Our wedding is in June, so we haven't registered yet, but the subject came up the other day. FI doesn't seem to understand why I want to register for certain things (towels, sheets, kitchen supplies) because "we already have those." I nicely explained that our towels will old and worn out, and it's always nice to have extra sets of sheets, especially for when we get a house and furnish extra bedrooms. And as far as the kitchen stuff, I'm the one that does 99% of the cooking and the majority of our kitchen supplies came from FI's mom (he moved into his condo 6 months before we even met). The stuff his mom bought him isn't bad and I've been using it for the 2 years we have lived together, but being that I am the main cook in the house there are certain brands I like to use and would like to upgrade some of our kitchen tools. But he still doesn't seem to get it. I'm worried that when it actually comes time to register he's going to shoot down a lot of the stuff I want to get.
So what do I do? Add to the registry later on when he's not with me? I know that's super deceitful, but I think it's pretty stupid for us to have buy new towels and sheets and for me to restock our kitchen over time with stuff I want (which he probably wouldn't realize if I did purchase new kitchen stuff on my own since he's not very kitchen involved) when there is an opportunity to give our guests a chance to purchase those things for us so we'll have them on hand already when they are needed.
so, any advice? I don't think this is necessary about poor communication, as it's not like we had an argument over it or anything, he just doesn't see a need to ask for things that we already have, even if those are things that will wear out over time and need to be replaced.