding (and thus I could've sent a check). I had a vendor (my DJ), that I likely would've tipped less because they screwed up a couple things. However, since I'd already set everything aside and handed it off, there wasn't much I could do.

daria24 · September 2012

I gave them payments via check, and tipped in cash. I did cash tips because in some cases (like the catering staff) they were splitting the tips amongst several people.

rachelm13 · September 2012

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[QUOTE]We did cash. My DOC gave them the envelopes at some point during the wedding day. One side note, I set up all my tips pre-wedding, and part of me wishes I would have tipped post wedding (and thus I could've sent a check). I had a vendor (my DJ), that I likely would've tipped less because they screwed up a couple things. However, since I'd already set everything aside and handed it off, there wasn't much I could do.
Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]

even though i was not the OP, this is a total helpful suggestion to keep in case of excellent service or... less...

s-aries8990 · September 2012

I'd check with the vendor on whether or not they accept personal checks; checks are safer for you, but not necessarily for the vendor.

daria24 · September 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Paying Vendors and tipping day of wedding : Many contracts provide for generous service charges or gratuities to serving staff.
Posted by NYUgirl100[/QUOTE]

<div>And in my case, my contract didn't provide gratuity to the catering staff (nor did any of my vendor contracts include gratuity). OP needs to check her contract to see if she is already paying gratuity.</div>

QueerFemme · September 2012

none of my vendors will take a check on the day off. All require cash for final payments.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · September 2012

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[QUOTE]I gave them payments via check, and tipped in cash. I did cash tips because in some cases (like the catering staff) they were splitting the tips amongst several people.
Posted by daria24[/QUOTE]

Same.

Also, I did not hand out one of the tips I had planned due to extremely poor service.

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